Not a lot of people post fuck ups here and I think it’s vital in the learning process so here is my contribution. It’s condensed as well.
Friday met this cute small Korean girl outside the bar, she was finding her friends, I approached and said okay let’s go find them together. They weren’t even there lol.
said hey let’s go grab some late night food. Grabbed food at 2 am. Great kino great talking.
Said hey let’s just go hang back at my place everything’s shut down and you’re pretty cool! She said she should go home. I said how about you come over and I’ll drop ya off it’ll be cheaper. She said okay.
back to my place asked if she wanted to come in, she was persistent she stayed outside I go grab my keys inside lol..
Drive her home But make an accidental turn into the city. I said hey let’s explore super late night city she was down.
explored did some hand holding. Went in for a kiss she totally denied it.
Dropped her off at like 6 am.
went on a food date, dropped her off after (she doesn’t have a car) went in for a kiss again denied.
went on another date, brought her back. Escalated nada.
she texts me she wants to hang so we get food and I say let’s watch a movie at my place! She said okay! I have never hung out with a girl like this and not have sex so something strange is up.
we watch a movie. She’s cuddling me, try escalating but she denies it hardcore and then says this
“You know when we are hanging out it’s totally fine, but like when it’s just you and me alone like no movie or food it’s awkward. I’m just not sexually attracted to you! Like I tried multiple times but I’m really not sexually attracted to you! But I’m always like this sex is just sex to me, like I don’t need sex sometimes it hurts too idk maybe some other other day who knows maybe I’m saying this because I’m on my period idk maybe we can be friends”
I just nod my head and be chill about it, yeah I understand I gotcha! But I’m not a friend kind of guy with girls we don’t have to be friends You don’t have to force yourself on me (with a devilish smile)
Drop her off but this time no kiss.
she texts me another day, heyyyyy what are you doing tonight let’s get drunkk
Me sounds like a plan I got drinks at my place
pick her up and she drinks a little bit
every time I close the distance she backs off so I back off and then just go to my phone like nothing happened and change the topic (lol a take away)
drop her off
texts me again hey can I sleepover
In my head ooo it’s on!...maybe who knows
she comes over. We watch another movie. She’s cuddling me. And then we both fall asleep I’m dead tired. But when cuddling I’d go for the boob grab she just covers it and protects it and I back off and then turn To my side like I give up idc anymore. She comes and starts cuddling with me,
I think my fuck up was:
I started off with this bad boy frame, but didn’t stick true to it because I’m driving her around everywhere , responsive to her texts, let her sleepover. I’ve been escalating on day 1 and usually they go away or ghost after failed escalation. But she willingly keeps coming back. It’s a cycle. At the moment I’ve stopped texting her and pursuing other candidates. But what’s your guys takeaway from this that I might not be seeing?
Friday met this cute small Korean girl outside the bar, she was finding her friends, I approached and said okay let’s go find them together. They weren’t even there lol.
said hey let’s go grab some late night food. Grabbed food at 2 am. Great kino great talking.
Said hey let’s just go hang back at my place everything’s shut down and you’re pretty cool! She said she should go home. I said how about you come over and I’ll drop ya off it’ll be cheaper. She said okay.
back to my place asked if she wanted to come in, she was persistent she stayed outside I go grab my keys inside lol..
Drive her home But make an accidental turn into the city. I said hey let’s explore super late night city she was down.
explored did some hand holding. Went in for a kiss she totally denied it.
Dropped her off at like 6 am.
went on a food date, dropped her off after (she doesn’t have a car) went in for a kiss again denied.
went on another date, brought her back. Escalated nada.
she texts me she wants to hang so we get food and I say let’s watch a movie at my place! She said okay! I have never hung out with a girl like this and not have sex so something strange is up.
we watch a movie. She’s cuddling me, try escalating but she denies it hardcore and then says this
“You know when we are hanging out it’s totally fine, but like when it’s just you and me alone like no movie or food it’s awkward. I’m just not sexually attracted to you! Like I tried multiple times but I’m really not sexually attracted to you! But I’m always like this sex is just sex to me, like I don’t need sex sometimes it hurts too idk maybe some other other day who knows maybe I’m saying this because I’m on my period idk maybe we can be friends”
I just nod my head and be chill about it, yeah I understand I gotcha! But I’m not a friend kind of guy with girls we don’t have to be friends You don’t have to force yourself on me (with a devilish smile)
Drop her off but this time no kiss.
she texts me another day, heyyyyy what are you doing tonight let’s get drunkk
Me sounds like a plan I got drinks at my place
pick her up and she drinks a little bit
every time I close the distance she backs off so I back off and then just go to my phone like nothing happened and change the topic (lol a take away)
drop her off
texts me again hey can I sleepover
In my head ooo it’s on!...maybe who knows
she comes over. We watch another movie. She’s cuddling me. And then we both fall asleep I’m dead tired. But when cuddling I’d go for the boob grab she just covers it and protects it and I back off and then turn To my side like I give up idc anymore. She comes and starts cuddling with me,
I think my fuck up was:
I started off with this bad boy frame, but didn’t stick true to it because I’m driving her around everywhere , responsive to her texts, let her sleepover. I’ve been escalating on day 1 and usually they go away or ghost after failed escalation. But she willingly keeps coming back. It’s a cycle. At the moment I’ve stopped texting her and pursuing other candidates. But what’s your guys takeaway from this that I might not be seeing?