2 CRUSHES AND CLUELESS TEXTING

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

Okay so about the crushes:

there's this girl I see in college cafeteria everyday, she's so bad its insane. I want to fuck so bad. Probably the most attractive girl I've seen in a long time, and I've seen a lot of hot girls.

My question about her is: Should I approach her now with my very bad fundamentals and skills OR should I wait a couple months (time is not an issue as she's there everyday) and approach her when my fundamentals ands skills are much better? Which strategy is more effective? Part of me wants to get it over with and shoot my shot, other part of me doesn't want to fuck it up.

Also in the cafeteria is this Starbuck barista who works there on thursdays. She's also very attractive, however, she's not always the one taking orders sometimes she's making the coffee. How would I approach her on a day where she is making the coffee and therefore harder to access?

Texting:

I met a girl at lunch yesterday and got her number, we are both psych majors so the conversation was mostly about psych. I went on the girls chase website and found the texting guide and followed it, here's the text I thought of:

Hey, x its y from lunch the other day. how are your psych studies going? I'm currently falling asleep in my psych class the teacher is so boring we should get coffee sometime, maybe I could pick your brain on some psychology.

Before I sent the text, I showed it to my friend who's a girl and she said it was too long, she then showed the text to all my other friends who were sitting with us and then everybody got on my case about it being too long (rolling my eyes rn)

so I shortened the text to this:

Hey x, its y from yesterday at lunch. How are your psych studies going?

This text I sent.

My question is which text is better and why?

 

[Conquistador]

IMHO the shorter one by far. The first one says too much in one go. Also long texts, while not inherently bad, should be viewed with skepticism depending on context.

Not sure about the barista.

There's nothing wrong with crushing on girls, but don't get invested in the outcome. Really don't.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@brokenheartlover1 dude! Definitely clueless texting, but that's cool and I understand exactly where you got the idea from. You're actually on the right lines, you've just compressed a few texts into one message and I don't think your interaction was strong enough to pull this off.

Forget the texting guide you followed for now, it's outdated and there's better resources available on GC and the boards. First check out the 14 texts you'll need article on the main site, this is the blue print you want and secondly check out @Skills text guide on the forum, banter - soft close - had close.

The shorter message is much better, the long message is:

Greeting, information, question, dull information, soft close, justification.

That's a lot, and you're asking a lot. You're providing dull information and then asking to meet, you sound like a bundle of fun...
You've also said you met her at lunch the other day... why didn't you message straight after? The longer you wait the more awkward it is, message sooner dude! There's an article that even says to text while you're still with them.

The shorter message is better, but could be improved. Message sooner! From the first article I mentioned, you're looking for what's called an ice breaker message "hey NAME, it's NAME from PLACE, it was fun meeting you" is ten times better already. The question itself isn't that bad, its relatable, does call back and asks to invest, works to get you started.

This starts the banter, then transition to the soft close. Better yet, don't do in text what you could have done in person. You could have seen if she was interested in grabbing a coffee before you get the number and this makes getting the number easier. Just my persona preference, sometimes they ask for my number first and I've got to improvise

 

[Starboy]

As someone who walked down the same path as you don't fixate and idealize these girls. I don't care how good they look it's not worth it and you won't land with them the more you value them.

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You know that feeling. There's this girl you've been chasing forever. You positively, absolutely, can't stop thinking about her. She's the most amazing woman in the world -- you're certain of it. There's never been another one like her. Her laughter sounds like the delicate tinkling of the...

www.girlschase.com

Back in my freshman year of school I used to think this girl who I shared class with was going to be my soulmate cuz we were from the same country and had similiar backgrounds. At the time I thought she was beautiful and amazing and she was a "model" on top of that. How pathethic I was back then,but I was 18 and barely talked with girls in hs in a dating context. Years later I saw her and she looked basic as fuck.

Flux beat me to it those texting articles of Chase are outdated and honestly speaking they are pretty bad no disrespect to him. Idk anybody from the community who's used those with consistency and set up dates with that I kinda wish those were removed. Also a lot of these how to/technical articles on the gc website are with a cold approach context. It's not directed on social circle specifically college which is a whole nother ballgame. Girls are girls,but where you meet them changes your process and how you talk to them. Hector has a college book that could help you understand college game better just don't do any his sexual direct stuff.

Shorter texts are always the best you don't wanna appear like you are investing more than she is. Good guideline is match her texts in energy and length.

As for those two girls look you need to run a lot of volume and stop worrying about the outcome. You're so concerned about the possibility of fucking up that you don't even try in the first place. Go densitize yourself to rejection and approach 50-100 women that live like 5-10 miles away from where you live/your campus and you won't worry about what if I say the wrong thing to this girl I like and I have to come across her again. I will say that with hired guns I liked I thought I had all the time in the world to talk to them,but eventually I wouldn't see them anymore. Same with some college girls.

There's no perfect solution to get you those two girls you have your eye on. You have to be willing to take risks and lower your expectations. Be friendly introduce yourself,but don't make your intentions clear from the start build some rapport first.

Once you spend a lot of time around cute/hot girls in social circle you develop some standards of personality characteristics of what you like and dislike in a girl besides just how she looks. Right now you're just thinking she looks good I wanna fuck and you're totally disregarding their personality and character.

