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Worst slump of ma life! Climaxed with performance anxiety! Any advice?

Fluxcapacitor

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Sup ma dudes!

So lately yah Ive had the worst slump of ma life! So when a had a girlfriend a was always attracting girls some even better than ma girl and a kept ma game on point but never cemented these girls with a lay. A wasnt at the point of her being fine for me playing about an so a was keeping loyal. A got dumped back end of november like 7 weeks ago cause of issues with her friends but thats by tha by yah? Anyway ya a wasnt bothered an thought this will be good for me an gives me the chance with the better opportunities a got to find that a had no opportunities!!!

A hit a slump, a found it hard to attract girls an whenever a did it just ended. There friend would drag them of or they were only here visiting for christmas an obviously werent attracted enough to me to hook up in the short time. No worries, these are all little hurdles anyway yah? A will find someone who is attracted eventually, a might have missed outon the rebound phase which was kinda frustrating after reading that rebound sex can be really easy to get. A find ma confidence must have been shot cause nothing was working for the life of ma!! Yah?

So last night a though a was finally over the slump, A met the hottest girl have ever met an run ma game as standard an everything fell in place. A got her turned on, moved her, got a bit of last minute resistance when a tried to get her to leave but when a gave her an excuse to see ma car she gave in an came with me. It was ON!! or so a thought...

A see a few issues that messed me up here, it was ma first time for a ONS, it was ma first time in a car an that backseat was small!!! Her phone kept going of with her friends callin her an all the time a was SOFT!!! A couldnt get it up, she was hot as hell, a wanted to fuck her so much but A was soft. A cant say why a couldnt perform, was it ma brain tellin me shes too drunk where i hadnt been drinking? Was a too busy calculating cause a didnt expect it to go that fast? was a just to nervous to perform with her being hot as hell?!? was it the car? the ONS itself? No idea dudes but whatever a tried A failed big time!!! Yah?

Ma concern here is with ma ex a noticed a had problems getting it up the first time, but a managed to get it up an do it. It was shit to ma normal performance but a corrected that going forward but theres no do over with a ONS!! She was expecting the sexy man that pulled her from the club to finish an a couldnt start. Total gun shy!! Its obviously psychological but how do a get round this?!?! When a finally got it up yah? it went in an then immidiately went soft! WHat the absoloute fuck?!?

A read chases article after ma first time with ma ex on how ta beat it an it worked when A was with her the next time. A tried everything from that article but could not get rid of the thoughts in ma head yah?!? A took forever, we were in the car for over 2 hours!! A gave a good show with ma hands an goin down on her an managed to get her of multiple times but it wasnt tha fucking we both wanted yah??

Dudes got any ideas??
 
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Fluxcapacitor

Tribal Elder
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Sup dudes!

A missed out some variables earlier. So have been single for 7 weeks ish an a noticed shortly after a was thinking a was losing ma sex drive!! A went from randomly getting erect at night for no reason to nothing. A thought maybe just cause a wasnt getting sex or just hanging out with a girl that excited me regularly that was why it wasnt there but it started to bother me that a went from being horny (even before her) to being like an amusement park after its closed an empty yah?

So in a bid to reclaim ma horny self an struggling with ma slump when a got back from failed encounters to get anywhere with girls for a few weeks a started to watch porn an get maself of. The past 3 or 4 nights straight have watched porn an the night before a met this gorgeous girl a got maself of twice an again once the morning of. AM thinking this could have contributed to ma lack of performance?? yah?

A wanted to keep sexual so that a didnt cum to quickly the next time a was with a girl but if this is a issue it back fired big time yah?!?!

Am keeping of porn an getting maself of for the next couple days before a go out this weekend. Should a try an recreate last night an go for another ONS an see if without porn am better or should a not risk it? A mean if a choke again?? A dunno how a can gain experience of ONS to be comfortable with them without actually doing them? Again in chases article bout it can help havin an experimental girlfriend yah?? it can but its best to be lover to boyfriend not be a boyfriend so ya guarantee yaself another shott!!!

A keep chewing maself out for not performing last night!! The worst thing is, replaying it in ma head is thinking bout her being there ready to fuck is turning me on!!! how fucked up is that?!?! yah?!?! A day to fucking late!!!! A seriously dont want these bad experiences to be a self coming conclusion cause have already lost it mentally?!?! A cant go a month or two with this to get over it A just need it done!

Thanks dudes!
 
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