abundance -> absolute abundance blueprint

[DoWhatWorks]

Update:

Without believing my own hype too much, I genuinely think I'm onto something with this whole "system building" way of sustainably meeting enough girls day to day.

All I'm really doing is adding tactical details to how to make daygame practical for your life

Chase mentioned having "anchor" spaces where you socialize, which is what's working for me as well as integrating fun hobbies with mixed crowds and visiting inspiring places regularly that keeps me at a steady zen sociable state.

I (probably) naively think that I can integrate and succeed in gym, dating and business at the same time and the way I do that is simply compartmentalize and have a trained "on/off" switch. In defense/props to skills he was saying this for years but I wasn't ready to hear it.

What this looks like in practice:

9-10:30am : chill and gradually wake up/get ready

10:30am - 2pm : deep work

2pm - 6pm : anchor venue e.g. cafe I like, hotel lobby etc. where I do casual work like emails etc and have conversations if opportunity comes up.

6pm - 8pm : physical activity like swimming, mixed sports, yoga class, calisthenics etc. or event e.g. supper club, meet friends

8pm - 9pm : another work blitz or cook/wind down for the evening

10pm - 12pm : wind down, reflect on day, a lot of my posts at this time, chat gpt ramblings then bed.

Basically after 2pm I'm in semi-sociable mode and because I've got my main big task out the way. It's at this point when I ping people around me and have adhoc approaches. Cause of I've got a fun/flex calendar I'm in good flow and my energy is infectious

This is the flow that's been working for me and I'm meeting normal, pretty, well adjusted girls in my day to day and exchanging numbers while feeling like I could do this forever without burning out.

Caveat I'll say is that this is a summer flow, and in Q4 my deep work might be 10am - 6pm as biz should be a main priority then and it's cold and not fun to be out and about but by then I back myself to have got a girl or 2 I'm into in the rotation.

The schedule sounds so simple but the hardest part is finding your ideal "anchor venues" and events/activities when you've just been used to clubbing, occasional approaching and not much else lol.

 

[KJ Francis]

So you're fully discarding any "pound the pavement" type street approaches? Very interesting, though I guess you'd have to maintain really sharp opportunistic game, since it seems medium volume at most. Maybe this doesn't matter in a massive city.

I can definitely appreciate wanting an integrated lifestyle rather than "day game sessions" later in life, and also targeting niche environments to find specific personality fits. But I do think the most reliable grounds would be:

-cafes and late afternoon walks directly adjacent to campuses

-central business district lunch hour

-biz district end of day commute points, especially subway platforms

-higher end grocers only if neighborhood is known to be dense with young professionals


I'd think these would present a consistent opportunity stream with an order of magnitude more options, but I guess it also totally discounts the selective compatibility strategy.

 

[DonGately]

Agree with you on art museums and gallery cafes, possibly the best and most underutilized resources there are in cities for guys looking to pick up [or date spots]. You get arty, creative chicks, normies taking a day/night off, and tourists [often from outside USA also]. Any of 3 can be gamed easily in this venue. Many art musuems even serve drinks 1-2 nights a week now, some with music.

The zodiac thing can work really, really well on some women.

The best woman in my life definitely fall into the LAFS/great insta-chemistry scenario. This has been the case for virtually every fantastic relationship I've had from months to 3+ years.
You notice the looks/body right away and then chat her up and then the: personality, intelligence, submissiveness, style, sincerity come through.

'I will have this girl!' Exactly. And the sex is amazing.

 

[alexlaguma]

I also know myself, when my social life is active and filled with things I can't wait to attend, my cold approaches are effortless, more enjoyable and I'm more magnetic which means I'd get good results with lower volume too.

This really resonates. Looking back at my numbers this year, the approaches that have went really well have been when I've been on my way to do something else, rather than out for a day-game session. There just seems to be a subtle difference to the conversation, its less forced and more natural.

infamous running clubs,

You know I'm a believer

 

[DoWhatWorks]

you'd have to maintain really sharp opportunistic game, since it seems medium volume at most. Maybe this doesn't matter in a massive city.

Yep fortunate enough to live in a city of 8 million people so have the volume

but I guess it also totally discounts the selective compatibility strategy.

