30 Day Challenge, Day 02/30

[nexus321]

I’m so depressed right now I’m having a hard time writing this. Today the goal was to get an instantdate. Neither of us (me and my wingman) had ever had an instantdate so I thought that neither of us would succeed. I was wrong.

I had done 3 approaches, I wore my new levi’s clothes. Styled my hair back. I looked good.
He had done 2. We were both struggling with approach anxiety and were about to call it a day when he approached a hot latino chick and she went with him for coffee. It got to me. I know I shouldn’t care but I felt devastated. I’m not getting better at this, why is he!?

I know I can’t think like that, that I have only myself to blame. But I sometimes think that I have been given an unfair deck in life. Like no matter how hard I apply myself I’ll never succeed with women.

But I can’t think like that. I need to push forward, it’s still early, it’s day 02 of the challenge. I just need to analyse everything and break it down instead of breaking down emotionally if you know what i mean.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Quit crying.

So what you buddy managed to take a girl on an instant date whoopdy doo. If yall are at similar levels of experience he probably just got lucky with a girl that liked him off the bat. That's what happens when you approach a lot of girls sooner or later you hit it off pretty good with one.

Secondly DO NOT compare yourself to your wing unless it's for motivational purposes ONLY. Otherwise every little thing you do worse than him your going to beat yourself up for and on the flip side every little success you get your going to think "see I am better than him! ha!". And in reality it doesn't affect YOU one damn bit if he's getting laid left and right and your not or vice versa.
Instead focus on bettering yourself and being sure that you're pushing yourself and giving your all. That's all you can do Nexus.

I used to get a bit jealous seeing other members on the boards here get LR after LR and I just kept getting rejection after rejection. But so what!? What the fuck am I going to do about that? Am I going to sit around and bitch about how my situation is unfair and not as easy as someone elses or am I going to celebrate that their progressing and then work on progressing myself?

As long as your making progress beating back your approach anxiety and opening lots of women your making progress at this stage in the game. Be happy with your own progress don't worry about someone elses. There's ALWAYS going to be someone doing better than you homie, just enjoy the process.

I wrote a post the other day about just this topic here: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=6932

Dude Nexus you got this homie. Don't worry about anything except completing your 30 day challenge. It's only day 2 you have plenty of time to get an instant date. Come to terms and acceptance that some people are more predisposed to learn the social arts faster than others and stop giving a fuck about anyone else but you.

You got this homie, just focus on doing your 30 day challenge that's a cool thing your doing!

-Rob

 

[nexus321]

Quit crying.

So what you buddy managed to take a girl on an instant date whoopdy doo. If yall are at similar levels of experience he probably just got lucky with a girl that liked him off the bat. That's what happens when you approach a lot of girls sooner or later you hit it off pretty good with one.

Secondly DO NOT compare yourself to your wing unless it's for motivational purposes ONLY. Otherwise every little thing you do worse than him your going to beat yourself up for and on the flip side every little success you get your going to think "see I am better than him! ha!". And in reality it doesn't affect YOU one damn bit if he's getting laid left and right and your not or vice versa.
Instead focus on bettering yourself and being sure that you're pushing yourself and giving your all. That's all you can do Nexus.

I used to get a bit jealous seeing other members on the boards here get LR after LR and I just kept getting rejection after rejection. But so what!? What the fuck am I going to do about that? Am I going to sit around and bitch about how my situation is unfair and not as easy as someone elses or am I going to celebrate that their progressing and then work on progressing myself?

As long as your making progress beating back your approach anxiety and opening lots of women your making progress at this stage in the game. Be happy with your own progress don't worry about someone elses. There's ALWAYS going to be someone doing better than you homie, just enjoy the process.

I wrote a post the other day about just this topic here: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=6932

Dude Nexus you got this homie. Don't worry about anything except completing your 30 day challenge. It's only day 2 you have plenty of time to get an instant date. Come to terms and acceptance that some people are more predisposed to learn the social arts faster than others and stop giving a fuck about anyone else but you.

You got this homie, just focus on doing your 30 day challenge that's a cool thing your doing!

-Rob

Hey thanks Rob, what you wrote really helped man. It made me feel a lot better. So what if he's doing better or got lucky? That doesn't make me less of a person. I mean most guys never approach, at least I do that.
I'm gonna keep going and keep posting field reports. This is only the beginning.

 

[Mr.Rob]

I mean most guys never approach, at least I do that.I'm gonna keep going and keep posting field reports. This is only the beginning.

Exactly. What sober guy would have the balls to do that in the first place?

Just keep doing what your doing. Keep posting reports of your outings, especially when you have an interaction worth fleshing out (number close, instadate, or fuckup/almost number close, etc). Post it out in detail and we'll try and tell you where your going wrong and what your doing right.

And most of all Nexus enjoy the process of all this! Lifes too short to get upset about petty shit lol. Been there done that homie (too much :/ ).

Keep it up,
peace.

-Rob