Would you have opened this girl?

[DarkKnight]

Two weeks ago, I spotted a hotty in the gym who looked at me multiple times, there was definitely some interest. I could not talk to her at that moment (I was participating in a group training) but I knew I would see her later and would talk with her then.

Fast forward to today: I notice her and check her vibe, since it has been two weeks since I saw her. Girl is really closed off and seems to block off the outside world with huge headphones and making zero eye contact with anyone only staring at her smartphone. Now women aren't stupid. I have seen them dropping their headphones when they give me approach invitations, they obviously know that it is a barrier.

At that point, I decided to let it go.

It wasn't an intimidating approach, I have asked girls in the past to put their headphones down or their phones. I even enjoy it as a compliance test. Rejection is not a problem either, it barely fazes me. However something just rubbed me wrong, I felt that I would have put way too much effort into someone who is obviously blocking out others.

Now there is some subtlety here. I understand shy girls or girls who think that I am unattainable. It didn't feel like this here. If it was a girl about who I would be sure she didn't notice me it wouldn't matter either.

Bottomline is, for some reason my gut feeling said that if I would go out of my way to talk with her after the barriers she is putting: I would be a chump. Instead I was with the girls about who I know they are superwarm to me.

My question is: Am I being way too harsh and prideful? My gut says I went about this just fine, but it got me thinking. Maybe I am a little too entitled? Spoiled by the attention that I get from other girls. It felt as if she didn't deserve the chance, that's the feeling. What do you guys think?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

DarkKnight dude! I think ya done the right thing, it's not entitled or spoilt to not approach if they're putting up barriers an if ya have a gut feeling not to. Approaching is simply our choice an there's nothing wrong with screening an picking ya battles. It's preselection!

Ya might have been able to warm it up an turn her around but if she's not in a social mood ya might make a bad first impression and ruin chances later. From her closed of attitude it wasn't personally aimed at you an just in general. For whatever reason she wasn't sociable today, it just means not today.

If ya would have approached ya look confident and let's her know ya really like her, but she could be cold for other reasons, not warm up and the interaction dies putting you into a chasing position an starting in a one down. Ya can't control her mood but ya can control when ya approach. You know ya will get another opportunity so a wouldn't stress about this.

Approaching would have been like seeking to get her out of her mood which could have took more investment than what should be required. See what she's like next time dude!

 

[DarkKnight]

I get you Flux, but this one needs to do her best to draw my attention back again. The moment is kind of spoiled for me. I rather focus on other girls. The only thing I was wondering is whether I am being too cocky. What would you have done? Would you have approached for the hell of it? It simply didn't feel dignified and I cannot point out why.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

DarkKnight dude! I know your thoughts on this because ya like ya pizza fresh out the oven and I usually agree. I feel ya angle is of point here making her do her best to get your attention back because you should assume attraction (ya noticed it anyway) and ya can use that rather than letting an opportunity go. If she is shy or thinks you're unattainable this will send her into auto rejection. It doesn't sound like she is from the OP but something to think about.

Attraction has an expiration date and so waiting for further AIs or something to really get your attention might just waste more time. Though you never know she might just throw one your way next time.

I wouldn't have approached for the hell of it unless I was feeling it, you weren't an that's cool dude. It didn't feel dignified because ya read/screen on her told you not to. That's fine in this semi social circle setting because ya will get other chances. Pointless making it a do or die situation without purpose. It also keeps you to law of least effort. No dignity trying to get blood from stone!

If ya stick to your guns that she has to impress ya again it'll keep ya value up an keep ya meeting new girls but feel approaching for the hell of it next time would be more fun unless ya get bad vibes again. Ya got this dude!

 

[DarkKnight]

Haha you're pretty much confirming what I am thinking. I think I did just fine, thanks Flux