Hey all. I just finished a date and have no idea wtf happened and want to know if anyone can explain this at all (I am 24 btw, the girl is 22).
So it all started when I matched with a cute blonde girl on a dating app a few days ago. We talked for a bit and she gave me her number really quickly (like a few lines of chat and she gave it to me). Now, I have a pretty good online profile, but this was still quick. So that's the first kind of strange thing that happened. But i figured that it's just easier for her to talk through text, which is reasonable.
Next, we texted pretty consistently for 3 days. Texting back and forth, good and funny texts. In short, there was a lot of chemistry. The second kind of strange thing is that she kept calling me cutie in these texts and making kissy faces and so on, which is a little weird because we hadn't been texting for that long. But, again, I put it down to her bubbly personality.
After a few days of texting, we agreed to meet up at a bar last night, but at the last minute she cancelled and wanted to meet up today instead. That was kind of strange because she didn't give a reason for cancelling, but again, no worries. I told her that I hate people that cancel, and that if she doesn't want to meet up, we don't have to at all. She can just tell me that she is not interested. She replied that she is really into me, which is why she's been texting me nonstop for 3 days and that she has a "good feeling about me, this." And that if I really wanted to meet up last night, she would. I am actually looking for a girlfriend, so that was a good answer to me and I let it go.
We agreed to meet up tonight and were going to meet at a bar. I was running a bit late at work and so she got there first and said there was a 20 minute wait. I told her that we should just meet at a different bar without a wait and SHE COUNTERED BY SAYING that we could just meet at my place. I agreed and she came over to my place after I gave her directions. Again, she said that we should meet at my place, not me.
At my place, we started making out almost immediately. But we also talked for like 10 minutes. But again, we had been texting pretty much nonstop for 3 days and so it got sexual pretty quickly. We escalated and as we were getting nearer to sex (after like 30 min of foreplay, both of us in our underwear), she asked if I will not call her again if we have sex. I said that's obviously not true and that i'm into her and that having sex won't change anything. So we proceeded to do more foreplay, but no sex. Then 5 minutes later, she gets up and says she can't do this anymore and that she has to go, but that we will for sure hang out again.
I was shocked and told her that it doesn't look like we'll hang out again because that was a really sudden move on her part. She said that we will, that things just moved too fast too soon, etc. I told her it's fine not to have sex and that she's cool to talk to and I like her sex isn't the end all be all. So then we talked for like half an hour and it was a really good back and forth conversation with a definite connection and lots of deep diving with her telling me about her past and me telling her about my past.
Then she called an uber, I walked her downstairs, and she left. As I was walking her downstairs, she put my arm in hers and kept making out with me and saying how fun I was to kiss. In short, it seemed like she was really into me and acting like a GF. She said she'd text me when she got home, etc.
I texted her like 15 min later and said that I had a great time, and that she's super cool and fun to talk to. But here is where it gets super weird because my imessage was not delivered! So clearly she blocked me on imessage! Then I check my snapchat and see that we're no longer snapchat friends! I have no idea why she did this! Aside from not having sex, it seemed like everything was going well. She seemed into me and we had a great conversation that I think we both genuinely enjoyed and the foreplay was also def good.
The things that stand out to me are:
1) I do get the sense that she thought I was a bit of a player
2) Seems that she is less sexually experienced than me
3) This is the big one - it seemed throughout the whole text conversation over the past few days that she was the one pushing to meet and pushing the envelope by calling me cutie and using kissy faces emojis and all these things - and all this after only a few days of knowing one another is pretty weird.
Has this happened to anyone? Can anyone offer me advice on this? I am utterly confused right now and really weirded out that this happened.
Short version: Online dating --> texting for a few days --> girl seems really into me --> We meet up at my place at her suggestion --> We almost have sex but not quite --> She gets a bit freaked out and wantsbecause we went "too fast" and wants to leave --> We have a great 40 min conversation --> She starts acting like a girlfriend as I walk her out --> She blocks me on imessage and snapchat and seems like she won't talk to me again.
