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Thursday 7 March going out
Last week on Thursday 7 March I went out to this area that gets lit on Thursday nights that I've previously mentioned in Smash City.

It was my first time out there this year, and I went there to meet two buddies I hadn't seen in a while.

The first buddy, this handsome player Central European dude, was flanked by his work colleagues, one of which was this tanned HB Latin American / Spanish that I had good EC with. When they left, she said "I guess I'll see you around" and I got stuck wondering whether she wanted me to exchange contacts with her, since we had clear chemical attraction. I bid my goodbyes to first buddy and his workmates and went to meet second buddy.

We ended up at this Italian bar, where second buddy bought me a lemonade.

We started catching up inside the bar, whereupon I opened a 2-set of hotties with an indirect question about them serving pizza.

Then we headed to the area outside the bar, and I noticed (I had already noticed when I'd first arrived there to meet my other buddy) that girls were giving me AIs.

It has to do with the new haircut I'm experimenting with and style adjustments. I bought this pimp-ass bomber jacket last year for winter that cost me a pretty penny but that on the other hand has turned me into a pussy magnet whenever I'm wearing it.

Shortly after moving outside, I noticed this pretty girl looking over every so often. I was chatting with buddy, and then I just approached this pretty girl's set to compliment the hat that one of the girls comprising her set was wearing.

And while I was delivering the compliment opener, explaining why I liked the hat, pretty girl opened me.

Pretty girl and I had a really strong connection.

Since I'd just been left scratching my head wondering whether I could have exchanged contacts with the hot Latina, very soon into my conversation with pretty girl I asked her where she lived and then told her where I lived and that there was this sick rooftop bar and she said she liked it and I said "we should go there some time" and she beamed and said "I'd like that." So I whipped out my smartphone and, while we continued connecting, started typing her name out, then just handed it to her. She wrote her number down then said "but don't you have insta?" and I said, "sure, but I don't use it much." So I took her insta too. Now this was a clever move. More anon.

I noticed she was a super social girl, really good vibe. And we kept realizing that we're similar on various points. It was almost eery. Like in 2 months' time I'm going to visit a city and my travel buddies and I are going to a restaurant in a village that is close to where she was born (where she's from) super random. We're both into politics (and share broadly similar political views, though I suspect I may be more socially conservative than her). She's even in a political party (I want to get into politics later in my life to try to help in the development of my home country). She was also impressed with my native English accent, despite being a foreigner, as well as what I studied and my passions.

She was saying that "we may bump into each other" (when I visit the city and restaurant in a village) but then it turns out she'll only be going back home later in the month so I told her "I guess you'll miss me" and she said "but we can see each other here." (Yes we can :)) I told her, "Sure, yeah, I'll send you a message and we'll organize a day and time to check out that rooftop bar." So it was a super solid close.


Thursday 7 March to Friday 15 March - texting
Now numbers from NG tend to be bunk, but I had a feeling that this one would be different. Still, I knew I had to keep texting alive to ensure that I'd end up meeting this gal, since it quickly transpired, after a couple texts, that she would only be available more than 1 week later.

Nevertheless, there were positive signs. Her first three texts to me included one that read "we should hang out some time". (Soft close)

Since she was going to travel, I told her "you're going to love xyz" (the city she was visiting), which prompted her to send me a photo of the city once she arrived. I then told her "send me more pics the next days" to keep up her investment (compliance). I also used texting as an excuse to lightly flirt with her. I did this by hearting some of her texts (2 in total, important not to overdo), by teasing her slightly (I'd already done a bit of that when we'd met), by sending her a kiss emoji (I'd teasingly asked her to "bring the sun with her" upon her return, and we had a sunny day this past Thursday 14 March so I texted her that day saying "thanks for bringing the sun (kiss)" and finally the nail in the coffin was when I went out again on Thursday 14 March night to the same spot to meet the second buddy I'd met the week prior and as we were leaving the area around the Italian bar I spotted her arriving (it looked like her from afar), so I texted her, when I got home that night, "hey pretty girl in the black cap (she was wearing a black cap), don't forget our drink tomorrow".

I forgot to mention that over the weekend I also added a cute photo I accidentally happened upon in my computer files of me hugging this adorable little girl to my insta and Facebook profiles. She obviously saw this photo on my insta.


