30 Day Challenge. Day 01/30

[nexus321]

30 Day challenge:
Field Report Day 01/30

I met up with my wing we walked around downtown in Bergen.
It’s kinda hard to remember every single approach I made, this is pretty much what I took from it. Our objective of the day was to approach 5 women. I approached 7-8 I only remember 3 of them.


Approach nr 1
Me and my wing were walking down the street when I opened a woman as she was passing me by I said “you’re very cute.” She smiled and walked away.



HB brunette, approach nr 4.
I walked over to her and I opened with “I have two questions for you, number one, are you single?” I paused she smiled and started to sway slightly left and right and said.....ummm...yes. That’s when I said “you paused! You totally aren’t!” This made her smile even more. She asked “what is the second question?”
That’s when I said “what’s your name?” She smiled and said her name (can’t remember what)

Me: “so what are you doing today?”
Her: “I’m meeting some friends”
I thought about what she had said earlier about “not being single” and said “it was nice to meet you” I gave her a hug then I bailed from the set. It didn’t seem like she was investing in the conversation, seemed like I was doing all the work.


Approach nr 5:
After that I approached a brunette, I told her
“you’re very cute I had to come and talk to you” and then I put out my hand. We shook hands. She told me her name and it turned out she was Danish. We talked a little bit about that, but she seemed like she was in a hurry. And I decided to bail from the set. But I felt like I made her day. I could’ve sworn I saw her skip the street right after...


What I learned today:

+ Learned that girls like to be approached that I’m not bothering anyone by approaching.
+ Used Assumtions/statements instead of questions.
+ Made jokes and had a casual demeanor
+ Wasn’t nervous
+ Was well-dressed

Things I could have done:
- Didn’t kino as much as I should have.
- Didn’t ask for a number.
- Ran out of things to say.
- Couldn’t get her really invested in the conversation.
- Couldn’t build attraction.


Questions:
How do I get a girl to invest in the conversation?
How do I not run out of things to say?
How do I attract the girl?

 

[Atlas]

Hey Nexus, awesome report! I'm hoping I can help answer some of your questions. To answer your first question, girls don't really invest until they get to know you better. You're going to have to carry the convo for the first few minutes then she will start to open up and invest into the conversation. It also depends on your approach and fundamentals. I'll elaborate more on those later.

Second, running out of things to say is a little difficult when first starting out and when girls aren't investing, but just ask a lot of questions. Ask her how her day is going, what she has planned on the weekend, ask her what she likes to do outside of wherever you meet her. I'll give you an example of what mine looks like. I walk up and compliment her and introduce myself, she says thanks and usually tells me her name. I generally approach at the mall so I would say "so what brings you to the mall today?" And she answers and then I would say "that's cool", and use what she said to ask about that or say something like "so when you're not at the mall what do you do for fun?" She would say something like " I love to run and bike" and you ask about that. You ask how she got into that, or relate and say I LOVE to run and bike, I've ran 3 marathons already or whatever. Everything a woman says, you can ask a question about. But make sure it doesn't sound like an interview where you're ONLY asking questions. Contribute a little to the conversation yourself as well to make sure you're a relatable individual and not a robot.

Third, attracting a girl is largely fundamentals. It's how you look (your style, hygiene, haircut, etc), your voice (if it's powerful, commanding, and not quiet and weak), your posture (standing up straight, chin up, chest puffed out,'shoulders back), eye contact, walk, facial expressions, and movement speed (slow and not fast), and speech (speak slowly use pregnant pauses.) If you need more in debth answers, there are plenty of articles on the website that go into detail about fundamentals, just type it in the search bar and you'll find it.

Hope it helps,
Atlas

 

[nexus321]

Hey Nexus, awesome report! I'm hoping I can help answer some of your questions. To answer your first question, girls don't really invest until they get to know you better. You're going to have to carry the convo for the first few minutes then she will start to open up and invest into the conversation. It also depends on your approach and fundamentals. I'll elaborate more on those later.

Second, running out of things to say is a little difficult when first starting out and when girls aren't investing, but just ask a lot of questions. Ask her how her day is going, what she has planned on the weekend, ask her what she likes to do outside of wherever you meet her. I'll give you an example of what mine looks like. I walk up and compliment her and introduce myself, she says thanks and usually tells me her name. I generally approach at the mall so I would say "so what brings you to the mall today?" And she answers and then I would say "that's cool", and use what she said to ask about that or say something like "so when you're not at the mall what do you do for fun?" She would say something like " I love to run and bike" and you ask about that. You ask how she got into that, or relate and say I LOVE to run and bike, I've ran 3 marathons already or whatever. Everything a woman says, you can ask a question about. But make sure it doesn't sound like an interview where you're ONLY asking questions. Contribute a little to the conversation yourself as well to make sure you're a relatable individual and not a robot.

Third, attracting a girl is largely fundamentals. It's how you look (your style, hygiene, haircut, etc), your voice (if it's powerful, commanding, and not quiet and weak), your posture (standing up straight, chin up, chest puffed out,'shoulders back), eye contact, walk, facial expressions, and movement speed (slow and not fast), and speech (speak slowly use pregnant pauses.) If you need more in debth answers, there are plenty of articles on the website that go into detail about fundamentals, just type it in the search bar and you'll find it.

Hope it helps,
Atlas

Thanks man, it helps a lot I'll try that.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

HB brunette, approach nr 4.
I walked over to her and I opened with “I have two questions for you, number one, are you single?” I paused she smiled and started to sway slightly left and right and said.....ummm...yes. That’s when I said “you paused! You totally aren’t!” This made her smile even more. She asked “what is the second question?”
That’s when I said “what’s your name?” She smiled and said her name (can’t remember what)

Me: “so what are you doing today?”
Her: “I’m meeting some friends”
I thought about what she had said earlier about “not being single” and said “it was nice to meet you” I gave her a hug then I bailed from the set. It didn’t seem like she was investing in the conversation, seemed like I was doing all the work

From what i have read you bail way to easy for example this girl said she was single, if she was trying to blow you off she would of said she had a boyfriend and she also paused before responding meaning she had time to process if she was going to say she had one or not.

Secondly you said she was swaying left right im pretty sure thats and indicator of interest kinda like hair twirling girls usually do it subconsciously.

I thought about what she had said earlier about “not being single”

this was from the bit above but when did she say she was not single ? you said she was not single... Plus even if she was not single she was obviously interested (i know your probably like you don't want to waste time but if she tries to make you chase you just move on)


Anyways Good job a goodluck