- Joined
- Nov 7, 2019
- Messages
- 687
TLDR: improve your ability to spot quality instead of relying on status markers. You'll get better outcomes for less effort.
Long version:
I've had this concept in my head in a while and this is as good of a place as any to share...
Status used to keep us alive. Now it mostly keeps us distracted.
When we lived in hunter-gatherer societies, status was crucial to survival. If you were accepted and respected within the group, you’d be first in line for the resources that society gathered. Status also acted as a signal of quality, and over time, people began equating status with genuine value.
The problem today is that modern status signals have been hacked to shortcut quality, and those shortcuts are often false. Our brains haven’t caught up. We still respond to symbols of prestige because of social proof, dopamine rewards, and fear of exclusion. These instincts once kept us safe but now keep us blindly consuming or working for things that aren't important.
For example, a brand might price its clothes at a premium, yet the actual quality is mediocre.
Or, in status-driven industries like PR or fashion, employers can underpay staff because workers feel they’re being compensated in status. The same thing happens when a household-name company underpays by 30 to 40 percent below market rate simply because people want the association of working for that company.
In my opinion, this is complete madness. Our evolutionary wiring hasn’t updated to modern conditions. Instead of chasing status, which society uses to keep you trapped chasing things you don't need or want, we should train ourselves to evaluate quality in and of itself. To my brand example, see how high-quality a T-shirt is based on the durability of materials, craftmanship in creation and consistency of the brand's previous products.
The upside of this is huge. You start seeing when a status marker actually reflects real quality and when it doesn’t. You also uncover underrated, hidden gems others overlook, gaining an edge. e.g. a new brand with high quality but relatively low priced products.
For example, you might be using a popular, bloated piece of software because it’s the industry standard. Then you discover a little-known alternative that’s faster, cheaper, and equally reliable. In that scenario, it makes complete sense to jump ship because real performance always outweighs perceived prestige.
How does this relate to girls?
You most likely desire the “hard to get” flashy girls who aren’t neccessarily who you find genuinely attractive. Learn to slow down and listen to yourself not outside noise to truly confirm if something is for you or not.
Girlschase has written about passing up the hottest, coolest girls because they aren't flashy but something not spoken about is
Getting beautiful girls in uncommon relationship types e.g. one sided monogamy or live-in relationship but no marriage.
Your "high status" baroness may dismiss this immediately but your equally attractive, intelligent, independent and caring "nobody" girl?
She'll be happy to proceed and you get what you want with no trade off... Besides status off course
but in 2025 who cares?
Who should focus on status?
I've seen this from friend's of mine, some guys are just wired and obsesed with status. I think it's crazy but each to their own. Some guys genuinely will stop finding a girl attractive if their friends say she's unattractive lol. Or even find a girl average but call her hot if others think she is...
BAAH BAAH Sheep. But I'll make that the end of my biases.
If in your heart of heart you can't forgo status do your thing, but just make sure you apply due diligence to ensure it's actually quality too.
Onwards & Upwards x
Long version:
I've had this concept in my head in a while and this is as good of a place as any to share...
Status used to keep us alive. Now it mostly keeps us distracted.
When we lived in hunter-gatherer societies, status was crucial to survival. If you were accepted and respected within the group, you’d be first in line for the resources that society gathered. Status also acted as a signal of quality, and over time, people began equating status with genuine value.
The problem today is that modern status signals have been hacked to shortcut quality, and those shortcuts are often false. Our brains haven’t caught up. We still respond to symbols of prestige because of social proof, dopamine rewards, and fear of exclusion. These instincts once kept us safe but now keep us blindly consuming or working for things that aren't important.
For example, a brand might price its clothes at a premium, yet the actual quality is mediocre.
Or, in status-driven industries like PR or fashion, employers can underpay staff because workers feel they’re being compensated in status. The same thing happens when a household-name company underpays by 30 to 40 percent below market rate simply because people want the association of working for that company.
In my opinion, this is complete madness. Our evolutionary wiring hasn’t updated to modern conditions. Instead of chasing status, which society uses to keep you trapped chasing things you don't need or want, we should train ourselves to evaluate quality in and of itself. To my brand example, see how high-quality a T-shirt is based on the durability of materials, craftmanship in creation and consistency of the brand's previous products.
The upside of this is huge. You start seeing when a status marker actually reflects real quality and when it doesn’t. You also uncover underrated, hidden gems others overlook, gaining an edge. e.g. a new brand with high quality but relatively low priced products.
For example, you might be using a popular, bloated piece of software because it’s the industry standard. Then you discover a little-known alternative that’s faster, cheaper, and equally reliable. In that scenario, it makes complete sense to jump ship because real performance always outweighs perceived prestige.
How does this relate to girls?
You most likely desire the “hard to get” flashy girls who aren’t neccessarily who you find genuinely attractive. Learn to slow down and listen to yourself not outside noise to truly confirm if something is for you or not.
Girlschase has written about passing up the hottest, coolest girls because they aren't flashy but something not spoken about is
Getting beautiful girls in uncommon relationship types e.g. one sided monogamy or live-in relationship but no marriage.
Your "high status" baroness may dismiss this immediately but your equally attractive, intelligent, independent and caring "nobody" girl?
She'll be happy to proceed and you get what you want with no trade off... Besides status off course
but in 2025 who cares?Who should focus on status?
I've seen this from friend's of mine, some guys are just wired and obsesed with status. I think it's crazy but each to their own. Some guys genuinely will stop finding a girl attractive if their friends say she's unattractive lol. Or even find a girl average but call her hot if others think she is...
BAAH BAAH Sheep. But I'll make that the end of my biases.
If in your heart of heart you can't forgo status do your thing, but just make sure you apply due diligence to ensure it's actually quality too.
Onwards & Upwards x
