3rd date idea? After two failed Escalations

[RDawg]

Hey guys, hope all is well!

Lately, if you have been following my "Field Report's ++ on Sexy Girl From Bar/Tinder", I've been struggling to fuck her and I've been getting a lot of Last minute resistance. Quick Breakdown, for those of you who don't know:

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=8285
https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=8410

First date: Dinner and back to my place to hangout. (Failed escalation attempt)
Second date: Invited her straight over for to my house to watch a movie and hangout. (2nd Failed escalation attempt)

I was almost at the point where I was gonna say fuck it, on to the next but this girl has some good qualities and might be worth a shot to continue with her.

So, after the 2nd date, I texted her a few days later and set-up a third date for this Friday night (only night she was free this week). I suggested to go see a movie or grab a drink and she agreed to go see a movie.

The only thing is, I am little conflicted here. Let's say we go see a "movie", should I invite her "home" after or just grab a drink nearby and then just call it a night. I was thinking about leaning towards just seeing a movie and then grabbing a drink later. Then, set-up a 4th date with her and invite her home again and try for "sex" one last time. My thought process here, is that I already "failed" twice to get sex and maybe I could screw with her head a bit, if I don't invite her home on the third date and then seal the deal on the 4th date?

Any suggestions would be great

All the best!

- Rdawg

 

[Franco]

RDawg,

The only thing is, I am little conflicted here. Let's say we go see a "movie", should I invite her "home" after or just grab a drink nearby and then just call it a night. I was thinking about leaning towards just seeing a movie and then grabbing a drink later. Then, set-up a 4th date with her and invite her home again and try for "sex" one last time. My thought process here, is that I already "failed" twice to get sex and maybe I could screw with her head a bit, if I don't invite her home on the third date and then seal the deal on the 4th date?

I feel like this tactic would have been much better had you done it on the second date (rather than trying to do it on the third) as she'll probably now just see it as you calming down into a "provider" role rather than you "messing with her head." If you try to escalate on the first date and fail, it's usually unexpected for her, but it means she's probably sexually attracted to you. So if, on the second date, you suddenly give her something amazing and pull away, she'll be confused because she had been prepping herself to give you LMR on your advances, but then it didn't happen, so now she's not sure WHAT to expect for you. Then of course, you invite her over on the third date, and you strike.

You can either NEXT her, as Drexel suggested, your can attempt to push your boundaries and experiment to see what you can pull off. Just know that every date that goes by without sex means your odds of getting with her become lower and lower, so you need to be ready to pull the cord when you feel like you aren't going to get what it is that you want.

- Franco

 

[RDawg]

- DrexelScott and Franco

Thanks for the feedback guys!

Ya, I was highly considering nexting this girl and just about did. However, I think i'm gonna go ahead with testing a few things out and see where I can get. I'll give it 4 dates max. I have nothing to lose, so I think it might be nice to experiment with a few things here.

Also, Franco, I agree with the tactic that you listed above. However, only reason why I invited this girl over on the second date is because of my last Lay report, I followed the same process, yet I succeeded on the second date after a first failed escalation attempt. I guess it's a matter of trial and error and sometimes you really have to "read" the girl and to see where she has you "placed" in her life (e.g., provider, lover)

- Rdawg

 

[Franco]

RDawg,

However, only reason why I invited this girl over on the second date is because of my last Lay report, I followed the same process, yet I succeeded on the second date after a first failed escalation attempt. I guess it's a matter of trial and error and sometimes you really have to "read" the girl and to see where she has you "placed" in her life (e.g., provider, lover)

Yeah, the second date can work. It's hard to choose which route to go if you don't have a lot of experience, but you just need to experiment and see which girls in which moods seem to bite on one or the other. =)

- Franco