Zero social momentum, still approach?

[ocantu1987]

I woke up about twelve today and wanted some chinese food, So,I got up took a shower and went to the restaurant (all you can eat buffet) so as I was walking around getting some food i saw a cute looking girl looking at me I said dang I need to approach, but I just woke up and I don't have any social momentum erghh. I saw her sit down and the next thing I know is she gets up and gets close to me to get herself a plate. She is right next to me, I felt she wanted me to approach haha but I was just off my game.

So guys my point was I went over there not expecting too see a girl and I felt sleepy and sluggish. Do you guys still approach when you are not ready or not expecting too see anyone? I had zero social momentum haha

 

[ocantu1987]

Never mind dumb question haha

 

[ProblemSolving]

This is not a dumb question. Anyone who tells you that they can approach any woman in any situation without any hesitation is a liar or little crazy. Approach Anxiety is there to protect you from what your brain thinks is physical or emotional harm. If I haven't talked to any strangers in a while, I find that it can take several minutes to convince myself to approach a girl that I find attractive. Often this results in a missed opportunity.

In order to get around that, you have to PROVE to your brain that nothing bad happens when you talk to strangers. It actually doesn't take much to get the momentum going. Smiling at people, greeting them, and asking how their day is going, all these things prove to your brain that there's nothing to be afraid of, and that it's safe to go talk to that girl you had your eye on. Make it a habit to be friendly to strangers, and you'll begin to approach without thinking twice.

 

[Estate]

I think it's worth approaching.

We're all there, times when you're just not feeling like you're in the mood or looking so sharp. But it's all practice. As you improve you'll find you actually do really well when you just go for it, your vibe will just become more part of you.

For me, it's the subway to work in the morning. All those "young professionals" in their sexy office outfits looking to impress... I'm not a morning person, haha. But if you want to have this become more natural to you then go for it. At first it might not be the sharpest approach you ever do but you'll get used to it and it'll get you talking and set you up for later in the day when you're feeling more on it.

 

[lux7]

This is not a dumb question. Anyone who tells you that they can approach any woman in any situation without any hesitation is a liar or little crazy.

True.

For me, it's the subway to work in the morning. All those "young professionals" in their sexy office outfits looking to impress... I'm not a morning person, haha.

Tell me about it, it's a torture for me waking up in the morning and I'm a zombie .

 

[metomeya]

Yes. Always.