FU 1st phone # (conti.)

[JRob]

So I finally worked up the nerve to call that girl from the St. Patrick’s Day parade after party on Saturday night.
I didn’t know what to say on a 1st phone call, but I eventually found this article.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/tacti ... -call-girl
So there are a couple of things I missed right from the start. 1) I didn’t text after meeting her (but she did say that her phone was dead); 2) I waited two full days to call.
Also, the name she gave included a maiden name so that gave me pause too.
Anyhow here’s how it went.

Me: Hi, is this (then her name)?
Her: Yes, this is (her name)
Me: This is (my real name), that nice gentleman that you chatted with at (name of bar/club) on Saturday.
Her: Umm. Actually, it’s kind of hazy. (I didn’t hear it until she repeated it later)
Me: Did you ever catch up with your friends that night?
Her: Yes, yes I sure did [chuckling].
Me: One of these days we should conspire to have fun and let them chase you.
Her: [Chuckling] Yeah that would.
Me: So how’s your week going?
Her: It’s going well, pretty good at work and pretty good here.
Me: I’m having a busy week, but a fun one.
(I went on to tell a couple of jokes about me temporary phone and how bad I am with names, and got a few chuckles BUT)
Her: I have to go. I have to feed my daughter
Me: Okay, nice talking to you

Yeah, that’s right always ask if they’re single.
So the moral of the story is twofold. 1) ALWAYS, ask if they’re single, 2) In day game there’s no drunken fog to contend with.
Also, my real name can be intermediating so I could use my nickname, J. For speed and simplicity. Oh well, back to grind. It's still a numbers game, and I've got to keep at it.

 

[Seppuku]

Hey JRob,

No luck, but congrats anyway, it takes a lots of balls to do this. On the short list of things you missed, I would add 3) Call with a clear purpose or point, e.g. setting up a meeting.

Hey I don't know where you are in the world, but here where I am the messaging platforms like Viber, Whatsapp, WeChat etc... are very widespread, pretty much everyone uses one of these. It's a huge plus. And also for asking numbers.

On Thursday evening I was in a bar, and I met a girl. I sit next to her, we talk and the vibe is good. I take out my phone and tell her "selfie time!" and take a nice shot of both of us. "I will send it to you! Do you use Whatsapp or Viber?" I open my address book and let her enter her number. Now I see her under Whatsapp, and transfer the picture to her. All this the same evening, with her at my side all the time while I do this. Outcome: 1. I have her number, 2. I already sent her the first "ice breaker" message. All this done very smoothly and naturally. It's just great! The next day she was the one to text me first, and we have an upcoming appointment.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[HellAtlantic]

This was weird. Seppuku is right, you had balls in calling, but you stacked the odds against you from the start.

You called her out of nowhere. You should've texted her first a few times first. She probably gave her number to like 10 guys that day.

You actually said "one of these days we should conspire to have fun"? Who are you, Shakespeare? Bro lighten up. You probably came off sounding a bit too rigid. I would drop the English gentlemen schtick if I were you, lighten up and be more polarizing. And don't contact girls with a call for your initial contact, text first.

 

[JRob]

Seppuku, thanks for the excellent advice. A selfie definitely stops me from being a disembodied voice on the phone. On a side note, I just started on Tinder. That's a lot of swiping and messaging, but fun.