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We are all human no matter how good you become at any skill you will fuck up, i fuck up, you fuck up and even Chase fucks up. When your a beginner you will probably fuck up more often than you succeed but as long as you have a student mentality and don't view fuck ups as fuck ups but as an
What i am going to talk about today is not about learning from fuck ups but rather persisting through fuck ups to make the most of the opportunities your given.
Here is an metaphor i thought of while driving on handling fucks up.
Pretend you have a cake with icing for the finishing touches you decide your going too put some sprinkles on it pretty simple right? But what if, you accidentally picked up the pepper shaker, shake a bit of it on the cake chemical reaction occurs bam that bit of the cake turned solid and is fucked up there goes 10% of your cakes
Now in my mind you left with two choices:
The first choice,the choice I used to select frequently a choice a lot of beginners are likely to make and a choice I still from time to time find myself making [i]the hard choice[/i]
This choice is instead of working with the 90% of cake i still have, i try and mend cake by spreading around the pepper, each time digging a greater hole, making more of the cake solid and reducing how much cake i have to work with. Even if its only 5% at a time or an instant 50% by taking this approach the odds are slowly turning against my favor until the odds are against me and bam you have sent a girl into auto rejection.
Not saying that this approach should never be taken but from my experience iv found the chances of you mending your cake are slim and to be honest your just breaking the Law of Least effort for no reason and making more trouble for yourself. (more experienced members may be able to handle turning around their fuck ups much better i know at my currently level most of the time i can't but is just my view)
Choice Number two the choice i try an implement as often as possible, you can probably guess is just cutting my losses and moving on from the 10% i have corrupted, using out come independence and the Law of least effort I keep the odds in my favor and for guys who have done this before you even noticed it may not unsolidify the cake you fucked but can create more cake (attraction) by:
.Displaying manliness
.Not breaking your frame
.Not chasing
Which results in keeping your dominant/manly image what was creator of the cake (attraction).
A perfect example i can think of recently was during night game when i was on the dance floor dancing with a girl. Mid dance I made an executive decision too man up and go for the man handle kiss while grinding. The reason behind this is because i often find my self not making a move early enough and letting attraction expire. whether i went to early or didn't build enough kino i don't know but the kiss attempt ended in me just holding her chin in a kinda stare down, but instead of going of fuck i messed that up, i just held eye contact remained unfazed and when she broke eye contact i remember turning to my friend who was just watching and casually going meh and as soon as she saw that it was like that failed kiss never even occurred and her engine was super charged, just going say iv never had anyone get so into grinding up against me i felt like my penis was going to break but that's a story for another time.
In that situation i could of easily taken choice one and tried to figure out while i fail or even worse walked away but i remained outcome independent and stuck to the law of least effortt and the results showed.
Summary
You can either fuck up and drown yourself fixing it
Or you can make the smart choice and man up and utilize the components you still have to keep afloat
Hope this was helpful too you and was not too all over the place
Feel free to comment your ways of dealing with fucking up and to criticize what i have said or add further detail to the points i have said
you will see improvement.
What i am going to talk about today is not about learning from fuck ups but rather persisting through fuck ups to make the most of the opportunities your given.
Here is an metaphor i thought of while driving on handling fucks up.
Pretend you have a cake with icing for the finishing touches you decide your going too put some sprinkles on it pretty simple right? But what if, you accidentally picked up the pepper shaker, shake a bit of it on the cake chemical reaction occurs bam that bit of the cake turned solid and is fucked up there goes 10% of your cakes
Now in my mind you left with two choices:
The first choice,the choice I used to select frequently a choice a lot of beginners are likely to make and a choice I still from time to time find myself making [i]the hard choice[/i]
This choice is instead of working with the 90% of cake i still have, i try and mend cake by spreading around the pepper, each time digging a greater hole, making more of the cake solid and reducing how much cake i have to work with. Even if its only 5% at a time or an instant 50% by taking this approach the odds are slowly turning against my favor until the odds are against me and bam you have sent a girl into auto rejection.
Not saying that this approach should never be taken but from my experience iv found the chances of you mending your cake are slim and to be honest your just breaking the Law of Least effort for no reason and making more trouble for yourself. (more experienced members may be able to handle turning around their fuck ups much better i know at my currently level most of the time i can't but is just my view)
Choice Number two the choice i try an implement as often as possible, you can probably guess is just cutting my losses and moving on from the 10% i have corrupted, using out come independence and the Law of least effort I keep the odds in my favor and for guys who have done this before you even noticed it may not unsolidify the cake you fucked but can create more cake (attraction) by:
.Displaying manliness
.Not breaking your frame
.Not chasing
Which results in keeping your dominant/manly image what was creator of the cake (attraction).
A perfect example i can think of recently was during night game when i was on the dance floor dancing with a girl. Mid dance I made an executive decision too man up and go for the man handle kiss while grinding. The reason behind this is because i often find my self not making a move early enough and letting attraction expire. whether i went to early or didn't build enough kino i don't know but the kiss attempt ended in me just holding her chin in a kinda stare down, but instead of going of fuck i messed that up, i just held eye contact remained unfazed and when she broke eye contact i remember turning to my friend who was just watching and casually going meh and as soon as she saw that it was like that failed kiss never even occurred and her engine was super charged, just going say iv never had anyone get so into grinding up against me i felt like my penis was going to break but that's a story for another time.
In that situation i could of easily taken choice one and tried to figure out while i fail or even worse walked away but i remained outcome independent and stuck to the law of least effortt and the results showed.
Summary
You can either fuck up and drown yourself fixing it
Or you can make the smart choice and man up and utilize the components you still have to keep afloat
Hope this was helpful too you and was not too all over the place
Feel free to comment your ways of dealing with fucking up and to criticize what i have said or add further detail to the points i have said
