Women you DON'T want to see again: How to treat them tactfully before/after sex?

[The Byronic Man]

So you meet a woman...either at the club, street, or online. You go on a date and realize you only want to give her one night of fun. How do you treat her so she doesn't expect anything more than that night? I just slept with a woman I'm afraid of hurting. I could just tell her honestly, but I'd still don't know how to say it tactfully like a gentleman. She spent the night with me, and we had some pillow talk, which I'm concerned has set the wrong expectation.

 

[The Byronic Man]

Re: Women you DON'T want to see again: How to treat them tactfully before/after

I didn't want to burn any bridges, so I just texted her, "Just woke up. Just wanted to tell you that I had a great time last night, [her name]."

That way, I'm cementing any good feelings (might be too late since I was a little bit cold in the morning, but this is a good habit I want to get into anyway), but I'm not suggesting I'd like to see her again.

Is it even necessary to communicate to her that I don't want to see her again in case that's her plan?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: Women you DON'T want to see again: How to treat them tactfully before/after

The B Man,

Is it even necessary to communicate to her that I don't want to see her again in case that's her plan?

Don't communicate that you don't want to see her anymore. That hurts women a lot, it's like a slash to her ego, herself as a women. It's like being used.

Zac

 

[Franco]

Re: Women you DON'T want to see again: How to treat them tactfully before/after

TBM,

I didn't want to burn any bridges, so I just texted her, "Just woke up. Just wanted to tell you that I had a great time last night, [her name]."

That way, I'm cementing any good feelings (might be too late since I was a little bit cold in the morning, but this is a good habit I want to get into anyway), but I'm not suggesting I'd like to see her again.

Is it even necessary to communicate to her that I don't want to see her again in case that's her plan?

That's pretty much all you need to do. Then you just don't invite her to see you again. If you wish to somehow keep her platonically as a friend, you can try inviting her to a social gathering with your friends and then not take her home with you so that she sees it as one night of passion and fun, but you can't count on it to always go this way. If she was a friend beforehand, it's more likely to stick. But if she was a random acquaintance, she may not be comfortable with it. So in most cases, it's best to just not contact her again after the text you sent about having a great time.

NOTE: A "smiley" emoticon at the end of that last text would probably help set the tone of it as well (and show warmth).

- Franco