The date (Friday 15 March)
I had said let's meet at 9 but she arrived at 10.45 lmao. I went to pick her up and the rooftop bar was closed, so I tried bouncing her to one or two other venues which were also unavailable. In a flash of inspiration, I took her to this big beer joint with a hookup vibe where we grabbed beers and stood outside chatting, muted by the noise of the bass booming from within the bar and the loud voices of all the revelers hanging about, jabbering away excitedly.

I made allusions to my desire for discretion. I mentioned sex, while framing people from her region, very early on in the conversation, and then orgasm, a little later, when we spoke about boxing (a sport she is now practicing), concerning the overwhelmingly relaxing feeling you get after a sparring session. We spoke about being single, and connection, where I told her I was amazed by how easily and on how many points we'd connected.

As we'd walked to this bar I hadn't held her, just kissed her on cheeks when greeting her.

But now that we walked out I held her waist. It was midnight.

I was thinking of taking her to another bar close to mine since I'd paid for both drinks (the barmaid was a feminazi and I knew not to risk asking her to split the bill considering a previous unsavory experience) and she'd said "I'll get the next round."

But in a flash of inspiration, since I realized she wasn't asking me "Where are you taking me," which I knew from experience years ago doing this with tourists from my tours frequently to mean that she was green, I transmogrified myself to my former strongman alpha tour guide being and just whisked her straight to mine, saying "this is me" as we arrived, and she replying "oh, but you didn't say you were taking me home," and me saying "I have a balcony with a view," and her saying "okay, let's go."

At home, since this had been an abrupt arrival, I gave her time to settle in, put on the Miles Davis, poured us a beer, we chatted on the balcony, and only when we came back inside, I started kissing her as she was talking, we continued talking, sat on the bed, then after a while I just pounced.

I was expecting resistance but there was none.

She had nice big tits, soft skin, she smelled wonderful, and, yeah, on the thicc side, but not fat by any means. 2 odd years ago this girl was hot (Dev, Skip, and Kvothe have seen her), and with a bit of sport, she could still get back up there.

There she lay on my king-size bed, this pretty dark brown curly-haired brunette with black eyes, and I was overcome with lust. I'd gotten all her top garments off and now I sent a probe down there with my finger and entered her flower. She started moaning in my ear. Bottom garments came off, except panties/boxers. But we were starting to dry hump and things were getting hot and heavy, so the rest came off. She wanted me to put a condom on, and I obliged, but then I still went in raw, just to get hard, quickly pulled out and as I put the rubber on I jizzed into the rubber, which put me out of commission for a while. This had never happened to me before. I just kept up foreplay while batteries recharged, then went back in.

Over chit-chat on the bed, we discovered we are even more similar, in that we've both battled with chronic pain. She's still in the thick of it, it seems (she gets it also while having sex, I'm guessing hers is fibromyalgia), whereas I'm vanquishing my issues with success, even if I may get the odd relapse, like earlier this year when I was under considerable stress while applying for a very competitive school.

I walked her to the elevator and kissed her cheek adieu. She thanked me for the night. Before she left she'd said I didn't seem like the kind of guy who wasn't romantic (I'd told her I'd only ever had two monogamous girlfriends, one for 1 week when I was 12, and another for 1 month when I was 18, who was super possessive and had traumatized me so I'd been single since, albeit having informal relationships with girls for over 1 year sometimes) because she said I was being romantic for a "first date," which I thought was cute. She meant the affection I was showing her in bed (granted a good portion of it was while I waited to get hard again after premature ejac lmao).

Thanks for reading!
 

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Bismarck good job I like your humor when you do your lay reports, I wonder if you use humor here and there sporadically like in your lr, cause you have it....the sharing about your 2 relationships is too much information, prior to 3 lays to keep on rotation, this can backfire, don't get paranoid about romantic, just agree amplify and troll, yes I am very romantic when girl sneeze I say bless you, when girl drops something I pick it up, when I bust a nut make sure it never hit the eyes, see how romantic I am.....the taking her home without her knowing can backfire and cost resistance with some girls, but not with all. .the plausible deniability like the balcony stuff is more ideal vs surprise that could backfire, happened to me... Did you ask her to text you when she gets home make sure she is ok...or you just want one and done... last thing again just nitpick, make sure the places were you going to take her are open lol again this can backfire too, happened to me as well... anyways good job..
 

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Hey Skills,

Nice to see you commenting on here.

I do a tiny bit of C&F, yes, but only a smidge, since I don't like to go overboard with it. With this girl I did it also when I first met her, asking her if she had been passionate about metal (the substance, not the music) since she was a little girl, if she already knew back then that this would be her career, which made her crack up.

