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Originally wasn't going to bother writing this up but there's some LMR learnings that I think others will find useful.
Summary:
1. Met a
at a Thursday (dating app) bar event > got her number > scheduled a date at a bar near mine
2. Date compress: Bar (run my usual stack) > nearby park (focus on comfort as she's less experienced than me) > my place (for "cocktails")
3. Have drinks > Grind on my bed >
> she ends up leaving before sex > womanese reason of "not now/ I'm not ready"
4. I remain non-reactive and chill but have a bemused look on my face
The sub-context I'm portraying is if we're obviously into each other... Why would you be weird and stop it from happening?
5. Send her a text: DWW "Hope you got back safe, and kid's don't trouble you tomorrow" (call back as she's a teacher)
I learnt this from @Skills to not text saying "I had a good time" after a failed escalation because you re-enforce the bad behaviour. Instead you walk the fine line of not being bitter and giving her the space to chase you
Girl replies "Yes had a nice walk home after our lovely date"
I don't reply as I want the context to be... You messed up, I'm chill about it, but if you want to see me again you'll have to invest... It's also a pattern interrupt as most guys would try chase a girl down at this point
Following week she pings me on Saturday night asking for "cocktails". I'm busy so reply the next day saying I had plans but how was her night?
I didn't jump into trying to arrange drinks as it would be too keen and her mood may have changed since the last text. So have to baby step it again
She proposes a bottle of wine at a park near my place > we go on the date > I set the time constraint of can't stay late as travelling the next day > Up the sexual prizing alongside comfort > she comes back to mine > rest is history.
Final notes
Pretty standard experience and nothing special. She was obsessed about not getting pregnant (not on any birth control) so had to pull out even with a condom which felt silly lol.
I have decided to stop caring about retention because I think it was having an adverse effect. Instead I'm just going to focus on high odds behavior and whatever happens happens. Also at a stage where I'm bringing in such a variety of girls that the ones who stay are the ones I'm most suited to anyway so no point forcing it.
In general though feeling a little bored and not willing to put in the effort to challenge myself due to other priorities.
Onwards and Upwards x
Summary:
1. Met a
Short, slim yet older brunette who was very green light. As soon as I walked into the bar she was up in my space and very touchy feely. A little older at 31 and "attractive enough" so entertained it. She later sees me with other girls and when I'm alone gives me her number
2. Date compress: Bar (run my usual stack) > nearby park (focus on comfort as she's less experienced than me) > my place (for "cocktails")
3. Have drinks > Grind on my bed >
When a girl kisses you heavily and is ready to strip, go the full way. I hesitated and carried on kissing when she was ready to go which broke the spell, allowed her logical mind to kick in and she started pulling back
4. I remain non-reactive and chill but have a bemused look on my face
Confused yet entertained
The sub-context I'm portraying is if we're obviously into each other... Why would you be weird and stop it from happening?
5. Send her a text: DWW "Hope you got back safe, and kid's don't trouble you tomorrow" (call back as she's a teacher)
I learnt this from @Skills to not text saying "I had a good time" after a failed escalation because you re-enforce the bad behaviour. Instead you walk the fine line of not being bitter and giving her the space to chase you
Girl replies "Yes had a nice walk home after our lovely date"
I don't reply as I want the context to be... You messed up, I'm chill about it, but if you want to see me again you'll have to invest... It's also a pattern interrupt as most guys would try chase a girl down at this point
Following week she pings me on Saturday night asking for "cocktails". I'm busy so reply the next day saying I had plans but how was her night?
I didn't jump into trying to arrange drinks as it would be too keen and her mood may have changed since the last text. So have to baby step it again
She proposes a bottle of wine at a park near my place > we go on the date > I set the time constraint of can't stay late as travelling the next day > Up the sexual prizing alongside comfort > she comes back to mine > rest is history.
Final notes
Pretty standard experience and nothing special. She was obsessed about not getting pregnant (not on any birth control) so had to pull out even with a condom which felt silly lol.
I have decided to stop caring about retention because I think it was having an adverse effect. Instead I'm just going to focus on high odds behavior and whatever happens happens. Also at a stage where I'm bringing in such a variety of girls that the ones who stay are the ones I'm most suited to anyway so no point forcing it.
In general though feeling a little bored and not willing to put in the effort to challenge myself due to other priorities.
Onwards and Upwards x
