25 year old Kissless VIRGIN HELP!!!!!

[nexus321]

So far in life I've been constantly rejected by women. I'm a brown guy living in Bergen Norway (which is a pretty white place) Not a lot of ethnic diversity here. Everytime I approach a girl here I just get the look like she's not interested. Some have already said "sorry I don't date brown guys" ouch.

I met a girl on this activites website. We started going out for coffee. I got the impression that she was into me so I tried to kiss her. She pulled back and looked at me with pity and said. "I just want to be friends." I was devastated. This was the second time I tried to kiss a girl only to be rejected once again.

This is not the life I want to live. I'm young, I want to date. Or find someone special. I just don't want to be alone anymore. I've asked this question a million times on different websites. Yet no one can come up with an answer that solves my problem. Help! I feel like my life is hopeless. What do I say to women? How do I get them to like me? I've gotten so desperate that I'm thinking of using escourts. I don't want to though. I feel like I'm no ones type.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Richard]

Help! I feel like my life is hopeless. What do I say to women? How do I get them to like me? I've gotten so desperate that I'm thinking of using escourts. I don't want to though. I feel like I'm no ones type.

Right here. This is your issue.

Your attitudes and beliefs influence your actions, and your actions influence your thoughts and beliefs... you control both. You feel hopeless, you feel like women don't like you, you feel nothing except negativity from women and that in turn causes you to place women very highly in your life which then causes you to treat them like platinum instead of bronze, like goddesses instead of people.

Let me tell you that there is no magic pill to pick up and becoming attractive. It takes effort to change yourself for the better, and it takes some grinding to get better with women. There are absolutely no lines that are universal and will get all women to instantly fall for you.

If you're reading material from this site you absolutely have to practice it, and work at it until you get it down pat and then move on to another article. You cannot just read material and expect it to change your life over night: you have to practice it and keep at it.

If I were you - I'd start by changing my walk, then my tone of voice and rate of speaking, and then eye contact.

-Richard

 

[Drck]

If you want to find solution try to identify what is the problem first. Here is IMO the problem, or least some of it:

You are too needy and too clingy. You are chasing. You think that women will make you happy and thus you feel hopeless without woman. You want women to like you, you are trying to prove yourself to them, and it stresses you out if it doesn't work. You are very desperate to get a woman, you want to get yourself tied or bonded to one particular woman. You get devastated and depressed when you get rejected, so you want to give up. Most likely you just want to get married and "get it over with". You are like a little child who wants his toy, like right now, and if he can't get it he screems or breaks some stuff. Or just holds the anger in himself and plays victim, finding excuses. There is always plenty excuses around, and maybe some will feel sorry for him.

All this is wrong. If I can read it from your text, most women know it too. They can read it in you and they run away from you because of that. You need to change this attitude by exactly 180 degrees.

There is no single answer, there is no single button that you can push and make it go away. Welcome to the club.

Learn to be more independent. Learn to be happy without woman. Don't try to prove yourself to anyone. In stead of getting devastated and depressed when you get rejected, learn to walk away from any woman with smile. No drama, no hurt feelings. Find some hobby or job that you really like, and work hard to get ahead.

Learn that chasing is no longer working; in stead you have to "offer" something to that girl so she can join you in your life, perhaps combination of different things: masculinity, maturity, stability (e.g. good job), light emotions, non-judgmental attitude, winner attitude, abundance mentality... Learn about Nice Guy and learn about Alpha. Learn to relax, learn to be cool dude, learn to be sexy man. Create some social circle, even couple of friends is good enough. Go out with men that get girls and learn from them by just being around...

With girls you have to be patient. Girls are rather 'light' in thinking and emotions, they are more silly and cute, more childish (especially the younger ones). They are sexy and they want to have fun, not so much seriousness, no so much commitment (at first). You seem that you come up like a 'heavy weight' - so they run away...

Call escort if you have to, go to a strip bar. Who cares? It's your life, it's your experience. Try to date different age groups of girls. Younger might be too picky as they have lots of choices, there is too much nonsense to deal with in younger girls. More mature girls, 27+ are becoming more desperate as their biological clock is ticking and they want to get married, have family, yet they can't find decent guy because each good provider is already taken...

 

[Maxxz]

Hey Nexus,

Can't really add much to what Richard and Drck have said, as I think they pretty much spell things out to you. I'll just say so what? Wanna fuck an escort? Do it, just make sure it's safe. It'll give you all the sexual experience you need.

Now, it won't give you the experience or skill you want with picking up girls, that you learn by reading what's on this site and practicing it live in real time. And besides you're in Europe, if Nowergian girls won't give you what you want travel to other neighboring countries, come to the states -- they're girls all over the world buddy

 

[nexus321]

But what do i do if I get lonely? Surely life isn't meant to be lived that way?

 

[nexus321]

Hey Nexus,

Can't really add much to what Richard and Drck have said, as I think they pretty much spell things out to you. I'll just say so what? Wanna fuck an escort? Do it, just make sure it's safe. It'll give you all the sexual experience you need.

Now, it won't give you the experience or skill you want with picking up girls, that you learn by reading what's on this site and practicing it live in real time. And besides you're in Europe, if Nowergian girls won't give you what you want travel to other neighboring countries, come to the states -- they're girls all over the world buddy

You know what, I'm just gonna move to the states. I'm gonna get a job and save up and then move. I can't stand this country anymore. If you aren't a white norwegian it's next to impossible to meet someone. And yeah I am obsessed with finding someone. How can I not be? We're human beings. We like to be around other people. Living life alone and depressed is no way to live. I want love. I want sex. I don't think that's asking for too much.

 

[Drck]

"I want love. I want sex."
>>>> That is excellent, and keep it that way. Just be smart about it, e.g. you can't be that direct and needy with girls because that is what pushes them away.