With the texting I endeavoured to keep it light and fun, flirting.

The info about my only two monogamous girlfriends was in response to her talking about how she'd been single most of her life. Will keep in mind to not give up too much personal info with girls on the first meet going forward though, thanks for the heads up.

I texted her "Let me know when you get home" and she responded, then she wrote "Thanks for the night" and we've been texting since.

I'd be happy to have her as a FB. However, she set the frame that I haven't had any serious relationship since I got here because I haven't found anyone (when I told her I didn't have time for anything serious before that) and I sort of agreed.

Still, she seems to be cool with informal relationships of various stripes, being socially left-wing, so I should be good. If not, I'll have to stop seeing her, even though she has potential - with a bit of fixer-upper game (her losing a few kgs), she could be a hottie again.
 

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Hey Skills,

Nice to see you commenting on here.

I do a tiny bit of C&F, yes, but only a smidge, since I don't like to go overboard with it. With this girl I did it also when I first met her, asking her if she had been passionate about metal (the substance, not the music) since she was a little girl, if she already knew back then that this would be her career, which made her crack up.

With the texting I endeavoured to keep it light and fun, flirting.

The info about my only two monogamous girlfriends was in response to her talking about how she'd been single most of her life. Will keep in mind to not give up too much personal info with girls on the first meet going forward though, thanks for the heads up.

I texted her "Let me know when you get home" and she responded, then she wrote "Thanks for the night" and we've been texting since.

I'd be happy to have her as a FB. However, she set the frame that I haven't had any serious relationship since I got here because I haven't found anyone (when I told her I didn't have time for anything serious before that) and I sort of agreed.

Still, she seems to be cool with informal relationships of various stripes, being socially left-wing, so I should be good. If not, I'll have to stop seeing her, even though she has potential - with a bit of fixer-upper game (her losing a few kgs), she could be a hottie again.
Oh I see in this context doesn't matter cause you knew she had been single for most of her life so in this case doesn't matter...
 

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Yeah but I still think you were on the money when you pointed out uncalibrated framing on my part re. fuckboy as opposed to bf candidate.

To be clear, I'm not against the idea of having a girlfriend, but she would have to be hot, pretty, have self-control, be educated and intelligent, also without three digit notch counts or anything close to that.

The girl in this report basically fits one or maybe two or even three of those, but she is (to my eyes) a bit too curvy, and doesn't seem to have high self-control. She also has been around (I think).

But I must be giving off the wrong signals, since she wants to meet again this week but is giving off signs that she doesn't want to be at home with me. First she suggested I come around to her neck of the woods, which I thought was fine (my thought process was "sure, we can grab a bevvie and then head to hers for smash"). And now she's saying "let's meet early, so that I can go home early, as this will be a tough week ahead." Mhmm? What?

So, do I knowingly go meet her, fully aware that I will come home with my balls between my legs, bursting with unspent seed?

Also, meeting a girl and not smashing is contrary to fuckboi protocol, right?

@TomInHo @topcat @DoWhatWorks @Skills @POB @Karea Ricardus D.
 

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Yeah but I still think you were on the money when you pointed out uncalibrated framing on my part re. fuckboy as opposed to bf candidate.
Don't get paranoid with the lover provider dynamic, guys fuck this up

To be clear, I'm not against the idea of having a girlfriend, but she would have to be hot, pretty, have self-control, be educated and intelligent, also without three digit notch counts or anything close to that.

The girl in this report basically fits one or maybe two or even three of those, but she is (to my eyes) a bit too curvy, and doesn't seem to have high self-control. She also has been around (I think).
again my observation was not about the above, is that i felt you gave too much intelligence prior to the 3 fucks, that can be used against you...
But I must be giving off the wrong signals, since she wants to meet again this week but is giving off signs that she doesn't want to be at home with me. First she suggested I come around to her neck of the woods, which I thought was fine (my thought process was "sure, we can grab a bevvie and then head to hers for smash"). And now she's saying "let's meet early, so that I can go home early, as this will be a tough week ahead." Mhmm? What?
if she soft close or hinted a meet you are guchi, if you did what most dudes do which is to after sex get lazy, and think girl is in the bag and text for logistics only, the ladder usually almost always will get push back or stuff like that (again prior to the 3 fucks), If you have enough intelligence on her and you think she is just using plausible deniability or a shit test, you are good...... If you get the feel is just to meet fuck that, you need to say, "listen and you are busy and i am very flexible, if you are going to have a busy week that is ok, don't worry we can meet some other time when is not so rush, cause i really enjoy you and your company and getting to know you, so i rather meet you later under different circumstances, i am flexible with my schedule, i hope you are too, in the past i had girls that were very inflexible and it was a turn off" So if you dont think lay there i would post pone, you don't want to go from lay to meet just no...
So, do I knowingly go meet her, fully aware that I will come home with my balls between my legs, bursting with unspent seed?

