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Was in a target for one of my daygaming sessions and just as I was about to leave this cute latina walks by me. This was after almost bailing. Later on I notice this girl looking at some candles and tell her I wanted to say hi and I tell her I thought she was pretty she said thank you! I probably could've opened her with joking if she's picking out romantic candles which I did shortly afterwards. I don't think we spoke for a couple minutes before she asked if I wanted to take her # down and I was like sure. We spoke a few minutes and I asked if she wanted to get a drink at this bar in our neighborhood. We set up plans for the weekend after she comes back from the beach. Definetly one of the strongest hookpoints i've had in recent memory. I can only think of a few interactions I had that could match it.
Sat was a mess trying to set up plans with her. We was discussing logistics,but she wasn't responding for a while and I thought did I mess up? We was talking about how crowded the bar can get on the weekends and she said in a text "Maybe a resy is needed?" and that threw me off. I interpreted that as oh she could be tired after the beach and might want rest. Me being naive first excercised the idea that she wanted to reschedule,but I learned from some other guys that resy means reservation which was really weird lol.
She tells me her phone died and couldn't respond which makes sense because she went to a far away beach that probably lacks service. Sunday she went to the beach again so more late responses,but we set a date for monday night. She was very accomodating told me she would work around my schedule (even though i'm not working at the moment lol)
It was scheduled to rain that night so I wasn't sure if that was something to be concerned about,but she didnt care. I try to use @Skills 3 bounce method and tell her let's do a quick meet at starbucks and she said sure sounds like a plan. I was really anxious leading up to the date. I was worried that I would be the timid part of me would come out on the date and I wouldn't be my best self. I tempered my expectations and told myself it's ok if I don't pull this girl and that getting the date in the first place is a big win for me as it's my first from daygame. Gives me proof that I can get dates from daygame. I did this as a way to avoid putting immense pressure on myself.
I get to starbucks early tell her i'm sitting inside she's on her way. I ask for ice cold water which they serve for free. She comes slightly late I greet her and give her a cheek kiss. It was a few days since I last saw her I kinda forgot how she looked,but one look at her and I got excited at how sexy she was. She tells me she's thinking of getting a drink and I suggest to get some ice cold water. As soon as i'm in conversation with her all my anxieties and concerns go out the window. We talk and vibe almost effortlessly on my part. All the interactions i've had from approaching+ practice dates make it easier for me to converse and improvise. I do my part to keep it lighthearted and fun and make sure to crack a few jokes in between. She invests herself to and asks me questions. She tells me it was a great idea to meet at starbucks first. I make strong eye contact and have good resonant vocal tonality especially since the cafe is quite. One of the baristas saw us chatting and he offered us free cakepops. Probably saw us having a good time and thought it was cute.
I don't know exactly how many minutes passed before I suggested that we head to the bar maybe 15. Skills recommended after 5 min to bounce to the 2nd location, but we was having a good time so I didn't want to be so rigid and think ok in 5 min we must leave. So after we finished the cake pops and water I said let's go.
We bounce to the bar and chat along the way there keep the energy up. We took a seat at the bar. The bartender was this girl that I recognize from my gym and chatted her up built some social proof. At the bar there was barely any awkward silences between us we was moving from one topic to another. Had a lot of connection we spoke about a variety of topics music,sports, some more traveling. This girl seems like she enjoys traveling and partying. She has 24 tattoos and she implied to me she makes bad decisions as a joke. I tease her on this and say she's so irresponsible. I have her explain all the tattoos she has while holding her arm. I'm normally not into girls with tattoos,but they added to her allure. Also they were small tattoos and not really big/grotesque looking ones.
After a certain period of time I was thinking that I wasn't leading the conversation in the right direction or talking about the right things with her. We spent some time talking about things that topic wise maybe weren't conducive to seducing her. They were building good rapport and the energy level was good at least and I made sure to keep it light and fun.
At one point we was talking about internet browsers which is fucking dumb. But the one sexual reference I made we was on google and I told her how incognito is just good for hiding your dirty videos. She then says a quip about porn and I say ooh so what kind of stuff are you watching then? She laughs and says we've all experimented with porn at some point. I think I mentioned that it's nothing like the real thing and she replies of course it's 100 times better. This was the closest I got to sexualizing the conversation and being on the topic of sex,but wasn't able to keep it going.
