would u go for a girl who has a bf?

[Smith]

Just met a cute girl in my class today. I already knew she has a bf, but since I was sitting next to her, I thought I might as well practice. It ended up pretty well and we exchanged number, but should I try to move things forward? If it was a girl on the street, would u guys till move things forward even if she has a bf?

 

[Light]

Yes I would.

You must play the game differently, and its advance stuff.

 

[Estate]

I think some guys get a buzz from this.

Personally, if she has a boyfriend, I'm just not into it. Sure, there are ways to blow out the boyfriend but with so many girls out there, is it even worth the hassle and drama? Plenty single girls around...

 

[Eternity]

Pretty girls are rarely alone...

- Style

Yeah its advanced stuff, but after you see this situation many times it becomes a regular pick up. You just avoid talking about him and move things forward, escalate ect... If you are thinkink of risking it just avoid being seen holding the girl in public, or meeting the b.f at any cost. If she's down with you touching her in private, u got a green light to move forward but fast or she may regret it.

 

[Clout]

Yes I would.

I used to feel like Estate on this topic. Thought that I wouldn't like it if it happened to me, my views have changed (maybe it will help you decide);

1) If she is taken and happy (considering you are new'ish) she will not let you escalate in most cases. Even inexperienced girls know what alone situations mean.

2) Most women like having the backup of a bf. They line another up before they dismantle the current one - this can be down to multiple reasons e.g. they love sex (SHOCK HORROR) but their friends/parents will judge them for "sleeping" around.

3) THIS IS MOST IMPORTANT; Decide what you want first! I say this because you should imply this to her. I wouldn't want to lie to bed a girl or make promises I can't live up to. I make it clear that I am not in the right place in life for a relationship. Even with my friends with benefits I remind them of this once a month give or take.

4) Even if you wouldn't like your partner to cheat on you, if she is open to it...it will probably happen. The reason I wanted to learn this was to get a truly amazing woman. More importantly, keep her without a headache from male challenges. This means I have to see both sides of the fence.

 

[Estate]

Yes I would.

I used to feel like Estate on this topic. Thought that I wouldn't like it if it happened to me, my views have changed (maybe it will help you decide);.

To be honest, it's not a moral issue for me, nor would I feel bad for the guy.
I can't really feel bad for him because he's not doing good job of being her boyfriend IMO, but maybe a little sorry for him that he doesn't know any better. But beyond that I couldn't care. From a moral standpoint, I would have been firmly against it in the past but these days, also, I just couldn't care, it's more on her than it is on me.

Having said that, the reason I stepped into the thread is WHY do you feel the need to do it?
If it's just for the rush of it, then sure, go ahead, it's not my thing but not for me to judge either. But is it REALY that, is it it just that this is all you've got going on? I mean, this whole site is about finding more and more better quality women. If a woman is already attached when I meet her, she imediately drops a few notches in my book if she is looking to move things forward with me.

It's screening, qualifying, or whatever you want to call it... I screen women for all sorts of things to make sure I'm meeting the right women now, married, attached, or in a relationship is a pretty big sign I can do a lot better. I was with a girl earlier in the year who had a fiance, I didn't know it at the time but as soon as I found out she was cut that instant.

When you can meet and date such great quality women, why on earth would you want someone with such baggage and issues and all the drama it will inevitably bring? I just don't get it.

 

[Clout]

this whole site is about finding more and more better quality women.

I agree with you if I was looking for more than just casual things. That's why #3 is the big one for me, if I was looking for a partner then right now for my level I wouldn't be comfortable getting involved with a girl that cheated on her bf to get with me.

However for casual flings, in my opinion committed girls are in general more efficient. If you pull a single woman with a lot going on then you know she isn't going to bother you all day. Same *most of the time* as if you pull a taken woman (knowingly or not - most of mine I didn't know prior) their bf keeps them busy and deals with the negative emotions. They ask for less (you don't have to decline her friendly social events).