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I stumbled upon GC around the new year and it’s changed everything about how I think about picking up women. This site is a gold mine and Chase is a hero to me right now! It took a particularly frustrating experience with one girl recently that finally made me decide that I gotta get better at this. I’d been supplicating like crazy to her, moving slow, didn’t take the lead, essentially doing everything wrong…
Now armed with some GC knowledge and hours of reading the articles, I was hungry to test it out on a new girl and start fresh. My game prior to this was full of doubt and uncertainty about how & when to proceed, so I was determined to follow Chase's advice to the letter! (As much as possible).
So 2 weeks ago, I met a new girl at a bar where I was playing a show (I play music), so I had excellent social proof going for me. Cute blonde, 21. I asked how her night was going, introduced myself, talked a bit, asked her about her favorite music & about herself. She was with her friends so I would stop by her table now and again and chat for a bit while doing random things to prepare for my show. After I finished my set, she came up to tell me she had to go. I suggested we hang out/go for a coffee and I got her number.
I sent a short icebreaker text about 2.5 hrs later, to which she replied, and then the next morning she beat me to the punch and texted me first. Both promising signs.
I kept my texts relatively short and focused on setting up a date, with a little bit of information and consideration thrown in. I tried to move fast, so I proposed a date the same day she texted me (she was busy), then the day after (busy again), then 2 days later (she first said yes, then backed out the day of). Finally, we agreed to do it 2 days after that.
We met for drinks at a bar and I tried to get a some compliance right away (asked her to "sit over here", "pass me my coat"...). I started the conversation light and then started deep diving. The conversation was about 80% her 20% me. I tried not to provide too much value and talked humbly about myself. About 2 hours in, while we were on the topic of drugs, I suggested we go and smoke some weed and try "my new bong". (Indirectly asking her to come back to my place, as well as providing a benefit for doing so). She agreed.
We got to my place. I set up the bong, got us some drinks. Then followed Chase's excellent rule for beginners: No new girl you bring back to your place should be there longer than 10 minutes without you trying to kiss her. (Genius). So I got closer while the conversation was clicking, and gave her a manhandle kiss. She was into it. Then I kind of retreated and went back to talking about something trivial like packing the bong, as if nothing had happened (to confuse her a little. Again, Chase's tactic). Then 5 min later, I went for a second kiss and everything just took off from there. Clothes started coming off and I proceeded to have some of the best sex of my life. She did give some initial resistance, before oral, and before sex (first claiming she was on her rag, which turned out wasn't true). I was unfazed and just kept persisting physically. I truly was not concerned about how far things would go. I was actually in disbelief that things had progressed as fast as they did!
The experience blew my mind. I'd never had sex on a 1st date before this. Never thought I’d be able to do it, and couldn't believe just how effective the GC advice was, every step of the way. And that was one of the biggest things: having a plan every step of the way, a method of how to proceed, which also gave me a lot of confidence. In the past, without this knowledge, I would have moved slower and 100% messed something up along the way. Even if she’d already been “in the bag” when we met.
Totally got a wicked shot of confidence to kick-start my learning about seduction! As well as confirmation that this stuff works. But I'm not completely fooled by this early success either because I know I’m gonna run into way more challenging situations as I continue. I’ve done about 20 cold approaches in the last month and AA is quickly disappearing. Very excited to keep going!
Now armed with some GC knowledge and hours of reading the articles, I was hungry to test it out on a new girl and start fresh. My game prior to this was full of doubt and uncertainty about how & when to proceed, so I was determined to follow Chase's advice to the letter! (As much as possible).
So 2 weeks ago, I met a new girl at a bar where I was playing a show (I play music), so I had excellent social proof going for me. Cute blonde, 21. I asked how her night was going, introduced myself, talked a bit, asked her about her favorite music & about herself. She was with her friends so I would stop by her table now and again and chat for a bit while doing random things to prepare for my show. After I finished my set, she came up to tell me she had to go. I suggested we hang out/go for a coffee and I got her number.
I sent a short icebreaker text about 2.5 hrs later, to which she replied, and then the next morning she beat me to the punch and texted me first. Both promising signs.
I kept my texts relatively short and focused on setting up a date, with a little bit of information and consideration thrown in. I tried to move fast, so I proposed a date the same day she texted me (she was busy), then the day after (busy again), then 2 days later (she first said yes, then backed out the day of). Finally, we agreed to do it 2 days after that.
We met for drinks at a bar and I tried to get a some compliance right away (asked her to "sit over here", "pass me my coat"...). I started the conversation light and then started deep diving. The conversation was about 80% her 20% me. I tried not to provide too much value and talked humbly about myself. About 2 hours in, while we were on the topic of drugs, I suggested we go and smoke some weed and try "my new bong". (Indirectly asking her to come back to my place, as well as providing a benefit for doing so). She agreed.
We got to my place. I set up the bong, got us some drinks. Then followed Chase's excellent rule for beginners: No new girl you bring back to your place should be there longer than 10 minutes without you trying to kiss her. (Genius). So I got closer while the conversation was clicking, and gave her a manhandle kiss. She was into it. Then I kind of retreated and went back to talking about something trivial like packing the bong, as if nothing had happened (to confuse her a little. Again, Chase's tactic). Then 5 min later, I went for a second kiss and everything just took off from there. Clothes started coming off and I proceeded to have some of the best sex of my life. She did give some initial resistance, before oral, and before sex (first claiming she was on her rag, which turned out wasn't true). I was unfazed and just kept persisting physically. I truly was not concerned about how far things would go. I was actually in disbelief that things had progressed as fast as they did!
The experience blew my mind. I'd never had sex on a 1st date before this. Never thought I’d be able to do it, and couldn't believe just how effective the GC advice was, every step of the way. And that was one of the biggest things: having a plan every step of the way, a method of how to proceed, which also gave me a lot of confidence. In the past, without this knowledge, I would have moved slower and 100% messed something up along the way. Even if she’d already been “in the bag” when we met.
Totally got a wicked shot of confidence to kick-start my learning about seduction! As well as confirmation that this stuff works. But I'm not completely fooled by this early success either because I know I’m gonna run into way more challenging situations as I continue. I’ve done about 20 cold approaches in the last month and AA is quickly disappearing. Very excited to keep going!
My only suggestions would be, be more proactive in getting the number, if you do it after she says she has to go it's kind of a Joe-Average move rather than a boss move, and in setting up the date investigate logistics and timing before making the concrete proposal (so she is more likely to say yes, avoiding negative compliance momentum) and if she can't do it give her a bit more space to counter offer, like ignore her for a few days, this discourages negative compliance whereas bombarding her with invitations encourages it. As to the date itself, what a fucking boss 
