a 2nd Chance?

[dannyboy3144]

Hey guys i could really use your help on this situation im in...

I met this girl back in september of last year...we went on a few dates and we kissed a couple of time we had a falling out in febuary, and i hadnt talked to her since ( i checked to se how she was doing sometime in march cause she had a stomach posioning and was in the hospital but that was it, it was just a are you okay type thing) on monday i saw her for the first time at a bestbuy as we talked for a little, after i had left we spent the whole night texting till one in the morning, like we did back then when we first met. i havent talked to her since wednesday cause she has a bunch of finals and graduation practice. i know back then i wasnt aggressive enough to get her in bed, (maybe its because i had some family issues tha needed to be sorted out so my mind wasnt really all there) but i know how aggressive i have to be...she is grduating on saturday from college i was going to send a message like this to her

"Hey congrats on graduating, we should grab a bite to eat and some drinks on tuesday, sounds good?'

i know ive read how when you ask out a girl you want to sound assertive and aggressive, is that statement good enough?
and what tips do you guys have for the actuall date itself?

thanks for the help guys, trying to bring this one for the win (cause she is a freak.....from what she has told me lol)

 

[ray_zorse]

Your proposal is good. Direct and to the point.

On the other hand, too much texting can definitely deflate the balloon a bit, she feels like she's already caught up with you, so what's the point of meeting you in person? It also communicates that you don't have much to do other than texting her, and/or you're willing to put other stuff on hold in order to text her (so it sets a bit of a chasing vibe). Also, depending on what went before, you might be in her friendzone or boyfriend zone, not really sure from what you said, but hey, it cannot hurt to take a shot at her. At the worst, you'll try to move things forward and find it's nogo, and so it'll be easy to forget her and move on.

Checking your phraseology "a 2nd Chance?" I hope you mean, "should I give her a 2nd chance?" ... remember, YOU are the prize. And in line with this, I would advise that if you get her out on a date, you turn it sexual very fast and use a lot of touch. Make sure she is in no doubt as to your intentions, within the first 5 or 10 minutes. Then if she makes trouble, simply say you don't think this will work out, and leave. That way you haven't wasted your whole evening only to get her back to your house and go to kiss her and have her say "Ewww, gross, I never kiss my guy friends!"... as I said already, remember YOU ARE VALUABLE.

Ray

 

[dannyboy3144]

Thanks for the advice man....any suggestion on how to start making it sexual very fast, is a hug a good way to start to make the initial contact or should I approach it differently??

Your proposal is good. Direct and to the point.

On the other hand, too much texting can definitely deflate the balloon a bit, she feels like she's already caught up with you, so what's the point of meeting you in person? It also communicates that you don't have much to do other than texting her, and/or you're willing to put other stuff on hold in order to text her (so it sets a bit of a chasing vibe). Also, depending on what went before, you might be in her friendzone or boyfriend zone, not really sure from what you said, but hey, it cannot hurt to take a shot at her. At the worst, you'll try to move things forward and find it's nogo, and so it'll be easy to forget her and move on.

Checking your phraseology "a 2nd Chance?" I hope you mean, "should I give her a 2nd chance?" ... remember, YOU are the prize. And in line with this, I would advise that if you get her out on a date, you turn it sexual very fast and use a lot of touch. Make sure she is in no doubt as to your intentions, within the first 5 or 10 minutes. Then if she makes trouble, simply say you don't think this will work out, and leave. That way you haven't wasted your whole evening only to get her back to your house and go to kiss her and have her say "Ewww, gross, I never kiss my guy friends!"... as I said already, remember YOU ARE VALUABLE.

Ray