At some point I tried to suggest that we could go back to my place and chill and listen to some music,but she said she couldn't tonight and had to get up early tommorow morning,but then said 2mm we could hang out again. I know this is just an objection it's not a hard no,but it's not something I have no experience with dealing. My pull excuse was weak too,but I didn't have much stuff back home to use I don't have a cool collection, instrument,pet etc. I didn't want to risk looking thirsty or eager so I avoided pushing for it especially since I didn't have a solid one.
We had almost finished our first drinks and the bartender asked if we wanted another round. She said no ,but I said almost simultaneously and then she changed her mind and asked for another one lol. Idk if that matters that she was content with one drink and going to reject the 2nd drink,but changed her mind after she saw I was getting another one. I haven't drank in a while so that first one fucked me up and already got me very tipsy. She was a heavyweight and the one drink didn't do much to her.
I tell her i'm going to the bathroom and not to run off yet. I come back and it gets super cold and she puts on her cardigan. I kinda shiver as all I have is my tee and she notices this. I have her feel how cold my hands are and she grasps them. I was trying to kiss her and was in proximity plenty of times,but I didn't pull the trigger. Even though she was permissive and reciprocating a lot of my touch. I asked if she wanted to get pizza or tacos afterwards,but she said she didn't want to eat she'd feel gross after drinking . She wanted to go soon so I ask her to help me finish mine and she drinks from my straw.
She goes to the bathroom after she asks for the check and I decide to pay for it with my card. She came back and thought we would split it,but I told her I had it. I suggested if she wanted she could tip,but she didn't have cash. So instead she buys another shot and apple pays the bartender what the tip would've been.
We walk out I escort her to get a few things from a store and then to her place. She said I didn't have to walk her home,but I told her it wasn't a big deal to me. Walk her to her front door and banter for a little bit. Tell her I had a good time she tells me the same and I kiss her goodnight.
I saw the night as a win. In the past I would go on some dates with girls from sc and leave a very platonic impression with not enough physical escalation. I did a good job bantering,flirting,teasing, and being physical throughout the date. I stayed out of polite zone and my ability to hold a conversation and free associate is much better than a year ago. Definetly got a boost of confidence.
Things that could use improving is definetly my pacing and setting sexual frames in conversation. I lead for the most part,but there was times where she took a little intiative like asking for the bill and wanting to leave so idk if that's something I need to avoid or if there's no need to be that pedantic.
If anyone has any suggestions on things I could've done better that would help sexualize the date and get her into a dtf state. Or some simple stuff I could get for my house to seed a pull, what they might do for a day 2 or anything else that would help optimize my chances of success with this girl moving forward i'd appreciate it
Sat was a mess trying to set up plans with her. We was discussing logistics,but she wasn't responding for a while and I thought did I mess up? We was talking about how crowded the bar can get on the weekends and she said in a text "Maybe a resy is needed?" and that threw me off. I interpreted that as oh she could be tired after the beach and might want rest. Me being naive first excercised the idea that she wanted to reschedule,but I learned from some other guys that resy means reservation which was really weird lol.
She tells me her phone died and couldn't respond which makes sense because she went to a far away beach that probably lacks service. Sunday she went to the beach again so more late responses,but we set a date for monday night. She was very accomodating told me she would work around my schedule (even though i'm not working at the moment lol)
It was scheduled to rain that night so I wasn't sure if that was something to be concerned about,but she didnt care. I try to use @Skills 3 bounce method and tell her let's do a quick meet at starbucks and she said sure sounds like a plan. I was really anxious leading up to the date. I was worried that I would be the timid part of me would come out on the date and I wouldn't be my best self. I tempered my expectations and told myself it's ok if I don't pull this girl and that getting the date in the first place is a big win for me as it's my first from daygame. Gives me proof that I can get dates from daygame. I did this as a way to avoid putting immense pressure on myself.
I get to starbucks early tell her i'm sitting inside she's on her way. I ask for ice cold water which they serve for free. She comes slightly late I greet her and give her a cheek kiss. It was a few days since I last saw her I kinda forgot how she looked,but one look at her and I got excited at how sexy she was. She tells me she's thinking of getting a drink and I suggest to get some ice cold water. As soon as i'm in conversation with her all my anxieties and concerns go out the window. We talk and vibe almost effortlessly on my part. All the interactions i've had from approaching+ practice dates make it easier for me to converse and improvise. I do my part to keep it lighthearted and fun and make sure to crack a few jokes in between. She invests herself to and asks me questions. She tells me it was a great idea to meet at starbucks first. I make strong eye contact and have good resonant vocal tonality especially since the cafe is quite. One of the baristas saw us chatting and he offered us free cakepops. Probably saw us having a good time and thought it was cute.