WTF?!?!?!?!
So it all started when I matched with a cute blonde girl on a dating app a few days ago. We talked for a bit and she gave me her number really quickly (like a few lines of chat and she gave it to me). Now, I have a pretty good online profile, but this was still quick. So that's the first kind of strange thing that happened. But i figured that it's just easier for her to talk through text, which is reasonable.
Next, we texted pretty consistently for 3 days. Texting back and forth, good and funny texts. In short, there was a lot of chemistry. The second kind of strange thing is that she kept calling me cutie in these texts and making kissy faces and so on, which is a little weird because we hadn't been texting for that long. But, again, I put it down to her bubbly personality.
After a few days of texting, we agreed to meet up at a bar last night, but at the last minute she cancelled and wanted to meet up today instead. That was kind of strange because she didn't give a reason for cancelling, but again, no worries. I told her that I hate people that cancel, and that if she doesn't want to meet up, we don't have to at all. She can just tell me that she is not interested. She replied that she is really into me, which is why she's been texting me nonstop for 3 days and that she has a "good feeling about me, this." And that if I really wanted to meet up last night, she would. I am actually looking for a girlfriend, so that was a good answer to me and I let it go.
We agreed to meet up tonight and were going to meet at a bar. I was running a bit late at work and so she got there first and said there was a 20 minute wait. I told her that we should just meet at a different bar without a wait and SHE COUNTERED BY SAYING that we could just meet at my place. I agreed and she came over to my place after I gave her directions. Again, she said that we should meet at my place, not me.
At my place, we started making out almost immediately. But we also talked for like 10 minutes. But again, we had been texting pretty much nonstop for 3 days and so it got sexual pretty quickly. We escalated and as we were getting nearer to sex (after like 30 min of foreplay, both of us in our underwear), she asked if I will not call her again if we have sex. I said that's obviously not true and that i'm into her and that having sex won't change anything. So we proceeded to do more foreplay, but no sex. Then 5 minutes later, she gets up and says she can't do this anymore and that she has to go, but that we will for sure hang out again.
I was shocked and told her that it doesn't look like we'll hang out again because that was a really sudden move on her part. She said that we will, that things just moved too fast too soon, etc. I told her it's fine not to have sex and that she's cool to talk to and I like her sex isn't the end all be all. So then we talked for like half an hour and it was a really good back and forth conversation with a definite connection and lots of deep diving with her telling me about her past and me telling her about my past.
Then she called an uber, I walked her downstairs, and she left. As I was walking her downstairs, she put my arm in hers and kept making out with me and saying how fun I was to kiss. In short, it seemed like she was really into me and acting like a GF. She said she'd text me when she got home, etc.
I texted her like 15 min later and said that I had a great time, and that she's super cool and fun to talk to. But here is where it gets super weird because my imessage was not delivered! So clearly she blocked me on imessage! Then I check my snapchat and see that we're no longer snapchat friends! I have no idea why she did this! Aside from not having sex, it seemed like everything was going well. She seemed into me and we had a great conversation that I think we both genuinely enjoyed and the foreplay was also def good.
The things that stand out to me are:
1) I do get the sense that she thought I was a bit of a player
2) Seems that she is less sexually experienced than me
3) This is the big one - it seemed throughout the whole text conversation over the past few days that she was the one pushing to meet and pushing the envelope by calling me cutie and using kissy faces emojis and all these things - and all this after only a few days of knowing one another is pretty weird.
Has this happened to anyone? Can anyone offer me advice on this? I am utterly confused right now and really weirded out that this happened.
Short version: Online dating --> texting for a few days --> girl seems really into me --> We meet up at my place at her suggestion --> We almost have sex but not quite --> She gets a bit freaked out and wantsbecause we went "too fast" and wants to leave --> We have a great 40 min conversation --> She starts acting like a girlfriend as I walk her out --> She blocks me on imessage and snapchat and seems like she won't talk to me again.
WTF?!?!?!?!
