Hey Jake,
I struggled with the same issue for a while. Took me a while to figure out why, but finally concluded that it has to do with stereotypes. In common parlance, introvert = soft, meek, shy. This is worlds away from what science says, which is, introvert = extra sensitive to dopamine, adrenaline etc.
Considering you're on this forum, and having seen a few posts from you in the past, I highly doubt you're the former. Nonetheless, how I solved it was by taking pride in my cool, calm energy, while ensuring that I was being social (something I found unnaturally difficult). If you still are victim to sly comments, perhaps you can try adopting a high class/high status demeanor around your attackers. You know, traces of aggression tempered by poise, stillness and silence.
Few tweaks which helped me allay the same worry. Hope they help
Good luck buddy
valence
PS: Check out Chase's post on low energy vs. high energy, on the boards. Cool info there
I struggled with the same issue for a while. Took me a while to figure out why, but finally concluded that it has to do with stereotypes. In common parlance, introvert = soft, meek, shy. This is worlds away from what science says, which is, introvert = extra sensitive to dopamine, adrenaline etc.
Considering you're on this forum, and having seen a few posts from you in the past, I highly doubt you're the former. Nonetheless, how I solved it was by taking pride in my cool, calm energy, while ensuring that I was being social (something I found unnaturally difficult). If you still are victim to sly comments, perhaps you can try adopting a high class/high status demeanor around your attackers. You know, traces of aggression tempered by poise, stillness and silence.
Few tweaks which helped me allay the same worry. Hope they help
Good luck buddy
valence
PS: Check out Chase's post on low energy vs. high energy, on the boards. Cool info there
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I think it's far more acceptable in our generation (early to late 20s, maybe early 30s) to be introverted. People seem to talk about it more freely, unabashedly claiming to curl up in their bed and watch Netflix and daydrink alone in their free time. But I feel the same way you do: when someone has no shame in broadcasting that to the world, I want little to do with that person. But here, we're on a mission to distance ourselves from that lifestyle - many of us having lived it at some point and no longer wanting to - and we've ingrained it in ourselves to hate the cancerous behavior when we see it.
I think another part of it has to do with unfulfilled desires. Even though it's super common and acceptable for people to live that way, I can't think of very many who do that are truly happy with their lives. I think they fell into that due to not knowing what they want to do or not seizing the day and taking necessary action to make it happen. And I think now they're afraid that's what life is going to be like forever and they hate it, so to feel better they do what's comfortable - which is continue to stay a shut-in and numb the pain with XYZ.
So it could be our perception of introversion, or it could be the negativity that tends to follow introverts around. Probably a bit of both.
I think another part of it has to do with unfulfilled desires. Even though it's super common and acceptable for people to live that way, I can't think of very many who do that are truly happy with their lives. I think they fell into that due to not knowing what they want to do or not seizing the day and taking necessary action to make it happen. And I think now they're afraid that's what life is going to be like forever and they hate it, so to feel better they do what's comfortable - which is continue to stay a shut-in and numb the pain with XYZ.
So it could be our perception of introversion, or it could be the negativity that tends to follow introverts around. Probably a bit of both.