Also, meeting a girl and not smashing is contrary to fuckboi protocol, right?
nothing to do with that, is more you want asap to get to the 3 fucks

 

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@Bismarck she just wants to feel a bit of control/comfort before she fucks you again…
don’t worry, she’ll lose it all once you’ve fucked her 3 times..the very fact that she wants to meet again is positive.

What i’d suggest is you meet her somewhere convenient to you (without creating a power struggle).

Go with the intent of having a great drink and conversation, nothing more (you need to legitimately be content with going home without the pussy).

Let her talk, while you relax into the conversation, be your normal attractive self and don’t do too much (avoid frame battles just be chill), touch her when appropriate and subtly (via eye contact, vocal tone, proximity and touch) raise the sexual feelings of your first encounter.

Pull once she gives you a window.
 

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Thanks for the feedback guys.

I sent her an audio message with an excuse about not being able to meet as early as she suggested, then asking her to clarify what she had in mind, and stating what I had envisaged when she invited me to her neck of the woods (aka drink in café/bar or from off license with stroll around park then visit to her place to “drop off her scarf” (which she left at my place)).

She switched to 10 p.m. meetup at a square with bars (which is a 30-min walk from mine, less with bus), then after I inquired she said it was a 10 min walk from her place. She remained closed off from coming to the center (closer to mine) due to it being too much of a hassle what with her not wanting to go to sleep too late.

I’ll take my chances (as in, I accepted to meet her at said square, since she didn’t exclude the possibility of my dropping off her scarf at hers, even if she left it unclear, again repeating that “I will not leave too late” in the singular and not the plural).
 

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Thanks for the feedback guys.

I sent her an audio message with an excuse about not being able to meet as early as she suggested, then asking her to clarify what she had in mind, and stating what I had envisaged when she invited me to her neck of the woods (aka drink in café/bar or from off license with stroll around park then visit to her place to “drop off her scarf” (which she left at my place)).

She switched to 10 p.m. meetup at a square with bars (which is a 30-min walk from mine, less with bus), then after I inquired she said it was a 10 min walk from her place. She remained closed off from coming to the center (closer to mine) due to it being too much of a hassle what with her not wanting to go to sleep too late.

I’ll take my chances (as in, I accepted to meet her at said square, since she didn’t exclude the possibility of my dropping off her scarf at hers, even if she left it unclear, again repeating that “I will not leave too late” in the singular and not the plural).
That's perfect 10 minutes from her house give her a false time constrain let me use the bathroom real quick before I leave I know you have to wake up early, when saying goodbye kiss her and escalate...
 
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She flaked.
 

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the flaking could be for 3 reasons only you know you have more intel than us on her:

- you misunderstood the whole thing, and she actually wanted to smash but go back home early due to obligations.
-You may have killed the plausible deniability here
"I inquired she said it was a 10 min walk from her place. She remained closed off from coming to the center (closer to mine) due to it being too much of a hassle what n after with her not wanting to go to sleep too late."
- ^ or she got overwhelmed with the change of plans and re-scheduling' (i had this happened)

hopefully is not completely dead yet.... And maybe she just got overwhelmed with next day activities and changed her mind and guosted...... @topcat i didn't like this part of your advice:

What i’d suggest is you meet her somewhere convenient to you (without creating a power struggle).

^ because knowing bis for years i knew that could have cause problems (but i know what you were saying) just for bis i knew it had a possibility of backfiring...

Bis what do you think she flaked?? she soft closed you should have been in the bag.... weird...
 

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I'm not too fussed to be honest, because when I first told her that I would have limited availability this week (it was Saturday still), she sent me a message on Sunday morning saying "How about this afternoon then? during the week is hard for me" which I did not read until 8 p.m. that day as I was doing a SoMe detox and have notifications switched off on my smartphone.