I don't know exactly how many minutes passed before I suggested that we head to the bar maybe 15. Skills recommended after 5 min to bounce to the 2nd location, but we was having a good time so I didn't want to be so rigid and think ok in 5 min we must leave. So after we finished the cake pops and water I said let's go.
We bounce to the bar and chat along the way there keep the energy up. We took a seat at the bar. The bartender was this girl that I recognize from my gym and chatted her up built some social proof. At the bar there was barely any awkward silences between us we was moving from one topic to another. Had a lot of connection we spoke about a variety of topics music,sports, some more traveling. This girl seems like she enjoys traveling and partying. She has 24 tattoos and she implied to me she makes bad decisions as a joke. I tease her on this and say she's so irresponsible. I have her explain all the tattoos she has while holding her arm. I'm normally not into girls with tattoos,but they added to her allure. Also they were small tattoos and not really big/grotesque looking ones.
After a certain period of time I was thinking that I wasn't leading the conversation in the right direction or talking about the right things with her. We spent some time talking about things that topic wise maybe weren't conducive to seducing her. They were building good rapport and the energy level was good at least and I made sure to keep it light and fun.
At one point we was talking about internet browsers which is fucking dumb. But the one sexual reference I made we was on google and I told her how incognito is just good for hiding your dirty videos. She then says a quip about porn and I say ooh so what kind of stuff are you watching then? She laughs and says we've all experimented with porn at some point. I think I mentioned that it's nothing like the real thing and she replies of course it's 100 times better. This was the closest I got to sexualizing the conversation and being on the topic of sex,but wasn't able to keep it going.
At some point I tried to suggest that we could go back to my place and chill and listen to some music,but she said she couldn't tonight and had to get up early tommorow morning,but then said 2mm we could hang out again. I know this is just an objection it's not a hard no,but it's not something I have no experience with dealing. My pull excuse was weak too,but I didn't have much stuff back home to use I don't have a cool collection, instrument,pet etc. I didn't want to risk looking thirsty or eager so I avoided pushing for it especially since I didn't have a solid one.
We had almost finished our first drinks and the bartender asked if we wanted another round. She said no ,but I said almost simultaneously and then she changed her mind and asked for another one lol. Idk if that matters that she was content with one drink and going to reject the 2nd drink,but changed her mind after she saw I was getting another one. I haven't drank in a while so that first one fucked me up and already got me very tipsy. She was a heavyweight and the one drink didn't do much to her.
I tell her i'm going to the bathroom and not to run off yet. I come back and it gets super cold and she puts on her cardigan. I kinda shiver as all I have is my tee and she notices this. I have her feel how cold my hands are and she grasps them. I was trying to kiss her and was in proximity plenty of times,but I didn't pull the trigger. Even though she was permissive and reciprocating a lot of my touch. I asked if she wanted to get pizza or tacos afterwards,but she said she didn't want to eat she'd feel gross after drinking . She wanted to go soon so I ask her to help me finish mine and she drinks from my straw.
She goes to the bathroom after she asks for the check and I decide to pay for it with my card. She came back and thought we would split it,but I told her I had it. I suggested if she wanted she could tip,but she didn't have cash. So instead she buys another shot and apple pays the bartender what the tip would've been.
We walk out I escort her to get a few things from a store and then to her place. She said I didn't have to walk her home,but I told her it wasn't a big deal to me. Walk her to her front door and banter for a little bit. Tell her I had a good time she tells me the same and I kiss her goodnight.
I saw the night as a win. In the past I would go on some dates with girls from sc and leave a very platonic impression with not enough physical escalation. I did a good job bantering,flirting,teasing, and being physical throughout the date. I stayed out of polite zone and my ability to hold a conversation and free associate is much better than a year ago. Definetly got a boost of confidence.
Things that could use improving is definetly my pacing and setting sexual frames in conversation. I lead for the most part,but there was times where she took a little intiative like asking for the bill and wanting to leave so idk if that's something I need to avoid or if there's no need to be that pedantic.
If anyone has any suggestions on things I could've done better that would help sexualize the date and get her into a dtf state. Or some simple stuff I could get for my house to seed a pull, what they might do for a day 2 or anything else that would help optimize my chances of success with this girl moving forward i'd appreciate it
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