You always want to have sex

[brandoan95]

What's up folks,

So I've been dating this girl for about 1 1/2 months. She's sweet, supportive, and she's crazy about me, but when I met her she was a virgin. I actually wrote a Fr a few months back about how I botched an escalation due to me making her climax through oral sex and didn't penetrate her. After we hung out a second time, she told me that she was a virgin and scared to have sex. After that I was moreunderstanding and compassionate with her and eventually I cracked her walls.
Since then we've had sex about 4 times since December. We don't fuck that often maybe once a week and me being a 21 year old male I'm horny as fuck all the time. Our sessions are good but she says her vaginas hurts after about 15-20 minutes of intercourse. The articles chase and hector posted about how to make a girl climax is what I've tried to follow. I would say I'm not shit poor at sex but I definitely need some practice before she fully enjoys sex and I'm giving her mind blowing sex.

Everytime I'm with her I often times think we'll have sex and sometimes I'll be direct saying we should fuck and other times I'll just escalate physically. I think in me not seeing her often I always push towards sex and I recently did so yesterday. We were hanging out and she told me if I wanted to go back to my house to get my charger. I said sure assuming she wanted to do something sexual. However, when we got back and I escalated about 20 minutes in she stopped me and said "I always want to have sex."
After this happened I said "alright I won't" and we just cuddled, then she left 30 minutes later.

Is this normal for a guy my age to want to have sex all the time or am I just being needy because I've never had a real sexual partner. I read something on Google saying sometimes guys who always want sex are seeking validation for there self esteem. I've suffered from low self esteem throughout my adolescence and only the past year have I been improving it.

Can someone who's been in my position before let me know if this is a normal part of my sex drive or if I have some mindset problems that I need to adress. Or is it that the sex isn't super enjoyable so she isn't as excited to fuck anymore

 

[WayOfHand]

Everyone has their own sex drive. It could be that yours and your girls just wont match. I'm for example in a relationship where my girl has slightly higher drive than me.

As long as you make her enjoy the sex it should be no problem. If she starts hurting you should check if she is actually lubricating enough, and if not, start using lube.

Regarding her test of "you wanting to have sex all time", you sort of botched it by supplicating to her. This should never happen as it seriously hurts your relationship. Her setting the limits is NOT ok if she doesn't have an actual medical problem or something along the lines. Its not needy to want to have sex. It can be selfish at most and a little selfishness is just good. If she actually doesn't come that much from the sex you might try varying things a bit and find out what she likes.

 

[brandoan95]

Thanks WayOfHand. I've done that a few times in the relationship mostly from me being oblivious to what that meant at first. Does me supplicating make her view me as less dominant over time. I'm starting to notice she's shit testing more and not being as compliant or invested. Is there anyway I can Reverse this trend?

Your right I should be more selfish with my demands I just don't know how to do it in a strong manner without being upset at the same time.

 

[WayOfHand]

Hello brandoan. Yes, you supplicating makes her view you less in charge. This is fundamental type of problem and might take a longer time to fix. Usually you learn by doing so if not in this relationship then mayby in next one. Till then fake it till you make it.

Reversal is possible but takes strong dedication. Just start moving into the right direction. Here is an article for you that might be of help https://www.girlschase.com/content/persist-your-insistence