FR you guys need to read this...

[Mr.B]

Long story short, I was always the popular kid... I fingered a girl for the first time in pre-k, I kissed a girl in 3rd grade. I made out in 6th had a gf in 2 weeks... Thing was.... I was fat throughout all of this, even more of a shocker. My non-verbals have always been pretty hot shit, sexy, arrogant. Varsity swimmer team in high school. But then I moved away from home, shit hit the fan at home... I was angry and I hit a place where I was away from the world.... Told my football coach in high school "coach, I want to play linebacker" he said, "why you?" I said "I want to be the best fucking LB in this county." He smiled... Shit hit the fan, I moved out.

I've been told I'm alpha as fuck... I have girls shaking when they're next to me....

I walked into work yesterday and had a guy say "Brandon, the king of kings!" I met him 2 days prior and small talked a bit. I had a girl tell me "you're almost majestic even...."

It's tripping me out, I think I'm alpha. But didn't know it...

To the FR....

I opened a girl that was in a group (3 girls 2 guys)
2 minutes in he "AMOG" me by saying a comment about my hat. The whole group goes OHHHHHH!

I say "So is this the guy of the group that brings people down when he feels threatened/when he needs to up his status? And then you hooligans in the background just go batshit crazy? Anyways, if you want to continue this talk. Let's go."

Then she said, "oh no but my friends"

I said, "hey, your friends are grown ups... You can shoot them a text and even share your location on your phone whenever we stop somewhere."

I looked at the group... They were just looking at me.

I said lets go and she came.

After walking a few minutes she couldn't deal with that social circle shit and bailed. We called up the friends and met up with them.

Sidenote: I understand that I wasn't being socially savvy... But I guess being an alpha, I can alpha other alphas fairly easily and was just having a bad day lol.

Also, I have gotten fired from a job because "the owner felt I was a threat"

Mind you, I'm warm and kind... Girls are at my mercy... I wave girl over all the time now...

This whole sigma, alpha, beta shit has me a little stressed out...

I'm very interested in what everyone's input is going to be.

B

 

[Whizzy]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

Minus your interaction with her friends, everything seems to be on key. Next time just rolling your eyes and grinning like you don't give a f**** would help manage her social circle without the hostility that her friends probably feel towards you now.

 

[Explosive Results]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

So is "you guys need to read this..." in the thread title your attempt at being alpha in a forum? =P

I said lets go and she came. After walking a few minutes she couldn't deal with that social circle shit and bailed. We called up the friends and met up with them.

Did you do anything to disuade her from bailing?

Sidenote: I understand that I wasn't being socially savvy... But I guess being an alpha, I can alpha other alphas fairly easily and was just having a bad day lol. Also, I have gotten fired from a job because "the owner felt I was a threat"

Acting like a non-stop brutish alpha male usually does more harm than good... Social awareness is also of vital importance if you ever intend of having great success.

 

[Mr.B]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

Explosive,

Lol at that first comment.

Well, that's why I'm on this website. In order to learn the social scheme of things fully. I know I'm alpha.. But I'm also introverted by nature.. It takes me a while to warm up to people... After reading a few things on this site (the only site I trust to expose my eyes to, quite frankly) after a year long relationionship, I knew I needed some work.

I also have an alpha father (Aries, Pisces Moon... Very aggressive and reactive), grandfather,(virgo, Capricorn moon) and uncle (aries as well).. I finally left home and now that last piece is cracking through... Complete independence in the real world.

I did not try to pursuade her... I cared about her perceived rep by her group. She REALLY wanted to leave.

I would be very interested in meeting up with someone down here in Miami, FL.

Best,

B

 

[Mr.B]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

Whizzy,

Thanks for your input brother, always appreciated!

B

 

[maximus6004]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

I had the same.problem. from my studies in body language ill give you a few tips that I use.

Just because there are guys dont assume everyone isnt sensitive or an asshole trying to screw you. I always introduce myself to a group with a hand shake. Regardless, it sounda silly but wait to see how they shake your hand. If they try to dominate the hand shake by turning their palm towards the groubs end the conversation quick with a nice to meet you and move on. The guy who treat you equal small talk is.good. if someone turns your palm towards the ground very insecure. You want to be nicer to these guys they will probably talk about themselves more you want people on your side. If they cross there arms around you avoid em. I have trained myself that I can read a group fast and am.able to pull the girl out easier. I even have friends of the girl I want to talk to telling me to give me there number.to give to the girl.

In d.c. I was at a club dancing with a girl. I was cool with her friend and only had a five minute conversation when guys tried pulling the girl.away from.me.her friend ran into the crowd and pulled her back to me.

Basically, the alpha is great but people who come to girls chase usually are either too dominant, or too much of a pussy. Finding he fine line in between both is where you want to be. So my opinion to you is to be more open, talkative, and friendlier then be dominant in the situations that matter. You dont want to be too.intimidating. make sense? We are all humans and not everyone is the same. Nor should they be treated the same.

 

[RickLocke]

Re: FR - you guys need to read this...

Hey Maximus, awesome tip with the handshakes. I remember reading that somewhere, but having someone point it out helps me keep it in mind during my interactions.