Wanted to pick up on this as been speaking with a friend and you can still "sub-niche" within hotspots for example:

cafes and late afternoon walks directly adjacent to campuses

Depending on what university campus you target the very different the crowd. Humanities vs STEM for example. So actually remind me I need to find cool cafes in these areas to my rotation

-central business district lunch hour

I probably won't do this but for someone lurking, industries tend to "stick" together. E.g. finance district with banks, a street of law firms, an area filled with PR agencies. Nothing stopping someone for going to areas that have the type of professionals they like

Many art musuems even serve drinks 1-2 nights a week now, some with music.

Yes this is getting big in London. A lot of the main galleries will stay open until 10pm 1x a month for exhibits and bars
Takes organization though as it sells out quick. Only been to 2 but aiming to go to more.

I've been on my way to do something else, rather than out for a day-game session. There just seems to be a subtle difference to the conversation, its less forced and more natural.

100% man, I've seen similar too. I'm trying to balance being active without being aimless while still doing enough volume to let the numbers game work in my favour.

You know I'm a believer

Hahah for sure, if I hit you up for run clubs or Zara don't be surprised

 

[DonGately]

Bookstores on/near campus for the non-STEM girls are always a good spot to game. Once picked up a cute grad student with a killer tennis body due to my knowledge of Infinite Jest. And she was brilliant.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Starting to click.

Went to a "[mixed physical activity] club" yesterday, 70% girl to 30% guy ratios.

Portion of the girls were to put it politely not for me but a good enough % were attractive for me to work with.

Club is ran by 2 girls (prioritize events hosted by girls, they're wayyyyyyy better)

• One girl flirted with me hard and offered to get me a drink. I was polite but she's out my age range.
• Got like 5 Instagrams easily & could have got more (hosts actively encouraged people to connect)
• 1 of the prettiest girls DM'd me first... My bad messaging (too platonic) ruined it lol but more importantly POC is there

Unrelated but I pinged an Asian girl on the train (she hovered near me) quick convo and she invited me to same day wall climbing...

My vibe is getting magnetic again, the biggest thing holding me down is actually my texting. I get impatient and skip steps.

Have to remember to flowwwwwwwwwwwwww not force.

Another side note going to clean up and temporarily put more effort into my Instagram.

Not because I'm doing Dan Bilzeran flashy game but a simple, lowkey and well put together IG helps build comfort and tip-over the maybe girls who I meet out and about.

I see it as a smaller micro-escalation step in the flow of: ping > convo > exchange IG > exchange numbers > date.

Have to respond to the market, going from convo to number can be seen as skipping a micro-step. IG gives that layer of safety for women and yes straight to number can still work but I think I'll (long-term) have better success smoothening it out.

Met up with a girl at the start of the year who I exchanged IG at an art event so again proof of concept, I know it can be done.

No dates or LRs yet in recent weeks from this system but I think it's important I document the journey because I feel it coming & this is a criminally under-spoken about approach to game IMO.

Onwards & Upwards x

 

[Spike]

Lets say you succeed in your strategy, and you get that girl and then you break up, you are pretty much done in the setting (which is why i hate social circle light or social circles)...

I broke up with the hostess at my restaurant. No drama. The good thing about the restaurant I work at. Is that because it employees a lot of hot college girls (my target demographic) from the local university. Is that once the older girls graduate. A new lineup of undergraduate girls fill up their positions. So even if there is drama with one of the girls you lay, there will be a new rotation of girls to come in. And whatever you did in the past doesn’t matter. Because they don’t know anything. Just that you are good looking and have status (at this moment, I have status in my restaurant).

 

[DoWhatWorks]

because it employees a lot of hot college girls (my target demographic) from the local university. Is that once the older girls graduate. A new lineup of undergraduate girls fill up their positions

This is the angle most guys are missing when you bring up social circle environments.

You can remove a lot of the downsides of social circle by going for events/clubs that naturally have high turnover.

Granted I have the luxury of living in an 8 million+ city with people coming and going so targeting spaces that attract "new girls to the city" or "girl putting herself out there" is an evergreen option.

Feel like I'm going mad trying to explain this to people lol but I'll just point to this thread when the LRs start coming in.