"And yea I am obsessed with finding someone"
>>>> Even better. Become obsessed with studying seduction, the more obsessed you are the better you'll get.

"You know what, I'm just gonna move to the states"
>>>> Do it, move to a different place, to different city or country. It helps, try at least 3-4 different places. People ARE different at another places, and if grass looks greener on the other side of the fence - grass IS greener on the other side of the fence. I've experienced it many times. Good luck

 

[nexus321]

"I want love. I want sex."
>>>> That is excellent, and keep it that way. Just be smart about it, e.g. you can't be that direct and needy with girls because that is what pushes them away.

"And yea I am obsessed with finding someone"
>>>> Even better. Become obsessed with studying seduction, the more obsessed you are the better you'll get.

"You know what, I'm just gonna move to the states"
>>>> Do it, move to a different place, to different city or country. It helps, try at least 3-4 different places. People ARE different at another places, and if grass looks greener on the other side of the fence - grass IS greener on the other side of the fence. I've experienced it many times. Good luck

Thanks man!

 

[sneaky_charm]

Hi Nexus!

Let me ask you a few things:

1. How many cold approaches have you done till now?
2. How would you rate your physique on a scale of 1 to 10? (10 being Ryan Gosling maybe)
3. How would you rate your dressing sense on a scale of 1 to 10? (10 being Justin Timberlake or Ryan Gosling looking hot)

If your answers are:

1. Less than 200
2. Less than 7
3. Less than 8

Then I guess you have work to do! But then again, I've never been to Norway, so I don't really know. Were you born there or moved from a different place?

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

I found a quote by the guy who runs Good Looking Loser, Chris, he said this about a late bloomer guy who lost his virginity late, he was a virgin 2 days until turning 28, he said "There's one guy we've worked with (he's not on here unfortunately) who was a virgin until 2 days before his 28th birthday. Now he's banged over 70 girls over the past 2.5years. That guy, I guarantee, is better with women than all of his friends combined that might have come upon more pussy in their earlier years."

 

[Animatronic_Squirrel]

Hiya nexus321.

I was 24 before I got laid and only recently had a girl who attracted enough to me to want me as a boyfriend. I'm 25 too.

First off, its brilliant you're pissed off that you're not getting laid/living the life you want. Stay pissed the fuck off.

Your plans sound fine. Go for them. In the meantime, focus on your fundamentals - fashion, walk, voice, movement, facial expressions. Dominant attitudes, coolness, conversational skills. These can all be worked on largely in ALL social domains and circumstances of your life - you don't need to be going on dates to learn to walk like John Wayne. You can practice your conversational skills waiting in line at McDonald's with the dude standing next to you, and its easy to crack a joke and a smile at the cashier (and - should be needless to say, at least one article for each of these skill-sets/mindsets exists on the GirlsChase blog).

I'd say the main focus right now is on expanding your social circle and improving your social calibration- the ability to make friends and be seen as a fairly cool guy was a good place for me to start, and gave me access to people and women to improve my abilities with/on. The single article that helped me the most getting started socially was https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-not-be-creepy-guy. It gives you a place to start, and a way to analyze where you need the most improvement in terms of social skills.

Best of luck! Its a rough road, but its totally doable.

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

Hiya nexus321.

I was 24 before I got laid and only recently had a girl who attracted enough to me to want me as a boyfriend. I'm 25 too.

First off, its brilliant you're pissed off that you're not getting laid/living the life you want. Stay pissed the fuck off.

Your plans sound fine. Go for them. In the meantime, focus on your fundamentals - fashion, walk, voice, movement, facial expressions. Dominant attitudes, coolness, conversational skills. These can all be worked on largely in ALL social domains and circumstances of your life - you don't need to be going on dates to learn to walk like John Wayne. You can practice your conversational skills waiting in line at McDonald's with the dude standing next to you, and its easy to crack a joke and a smile at the cashier (and - should be needless to say, at least one article for each of these skill-sets/mindsets exists on the GirlsChase blog).

I'd say the main focus right now is on expanding your social circle and improving your social calibration- the ability to make friends and be seen as a fairly cool guy was a good place for me to start, and gave me access to people and women to improve my abilities with/on. The single article that helped me the most getting started socially was https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-not-be-creepy-guy. It gives you a place to start, and a way to analyze where you need the most improvement in terms of social skills.

Best of luck! Its a rough road, but its totally doable.

and OP, I recommend stop masturbating, try to limit your fapping as much as possible

 

[lux7]

I wouldn't recommend moving, if moving means "run away from troubles".

It's a roulette, and if things are better in US -certainly not a place famous for great and easy pussy-, then you moved for nothing.

Work on improving.
I haven't great success here with the "locals", but... There are girls from pretty much all over the world in Europe, very possibly many from your own nation as well .

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

I wonder if it is more common in this generation than in past generations, for more guys these days to be entering their 20's and some even their 30's as still a virgin, never had a girlfriend before, or has it been this way for a while, it's just more wide-spread, known now because of the Internet.

 

[ocantu1987]

and OP, I recommend stop masturbating, try to limit your fapping as much as possible

this man^^^ and try taking cold showers, i think they really help me when i feel blue haha its intense, but you get used to it.

many benefits to cold showers, relieving depression is one of them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qxz8QNq ... e=youtu.be

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

wonder if the OP has made any progress yet, because I believe 25 is most likely when it becomes a major crisis point in a guys mind if he is still a virgin.

 

[ocantu1987]

yeah im 27 and never had a girlfriend. Ive been laid though.

 

[FeelIWastedMyYouth]

yeah im 27 and never had a girlfriend. Ive been laid though.

so you've only gotten laid through friends with benefits, casual sex or one night stands?