Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up?

[Brentwoodbam]

I finally got my chance with this HB9 I work with and have been courting for a while. She invited me over to her place to be alone with a bottle of liquor and movies. Shortly after arriving, we were down to our undergarments and going through pretty intense foreplay. Earlier in the day, prior to receiving her invitation I actually had just finished fapping for the second time (I have vowed to a no-fap regimen from this experience, as well as kegel exercises.). Soon after, I had finger-banged the fuck out of her til she was clinching me and she even got a nice little squirt going. By this time, I had already worn myself out and my forearms felt like jell-o. That, mixed with the potential of some anxiety and having already masturbated twice that day, proved fatal as I could not get hard to save my life. She was pretty understanding, and we had a good night overall.

With that being said, have you guys ever had this problem? And if so, are women somewhat open to giving you another shot? I'm somewhat inclined to think she was fairly happy considering her eyes were in the back of her skull due to intense finger-fuck and agressive spanking.

Any responses are appreciated, thanks guys
Brentwood

Edit: Oh, and any tips for getting hard and staying hard are encouraged as well

 

[Franco]

Re: Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up

Brentwood,

Unfortunately, nothing solidifies the deal quite like putting your penis in her. Just about any other type of foreplay she can write off as something else, but you never really "seal the deal" until you've penetrated her with your cock.

However, that's not to SAY that every bit as far as you get before that point increases your chances of her wanting to see you again as well as her wanting to have sex with you. If her responses seem very warm during the week, then try to set up another meet as soon as possible and close the deal. You're better off being inside her for a couple minutes and ejaculating too quickly than you are not being inside her at all.

Don't fap before this one!

- Franco

 

[Brentwoodbam]

Re: Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up

Thanks for the reply, a follow-up question I have is this: In the coming days, if I do get the necessary warmth for another potential meet, should I bring up the fact that I am confident that I can fulfill the next time, or is that implied with the scheduling of a meet?

 

[Brentwoodbam]

Re: Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up

Bumping for insight on potential ways to frame the future interactions after the mishaps prior during sex, i.e. not getting it up!

 

[Chase]

Re: Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up

should I bring up the fact that I am confident that I can fulfill the next time, or is that implied with the scheduling of a meet?

Never talk about your sexual prowess with a woman you haven't already displayed it for in full force - women always assume the opposite is the case. Men who've got it don't flaunt it, they just use it. Men who flaunt it don't got it.

Just meet her and be your usual sexy self and act like nothing bad ever happened.

And next time, make sure your soldier stands at attention.

For getting hard... depends how much you like this girl, how much you trust her, and how paranoid you are, but the easiest way I've found is just stick your penis sans condom even if it's soft. Once it's in, and has a warm, wet, soft vagina around it, it'll get hard pretty quick.

The other way that's quite reliable - once she's already very horny from you stimulating her manually, take out your limp penis and tell her, "I need you to get me ready," and lay back to let her orally service you. Then don't worry about anything - if you need 20 minutes to get hard, you take 20 minutes to get hard. She wants you in her, she'll do what she needs to do to get you to that point. You just focus on experiencing how it feels - how her mouth feels sliding up and down you, the warmth, the wetness.

Chase

 

[girlsfollow]

Re: Will women give you another go if you couldn't get it up

For getting hard... depends how much you like this girl, how much you trust her, and how paranoid you are, but the easiest way I've found is just stick your penis sans condom even if it's soft. Once it's in, and has a warm, wet, soft vagina around it, it'll get hard pretty quick.

The other way that's quite reliable - once she's already very horny from you stimulating her manually, take out your limp penis and tell her, "I need you to get me ready," and lay back to let her orally service you. Then don't worry about anything - if you need 20 minutes to get hard, you take 20 minutes to get hard. She wants you in her, she'll do what she needs to do to get you to that point. You just focus on experiencing how it feels - how her mouth feels sliding up and down you, the warmth, the wetness.

Chase

Couldn't agree more, I find this is more of a psychological/stimulation thing rather than a problem with your machinery. Psychologically you need to get all downers out the way - condoms - time pressure - performance pressure.... stimulation as chase said - those are two methods you need to use and be patient with yourself - there isn't a rush - just take your time. Oh and never ever fap from 3 days before - even better not at all - it changes your whole system and as you see, the best opportunities I find are spontaneous so you can never plan 3 days ahead so just stop -its awesome and worth it. I find watching/reading porn with the girls is the best way to motivate me with this.