Date Plans Your Favorite Way To Inviting The Girl Home

[leadingbealwaysido]

So I am sitting on this date with this beautiful girl, half german, half asian. Things are going well and I am thinking how am I going to bring her home??

I remember my friends saying, just do not give her a reason not to join you... and just say im going home, you can join... but cannot stay for long because I need to wake up early.

Well these words never came out of my mouth cus i was too scared to scare her off...

So i just started walking home... it was about a 10 minute walk.

And to my suprise she just followed...

and when we came home i opened the door, saying nothing, we went inside... all the way up 5 floors of stairs.

Into my appartment. Taking a look at the view, then started kissing, then went for bed.

...

So I still have not found a good way to invite home...
Sometimes I will just walk home and not mentione it at all, which has worked suprisingly well. If they ask "where are we going?" I just say "adventure" or "I am going home, you can join, but cannot stay for long"

I am seeing some people here like to ask the girl home for wine and get her in a yes mood. Do you like wine YES, do you like red wine YES, lets go back to my place I have this amazing bottle of wine from a friend, we only have a glass and I will make sure you get home safe YES.

I once used a "let's go and have tea" and it worked too.

So what is the ways you invite her home during a date?

 

[Chase]

@leadingbealwaysido,

There's no need to overcomplicate the pull too much.

Think of it this way: if she's into you (as you saw with the German-Asian girl), she will go along with you, for just about any reason other than, "Hey, wanna knock boots?" You can even just start walking, while talking to her, and she will just follow along a lot of the time. She may not even ask where you're going or what you're doing!

My go-to date pull is just to tell her, "Well, I don't know what else you've got planned, but how about we hang out and watch a movie?" If she's comfortable with you and attracted to you and doesn't feel like she needs to play games she will say 'Sure' and you are good to go.

If you're lacking comfort, arousal, or compliance, then you need to use something more engaging than that. This should be something you seed earlier in the date, get her intrigued/excited about, then bring up later as your reason to pull:

• Some really rich, luxury Swiss hot chocolate you bought
• Some imported coffee or tea you make
• This cool mixed drink you learned how to make from a bartender in the Philippines
• The half-bar you have set up at home, complete with almost everything
• The amazing surround-sound movie studio you've got at home
• The incredible view of the city you have from your picture window
• Some kind of zany toy or gadget she's going to get a kick out of that you want to show her
• The back massage you promised to give her earlier on your massage bed / using your special massage oils, with your special technique

Etc.

Just pick something that suits your style, make sure it's in your place, then seed it on dates.

You can even get a few of these: get some imported hot chocolates, plus learn a great back massage technique and get some really nice aromatic oils. Then seed the hot chocolate... see how she reacts to that... seed the back massage... see how she reacts to that... and whichever one seems like it gets the better reaction, invite her for that later. If she doesn't go for it, chat a few more minutes, then go back to the other thing you seeded, and invite her for that.

IOW:

For girls who are ready to go, you don't need much of anything, and even the most barebones invite will work ("Hey, how about we go kick back and watch a movie?").

For girls who still may have some reservations, seed something (or several somethings) earlier, and bring it up later as your excuse to pull. You will need to put some forethought into this and prepare your place with whatever you will need as your justification for the pull, of course

Chase