Worth it to Keep Asking?

[Doctor]

I have a girl who came into my social circle (different one to the last post haha) who I asked out straight away and we agreed on a date, logistics were set and we were on for coffee. Unfortunately the very next day I had a close friend pass away and I took it really badly and just took my anger/upset out on everyone I saw, including her when I ran into her the next day. Not surprisingly she later cancelled the date. I tried to re-schedule a couple of weeks later but she came up with some random reasons why she was always busy, a clear signal.

So I stayed at my flat and just hid away from the world for a couple months, just my way of coping with the loss I guess. Anyway I managed to get over it and it has made me a better man and intend to live my life for two people now.

After integrating myself back into my social circle, she was still there. I actually took her aside and told her the whole story about my friends passing, apologised for being an asshole and told her I know it was completely my fault. She said it's not my fault etc and if she had known she would have given me some slack (by the way I know it was my fault, despite what she said, I should learn to handle my emotions better).

So now I have technically asked her out 3 times (1 flake and 2 times she is too busy to reschedule). Normally I would next her, she is very hot but nothing special. However she is now very much in my close social circle so I cannot next her without nexting the entire social circle.

As it stands she is clearly interested. She is young and inexperienced so doesn't hide her indications of interest well at all but every-time she catches herself being obvious she follows up by pulling away HARD. I guess this is pretty normal?

Second problem is she is very reluctant to allow herself to be alone with me. For instance the other day we were walking home together for the first time and we came to the point where we are supposed to go our separate ways. Instead we sat and talked for a good 15 mins about her past and my past, got a deep connection going (thanks Chase for the deep diving technique) she even worked to keep the conversation going. Then all of a sudden it seemed like she realised what was happening, woke from the 'dream' and suddenly she had to go because she was very "busy" that night. I think she does this because she is very attracted to my normal side but she has clearly seen my 'other' side and is worried that that could be the 'real' me?

So anyway, in this situation is it worth persisting? I am going to be seeing her anyway and it will be easy as hell to drop in the occasional "So when are we actually going for this drink then?" during high points in the conversation. However I predict she will put up a lot of resistance, like the other night, due to having seen two sides to me.

So this will be a LOT of work. However it's very hard to put her out of my mind. I see her most days and every time I think "I just really want to fuck her". I know how to get over girls but she is a lot hotter than the girls I am currently sleeping with as I am not skill-full enough to regularly sleep with REALLY hot girls yet, so this makes it harder.

Do I persist? And if not how do I deal with having to see her every day and constantly thinking "I want to fuck you so much!". I know Chase says this problem will go away when I regularly bed hot girls, but until then, what is my best course of action? Even when I am out meeting hot girls I am not bedding them much yet, and I am still seeing her every day.

Cheers
- Doctor

P.S. I guess this situation clearly answers my previous question on abundance, that is, the answer would be not yet!

 

[Talmadge]

I know the feeling of how hard it is to get over hot girls that are well beyond average. As for your suggestion, I think the lets get a drink question is a good way to see how she is reacting. If there is a chance, play your cards close to your vest, and act accordingly. I know this may strike you as common sense, but I have seen many people not do this and blow a great opportunity in doing so. Be careful and try not to invest in this girl if she isn't offering anything back. This is something I've been guilty of on more than one occasion.

Anyways, as for the conversation you've had with her using the deep diving technique, I think you've grasped the problem well. Note this is just my amateur opinion, but continue working that side that she seems to like, and do your best to make her forget about the other one. Anyways, if all else fails, there's plenty of very hot girls to go around who will be waiting. Good luck!