Why making quality friends is HUGE and where to find em, lets talk!

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

This discussion and guide is more for post-grads as opposed to high school and college kids.

Imagine if your friends were like Dan Bilzerian, getting laid would not even be an issue for you. Unfortunately, there are not that many Dan Bilzerians out there. To make matters worse, from my own experience, having success with women is a major setback in terms of friendships. The truth is, most of the friends you had through your life will likely not want the best for you. Your friends prefer that you spend Friday night playing PS4 with them rather than spending a Friday night out at bars or getting laid. Unless you were a stud before coming here, you likely didn't have the right kinds of friends.

The reason I made this guide for post-grads is because that is when the world becomes confusing. In high school, be popular and you will make the right friends. In college, rush the right fraternity or play a sport, and you will make the right friends. Most the times in these closed environments, it is easy to pick out which guys are getting laid based on there only being so many people around and seeing who gets the hot girls to come to them. Plus, that sense of community is still around in the college days while post grad life can vary for so many other people.

Now you've made the transition and bettered your life, some of your "friends" who knew you growing up have grown a bit jealous and have slowly started to become a setback on your life. They make passive aggressive attacks on your progress and try to hold you back.

You need better friends.

You chase girls and they don't care if you chase girls, some might actually be down to be your wingman.

You aren't married at 30 and they don't care, they aren't completely against your bachelor lifestyle.

You need better friends.

It's a Friday night? They want to hit the bars with you instead of playing PS4.

New Year's Eve? Party at their place with some cute girls invited.

Single? They know of a girl who has a thing for you.

As much as I love cold approaching, I don't do it too much anymore. To me, it has always seemed somewhat unnatural but I have done it on some occasions.

How to get better friends?

I have not completely gotten down to it yet but from my experience, high quality friends are made in physical activities and social sports. Joined MMA recently and I have a good wingman now to game girls with. The guy has better game than I do and has improved my game. It beats me having to deal with the loser friends I used to have.

One other hobby that has helped me is intramural sports, soccer mainly.

More advice would be appreciated.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Fuji Follower,

More of finding adventurous friends if you want to be adventurous.

I like to correct you where you say your friends doesn't want the best of you. Sure, our parents and friends are "fuck up". but there is also more of like this quote.

"The ladder you climb to where you are is not the ladder you climb to move forward"

Your parents raise you but to date girls and bring back to their homes is a clash of legacy and authority. You might have a daughter someday but your wife wants your dick, and your daughter learns to grow and desire another man's dick instead of her father.

So yea, find friends who are "cool", but also realize that we operate like atoms. Once we conform, there's a certain time limit as to how far it can go. For marriage, it can be 6 months to a year. For auto-rejection, it can be 5 seconds to one night in a club.

Life is constantly changing. We do need to change our friends everytime. Doesn't mean that our past friends suck. It is just that we are on different paths, unless you are running a business and while you tell customers that you moving towards PG instead of M18, people will still hate you and that is unavoidable.

My thoughts

Zac