I hope DoWhatWorks is ok with this slight tangent, else I'll split it off.
Yes I also didn't want to go off topic, it is an interesting discussion.
First of all, genuine LAFS is not, in my experience, something that only happens when you have a certain amount of lays. I can still think back to a girl I used to be absolutely crazy about when I was like 12, riding my bike up and down the road in front of her house for hours trying not to look like I'm peering into her bedroom window lol. I never did get her, despite her giving me lots of opportunities, but to this day I know she's exactly the kind of girl I like. Beautiful, great personality (but strong willed), a little bit tomboyish, ambitious (went on to become a lawyer, while her brother, who I was friends with, was in and out of prison - for some reason I always seem to end up with girls whose brothers go off the rails, but I digress). She is still my archetype.
That's also my feeling and experience.
Anyway, what do you do when you meet them? It's going to sound a bit trite but in my experience, you have to let go a bit of all this technique and strategy, and show her something of the way she makes you feel. That's not bad advice in general, but especially so for these women you genuinely fall for. Women just know when you are 'in love' with them, as opposed to just approaching her because she ticks some boxes. If you can express that without being needy, without being afraid or helpless, but with a sort of exhilaration and self-affirming force behind it, then the rest of the interaction - the words you say etc - are less important, because every word and movement you make is dipped in the sauce of your genuine desire and delight in having met her.
I would say that generally that's what I am going for, especially with these girls when cold approaching. If I see them out in the street for example I will approach instantly and it will be something pretty direct. Maybe that she looks stunning, or ecstatic, and generally I feel the more I like the girl the less I think of the first thing I say, I just approach with the first thing that comes to my mind.
The one time that I had a girl like that stop and come to an instant date I think I just told her she looked incredible. I had posted the report here in fact. She was the kind of girl that I could not explain how perfect she looked in my eyes, I was thinking that if I got with her, I wouldn't mind being only with her forever and just focus hard on other things to create an amazing life for us both. And this was even after the instant date where I got to know her a bit.
Sadly I did some weird things, basically teasing her too much, and in a way I showed a lot of dissimilarity. I thought that her being so attractive and successful would never look into someone jobless with no visible future like me, and I went into painting her as someone who only focuses on money, and trying to prove that I am above that, thinking that I will show her how valuable I am, but basically autorejecting her.
The problem is it has never happened that another girl I liked a lot was open to even spend more time with me one on one romantically, no matter the approach.
That's why I have also tried being more stoic, or more playful, basically seeing how I can change things up for a different result, but all these things generally lead here:
When she doesn't reciprocate, I would hazard a guess that you are hiding the way you feel, that she's not picking up on it, because you are wearing a mask designed to cover your fear, anxiety, and attempts to find ways to force things to go well, rather than having faith that if you only found a way to express how you felt in a non-needy way, then she would come to you.
So this is exactly how I would feel and operate ideally if I sensed that my interest is reciprocated:
I've noticed that when I approach girls I genuinely like - maybe you could call it LAFS, maybe not, but nonetheless girls I have strong chemistry with - I use a lot more silence, I use a lot more eye contact, I express a whole lot more with my body and my face, I'm willing to risk more because I feel that the foundation can handle it, and words just seem to be superfluous. And those interactions are the most enjoyable for both of us, even though on the surface it's not as 'smooth' or following some clear pre-determined flowchart of processes.
It simply feels that most of the time, even from the start of the interaction I come off as too much for these girls. They don't seem to be enjoying how openly excited I am for them, and it feels they want to back off and stay away. So it makes me think I have to calculate how much excitement I show, and that by showing how into them I am they get a feeling off: "Wow this guy really is into me a lot, cute, but chill out a bit".
So in the end, although this is also how I feel things would be working:
But when your face is filled with exhilaration, with open, reckless delight, she feels like she is some kind of treasure you want to steal and enjoy. And every girl wants to be stolen, to be hustled out of the bedroom window of her everyday life by a thief, taken somewhere where everything that's ordinary fades away, and to watch you and share in your enjoyment as you take her and do all the things you want to with her. Your genuine desire for her, and your willingness to throw in your lot and risk everything on the basis of that desire, is her security - she knows exactly what to do with it.
I have not really experienced it. I have had girls flattered by how I expressed this excitement and interest towards them, but not much beyond that.
It could be that I am not expressing myself effectively. Difficult to say exactly what is off though, when I can't see myself from the outside and the things I try changing don't seem to bring any different results.
