Why "You're Single Right?" Is Better

[foggy]

Ricardus taught us to use the line, "Are you single?" This is a great way to be verbally direct with women, however I feel like there’s a smooth way to go about asking this. This involves rephrasing it to, "You're single, right?"

Lately I have been using "You're single, right?" in my conversations with women. Of course, we want to make things as easy for women as possible and get them taking the path of least resistance. If she is single then its incredibly easy for her to say “yes” and you can continue on with the conversation. She'd be going against the flow of the current by saying no.

Personally I like to drop it in towards the middle of the conversation after I've been chatting with her a bit. I recommend saying it like you were assuming she was single, but you're just double checking.

 

[Franco]

backstory,

I like your amendment to this one. "Are you single?" has always felt a bit off to me, and it was never one of my favorite openers -- probably because of the reason you mentioned: it makes the path of least resistance ambiguous, and for most women, the easier path might be just to potentially lie and say they have a boyfriend (since saying "no, I don't" requires them to put themselves out there a bit for you).

"You are single, right?" is a great way to change the emphasis here and make the path of least resistance fall onto "yes, I am!"

Great little change to a good technique here that can be applied immediately!

Cheers!

- Franco

 

[Grand Pooba]

I am assuming you're putting this into the conversation and not using this as your opener? Or are you opening with this?

I use "Are you single?" As my opener from time to time.

 

[Rakkum]

What if the woman has a boyfriend but is still interested in a fling with you? Wouldn't "Are you single?", as an opener or otherwise backfire?

 

[foggy]

I like your amendment to this one./quote]

thanx bad boy

I am assuming you're putting this into the conversation and not using this as your opener? Or are you opening with this?

either or, whatever you want really...sure is nice to go in direct when she's giving you AIs though isn't it?

What if the woman has a boyfriend but is still interested in a fling with you? Wouldn't "Are you single?", as an opener or otherwise backfire?

if a woman has a boyfriend and you ask her if she's single, she might say no. However this is not always a deal breaker. It's important to never take what a woman says at face value. If she says she's not single but she hangs around and is receptive to your advances, then definitely keep escalating.

There's also the chance that women will lie about their relationship status, especially if you have better fundamentals than their boyfriend and you present yourself as a discreet lover. I had this happen to me recently with a married woman. However... I asked her, "you're single, right?" in the middle of the conversation, not at the start, and she said yes. I ended up hooking up with her a week later.

You can read the report here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=16520

 

[foggy]

I like your amendment to this one.

thanx bad boy

I am assuming you're putting this into the conversation and not using this as your opener? Or are you opening with this?

either or, whatever you want really...sure is nice to go in direct when she's giving you AIs though isn't it?

What if the woman has a boyfriend but is still interested in a fling with you? Wouldn't "Are you single?", as an opener or otherwise backfire?

if a woman has a boyfriend and you ask her if she's single, she might say no. However this is not always a deal breaker. It's important to never take what a woman says at face value. If she says she's not single but she hangs around and is receptive to your advances, then definitely keep escalating.

There's also the chance that women will lie about their relationship status, especially if you have better fundamentals than their boyfriend and you present yourself as a discreet lover. I had this happen to me recently with a married woman. However... I asked her, "you're single, right?" in the middle of the conversation, not at the start, and she said yes. I ended up hooking up with her a week later.

You can read the report here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=16520

 

[Richard]

I think the delivery will be more key with this slight tweak - turning a question into an assumption has more potential to be off-putting and can yield more negative reactions as a result so that's something to be a little weary of but if the delivery matches then I like the slight tweak.

An extreme example would be something like:

"Backstory, you're a Yu-Gi-Oh fanboy, right?" vs. "Are you a Yu-Gi-Oh fanboy?" Both of them probably get you to think something like "Why does he think that?" but the former is a bit more intense and the latter feels more innocent. The plus side is that when the delivery is proper the former becomes more potent. I like high-risk high-reward, though!

-Richard

 

[Rakkum]

If she says she's not single but she hangs around and is receptive to your advances, then definitely keep escalating.

Thanks for pointing that out. I kind of knew that but haven't internalized as a mindset, so to say.