I then responded explaining that I had only seen the message then (10 hours later) and why, and suggested we meet then and there. She got back to me the next day (Monday) suggesting that, "since we work close to each other, we have lunch one of these days" which I ignored, but also suggesting "maybe Tuesday evening then, but maybe you can come over to xyz (her neck of the woods)."

I then said I'd love to check her neck of the woods out, which led to her asking if I could meet at 7, "because I need to go home early, as it will be a tough week."

So all along the Tues eve thing was an exception, and when I said I couldn't make 7 and was thinking more after dinner (since she's Mediterranean, has dinner late...) she suggested 10 p.m. (which, even for me, is late) and then, yeah, the whole clarification about the square with bars being close to hers led me to green-light meeting up with her there, a message I sent at midday or so.

I think she genuinely thought she wouldn't have much energy at 8 p.m. when she sent the flake text. I've considered it may be ASD but I don't think ruminating on that front is conducive to more cock in pussy sex. I'd rather think that she does want to fuck again, but that yesterday night wasn't convenient for her.

Also, in response to her flake text, about 2 hours later, I sent her a short audio explaining that she should chill, relax, enjoy her night, and not feel guilty, also that on my side the limitations on our meeting up this week had changed because the friend who was going to visit got their flight canceled due to the airline pilots having gone on strike, so "see you soon x" at the end. She hearted my audio message. We're still texting today.

So everything is still hunky dory IMO. I plan to plunge into her pussy Fri, Sat, or Sun night.
 

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I'm not too fussed to be honest, because when I first told her that I would have limited availability this week (it was Saturday still), she sent me a message on Sunday morning saying "How about this afternoon then? during the week is hard for me" which I did not read until 8 p.m. that day as I was doing a SoMe detox and have notifications switched off on my smartphone.

I then responded explaining that I had only seen the message then (10 hours later) and why, and suggested we meet then and there. She got back to me the next day (Monday) suggesting that, "since we work close to each other, we have lunch one of these days" which I ignored, but also suggesting "maybe Tuesday evening then, but maybe you can come over to xyz (her neck of the woods)."

I then said I'd love to check her neck of the woods out, which led to her asking if I could meet at 7, "because I need to go home early, as it will be a tough week."

So all along the Tues eve thing was an exception, and when I said I couldn't make 7 and was thinking more after dinner (since she's Mediterranean, has dinner late...) she suggested 10 p.m. (which, even for me, is late) and then, yeah, the whole clarification about the square with bars being close to hers led me to green-light meeting up with her there, a message I sent at midday or so.

I think she genuinely thought she wouldn't have much energy at 8 p.m. when she sent the flake text. I've considered it may be ASD but I don't think ruminating on that front is conducive to more cock in pussy sex. I'd rather think that she does want to fuck again, but that yesterday night wasn't convenient for her.

Also, in response to her flake text, about 2 hours later, I sent her a short audio explaining that she should chill, relax, enjoy her night, and not feel guilty, also that on my side the limitations on our meeting up this week had changed because the friend who was going to visit got their flight canceled due to the airline pilots having gone on strike, so "see you soon x" at the end. She hearted my audio message. We're still texting today.

So everything is still hunky dory IMO. I plan to plunge into her pussy Fri, Sat, or Sun night.
You are good, you went dramatic with "she flaked" entry lol..
 

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The weirdest thing just happened.

I invited her over to watch the sunset over cheese and wine. She brought a nice bottle of red.

She arrives at 7.15 p.m. or so, we sit at the table and chat for a little over an hour over cheese and a glass of vino. She eventually says that she has to go to another house party, which I take as a sign to get a move on.

I stand up, take her by the hand, and start making out. She says "I'm on the period, so we can't..." I slowly move us toward the bed. We're sitting on the bed, then I get on top of her. As I go to unclip her top, she says "Sorry, I'm not feeling it...I'm having some thoughts."

Then I get up, and she does too, and sits back at the table. She says, "Do you mind if we just talk?" I say "Not at all," and I go stand by the window. She says, "Well, in that case, I should just go." She gets her things and leaves. It's 8.30 p.m.

Wtf?
 

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She says, "Do you mind if we just talk?" I say "Not at all," and I go stand by the window. She says, "Well, in that case, I should just go."

Did she interpret your "not at all" as a "no, i don't wanna talk"? Not a native English-speaker, is she?
 

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Did she interpret your "not at all" as a "no, i don't wanna talk"? Not a native English-speaker, is she?
Yeah seems a misunderstanding, and she may have felt uncomfortable on sex with a period(some girls are I like me don't do sex during periods or when they just get it when is heavy), or period was an excuse for no sex....
 