Also adjust your language you're not a high school teenager anymore you're a young man you don't "crush" on girls.

 

[Conquistador]

Once you spend a lot of time around cute/hot girls in social circle you develop some standards of personality characteristics of what you like and dislike in a girl besides just how she looks. Right now you're just thinking she looks good I wanna fuck and you're totally disregarding their personality and character.

I mean, if you want to screw her whole self, body, mind, soul, that's fine too. I've met girls whose personalities were even hotter than their actual bodies. So long as you want to experience her rather than use her as a sex doll.

IMHO the "knowledge" part is as important as the "carnal" part.

If a woman was willing and able to offer me easy access to her entire self, all my scruples would probably fly out the window. It's the sort of offer no real man can refuse. The few glimpses I've seen of transcendent femininity have led to a lot of deep relaxing non-ejaculatory orgasms.

And altho I'm only beginning to realize this, the same holds true for us vis-a-vis women. If and when they can perceive the essence of our masculinity, it turns them on like nothing else.

Sorry for the philosophical ramblings.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

As someone who walked down the same path as you don't fixate and idealize these girls. I don't care how good they look it's not worth it and you won't land with them the more you value them.

Can't Stop Thinking About Her? Here's Why You Need to Meet More Girls

You know that feeling. There's this girl you've been chasing forever. You positively, absolutely, can't stop thinking about her. She's the most amazing woman in the world -- you're certain of it. There's never been another one like her. Her laughter sounds like the delicate tinkling of the...

www.girlschase.com

Back in my freshman year of school I used to think this girl who I shared class with was going to be my soulmate cuz we were from the same country and had similiar backgrounds. At the time I thought she was beautiful and amazing and she was a "model" on top of that. How pathethic I was back then,but I was 18 and barely talked with girls in hs in a dating context. Years later I saw her and she looked basic as fuck.

Flux beat me to it those texting articles of Chase are outdated and honestly speaking they are pretty bad no disrespect to him. Idk anybody from the community who's used those with consistency and set up dates with that I kinda wish those were removed. Also a lot of these how to/technical articles on the gc website are with a cold approach context. It's not directed on social circle specifically college which is a whole nother ballgame. Girls are girls,but where you meet them changes your process and how you talk to them. Hector has a college book that could help you understand college game better just don't do any his sexual direct stuff.

Shorter texts are always the best you don't wanna appear like you are investing more than she is. Good guideline is match her texts in energy and length.

As for those two girls look you need to run a lot of volume and stop worrying about the outcome. You're so concerned about the possibility of fucking up that you don't even try in the first place. Go densitize yourself to rejection and approach 50-100 women that live like 5-10 miles away from where you live/your campus and you won't worry about what if I say the wrong thing to this girl I like and I have to come across her again. I will say that with hired guns I liked I thought I had all the time in the world to talk to them,but eventually I wouldn't see them anymore. Same with some college girls.

There's no perfect solution to get you those two girls you have your eye on. You have to be willing to take risks and lower your expectations. Be friendly introduce yourself,but don't make your intentions clear from the start build some rapport first.

Once you spend a lot of time around cute/hot girls in social circle you develop some standards of personality characteristics of what you like and dislike in a girl besides just how she looks. Right now you're just thinking she looks good I wanna fuck and you're totally disregarding their personality and character.

Also adjust your language you're not a high school teenager anymore you're a young man you don't "crush" on girls.

Thanks for the advice. Attachments lead to all suffering and I think the longer I wait, the more I’m gonna get attached to the thought of these girls. I’ll approach them the next decent/good opportunity I get. If these opportunities fail, I have many more coming the longer I stay in the game. Thanks

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

@brokenheartlover1 dude! Definitely clueless texting, but that's cool and I understand exactly where you got the idea from. You're actually on the right lines, you've just compressed a few texts into one message and I don't think your interaction was strong enough to pull this off.

Forget the texting guide you followed for now, it's outdated and there's better resources available on GC and the boards. First check out the 14 texts you'll need article on the main site, this is the blue print you want and secondly check out @Skills text guide on the forum, banter - soft close - had close.

The shorter message is much better, the long message is:

Greeting, information, question, dull information, soft close, justification.

That's a lot, and you're asking a lot. You're providing dull information and then asking to meet, you sound like a bundle of fun...
You've also said you met her at lunch the other day... why didn't you message straight after? The longer you wait the more awkward it is, message sooner dude! There's an article that even says to text while you're still with them.

The shorter message is better, but could be improved. Message sooner! From the first article I mentioned, you're looking for what's called an ice breaker message "hey NAME, it's NAME from PLACE, it was fun meeting you" is ten times better already. The question itself isn't that bad, its relatable, does call back and asks to invest, works to get you started.

This starts the banter, then transition to the soft close. Better yet, don't do in text what you could have done in person. You could have seen if she was interested in grabbing a coffee before you get the number and this makes getting the number easier. Just my persona preference, sometimes they ask for my number first and I've got to improvise

Got it. I’ll take a look at those articles and remember to send shorter texts. Also yeah, I’ve had shitshows over online text so my hesitancy is why I took a day to reach out. Will be more proactive next time.