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Two nights ago I saw this chick out that I knew from social circle, who had been dating my friend. She's a HB7, independent, smart, and loves hip hop almost as much as I do. Last time I saw her a few months back her boyfriend was being a shitty bf (not in the traditional sense, I mean he wasn't leading / showing her any attention / being attractive), while personally I was feeling myself (I was in the middle of a small streak) and she invited me to go out with her alone. And she was eye fucking me and saying how I always know what to do. Aka my bf is being lame, you're hot, dominate me. I didn't out of respect to my friend.
Sooo, I'm drunk on thursday and see her out.
I was having a bad night - lots of work with exams and my research project. Just not on my game. When I saw her, I perked up a little bit.
I waltz over and do that playful tap on the opposite shoulder, then she turns around and I'm there smiling.
She introduces me to her friend and I introduce my homie. I get drinks with my dude afterwards and give him the run down of the dynamic I'm in. He poses me a simple question, "is her ex here right now?". I shake myself into saying to myself "fuck it, they just broke up - if I put my dick in her / bust some kind of move, Iogically there's no issue".
I go back to her and talk, being a litttle bit more flirty. There was a moment where she stood the way girls do when their ready to be submissive / compliant, but her facial expression wasn't congruent.
Somehow the boyfriend comes up again and she shows a little bit more emotion then earlier, and I swivel my chair facing the bar and go, "[name], sit down". In the moment I was going to say something about how I'm not surprised and then, idk see where it went depending on her reaction. Essentially setting up a frame where I knew what was going on and why.
However, she didn't. Idk if her friend grabbed her, or she walked over herself, but then I see her standing with her friends 15 ft to the right of me.
To make matters worse it's mixed bag of people with some in my social circle, some in hers. I wait around a bit before going back to my friend and catch a glimpse of her talking to a girl that I went on a date with (I got her number blacked out, texted her, couldn't find her social media, set up a wine date at her house to see she was a HB5, drank her wine and left --> douche).
On my way out (I was heading home) I tap her and say we should go out to [bar] like good old times and she's down.
Next day
I ping her over text, then ask if she can talk on the phone. She can and then calls me twice, immediately. I miss the first one, then pick up the second in a playful, fun way. She's serious. For some reason she got the vibe I was in trouble or something. So, I have to jump right to the reason I'm calling and ask her if she wants to get coffee.
Without skipping a beat she says that she doesn't feel like she'd be respecting her ex to even be SEEN with any of his friends, because she still respects him as a person - whether the outing be platonic or romantic (not her exact words, I'm paraphrasing).
I pause and say, "ah. yea okay, I can definitely sympathize with that". Then she says maybe once she figures things out (they haven't talked since the breakup) we could do something. I basically reiterate that back to her and switch subjects, then end on the best positive note I could.
Man oh man did I feel like a sleazebag when I hung up.
I mean, I have deniability with this, but I know it's bullshit. This girl is pretty awesome and really did deserve better than her boyfriend, at least that's how I see it. That's still pretty hard betrayal if I got with this chick, and I didn't think twice about it. Not that I have it in the bag by any means. Pretty cold responses by her.
To be honest I don't value this guys' friendship all that much, but he's somewhat close to part of my family.
Wanted to get this out somewhere. Yeesh. Do I have a warped view of monogamous relationships because most of mine have been polygamy?
Later that day I went on to meet a pretty awesome girl at a bar - but for personal preferences I'm not gonna type that up. Maybe if it's a LR.
Keep on rollin,
Hueman
Sooo, I'm drunk on thursday and see her out.
I was having a bad night - lots of work with exams and my research project. Just not on my game. When I saw her, I perked up a little bit.
I waltz over and do that playful tap on the opposite shoulder, then she turns around and I'm there smiling.
She introduces me to her friend and I introduce my homie. I get drinks with my dude afterwards and give him the run down of the dynamic I'm in. He poses me a simple question, "is her ex here right now?". I shake myself into saying to myself "fuck it, they just broke up - if I put my dick in her / bust some kind of move, Iogically there's no issue".
I go back to her and talk, being a litttle bit more flirty. There was a moment where she stood the way girls do when their ready to be submissive / compliant, but her facial expression wasn't congruent.
Somehow the boyfriend comes up again and she shows a little bit more emotion then earlier, and I swivel my chair facing the bar and go, "[name], sit down". In the moment I was going to say something about how I'm not surprised and then, idk see where it went depending on her reaction. Essentially setting up a frame where I knew what was going on and why.
However, she didn't. Idk if her friend grabbed her, or she walked over herself, but then I see her standing with her friends 15 ft to the right of me.
To make matters worse it's mixed bag of people with some in my social circle, some in hers. I wait around a bit before going back to my friend and catch a glimpse of her talking to a girl that I went on a date with (I got her number blacked out, texted her, couldn't find her social media, set up a wine date at her house to see she was a HB5, drank her wine and left --> douche).
On my way out (I was heading home) I tap her and say we should go out to [bar] like good old times and she's down.
Next day
I ping her over text, then ask if she can talk on the phone. She can and then calls me twice, immediately. I miss the first one, then pick up the second in a playful, fun way. She's serious. For some reason she got the vibe I was in trouble or something. So, I have to jump right to the reason I'm calling and ask her if she wants to get coffee.
Without skipping a beat she says that she doesn't feel like she'd be respecting her ex to even be SEEN with any of his friends, because she still respects him as a person - whether the outing be platonic or romantic (not her exact words, I'm paraphrasing).
I pause and say, "ah. yea okay, I can definitely sympathize with that". Then she says maybe once she figures things out (they haven't talked since the breakup) we could do something. I basically reiterate that back to her and switch subjects, then end on the best positive note I could.
Man oh man did I feel like a sleazebag when I hung up.
I mean, I have deniability with this, but I know it's bullshit. This girl is pretty awesome and really did deserve better than her boyfriend, at least that's how I see it. That's still pretty hard betrayal if I got with this chick, and I didn't think twice about it. Not that I have it in the bag by any means. Pretty cold responses by her.
To be honest I don't value this guys' friendship all that much, but he's somewhat close to part of my family.
Wanted to get this out somewhere. Yeesh. Do I have a warped view of monogamous relationships because most of mine have been polygamy?
Later that day I went on to meet a pretty awesome girl at a bar - but for personal preferences I'm not gonna type that up. Maybe if it's a LR.
Keep on rollin,
Hueman
Properly broke my mentality for a while.