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Comes off like you were very cold and emotionless when you said not at all then walked over to the window, like skills and higher said tho it's probably just a misunderstanding. I don't know how you delivered it, maybe you said it very chill but that was the impression I got when I read that bit.

One practical and easy fix that I AM seeing tho was this bit, she said "Sorry I'm not feeling it... Im having some thoughts" this IMO was all you needed, she gave you an in to figure out her objections and then address them one by one.

"What thoughts are on your mind?"
with a warm smile

Also @Skills - After she said I'm on my period she still let Bis lead her onto the bed and also get ontop of her so I don't think it was an excuse for no sex. What i think is that she needed Bis reassurance that period sex is no big deal, we can put a towel underneath, you wanna shower blah blah blah overcome resistance etc.
 

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Comes off like you were very cold and emotionless when you said not at all then walked over to the window, like skills and higher said tho it's probably just a misunderstanding. I don't know how you delivered it, maybe you said it very chill but that was the impression I got when I read that bit.

One practical and easy fix that I AM seeing tho was this bit, she said "Sorry I'm not feeling it... Im having some thoughts" this IMO was all you needed, she gave you an in to figure out her objections and then address them one by one.

"What thoughts are on your mind?"
with a warm smile

Also @Skills - After she said I'm on my period she still let Bis lead her onto the bed and also get ontop of her so I don't think it was an excuse for no sex. What i think is that she needed Bis reassurance that period sex is no big deal, we can put a towel underneath, you wanna shower blah blah blah overcome resistance etc.
I was mentioning all the possible scenarios, it could be or, so I gave all different scenarios....I personally when she said no sex I have my period would have addressed it vs taking her to bedroom at that point...but there is also a percentage of girls that don't do period sex...
 

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Yeah maybe it was a lack of self-confidence on my part (or lack of experience dealing with different types of resistance (not the same thing as rejection, I have to remember this) in such situations) where I thought at that moment that she was closed off to sex and my thought process was something like "This girl thinks she can come over to mine and set the frame? As in, not fuck?" and got ego-bruised/"offended."

I went through a similar level of misunderstanding with this German candy bar.

I became suspicious that she was playing games (like, withholding sex in return for commitment) since she had been trying to set up second meets with anti-isolation / non-sex friendly logistics (like "let's have lunch one of these days" or "meet at 7 so I can get back home early") and flaking when I proposed isolation and sex-friendly logistics in their stead, like on Tuesday night).

So basically I stopped trusting her and became uninterested in finding out what her "thoughts" were since I adopted an ego-defensive stance. I have to say that the possibility that she did want to smash and was simply self-conscious about her period (and this not being a ruse) never even crossed my mind.

It's almost like I'm looking for confirmation that she wants to reject me at every step, fearful of it (insecure), instead of the opposite.
 

Marcellus

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Yeah maybe it was a lack of self-confidence on my part (or lack of experience dealing with different types of resistance (not the same thing as rejection, I have to remember this) in such situations) where I thought at that moment that she was closed off to sex and my thought process was something like "This girl thinks she can come over to mine and set the frame? As in, not fuck?" and got ego-bruised/"offended."

I went through a similar level of misunderstanding with this German candy bar.

I became suspicious that she was playing games (like, withholding sex in return for commitment) since she had been trying to set up second meets with anti-isolation / non-sex friendly logistics (like "let's have lunch one of these days" or "meet at 7 so I can get back home early") and flaking when I proposed isolation and sex-friendly logistics in their stead, like on Tuesday night).

So basically I stopped trusting her and became uninterested in finding out what her "thoughts" were since I adopted an ego-defensive stance. I have to say that the possibility that she did want to smash and was simply self-conscious about her period (and this not being a ruse) never even crossed my mind.

It's almost like I'm looking for confirmation that she wants to reject me at every step, fearful of it, instead of the opposite.
Skills! You were mentioning all the possible scenarios and I agree with I would have addressed it as well. Unrelated but I appreciate having you're advice and perspectives on these boards.

@Bismarck I think you've got the full picture of why things went the way they did now. The only thing I can say to you is play to win, I've been reading youre journal for the longest time and I've seen some of the lay reports that you've pulled off(some highly difficult and just incredible to read) PLAY TO WIN 🏆 these girls love you my man, step the ego aside and give them what they really want
 
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