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Oh man.
Feel pretty lousy about this one. Just dashed a cute girl's hopes for an exciting adventure and ended up boring her for an hour.
On a positive note, I learned A LOT, mainly where my weaknesses are. And I have a tiny bit of hope that all is not lost for a second date. Hoping that even though I was platonic as a robot, that my honed fundamentals and relaxed vibe will save my pussy ass. Ha. Right.
Lets start from the beginning.
I went to the supermarket in the city and notice two cute girls walking by. I chickened out and walk inside. Inside I was like, "I have to grow some balls sometime," so I walk back out. I was most likely going to chicken out again, but fate was on my side. They turn around, and I walk towards them with new found confidence. I open them asking about a local festival. We chat a bit and find out they are going inside so I lead them in with me. I tell them I have to shop and will catch up with them.
Now I start panicking and over thinking and my heart is racing thinking about how I am going to get the cute one's number. I collect my groceries with record speed (seriously, did 15 mins worth of shopping in 3 and didn't miss an item.) And then I see them eating outside, so I plan on going out there and reopening direct. I'm still freaking out... "this is no good, I can't think straight like this." So I take a deep breath and calm myself.
I kind of let go of the whole idea and roll. Fate is once again on my side, because as I exit the building they are right there. I ask them how their cookies were and ask them their names. I then say, "I actually stopped you earlier because I think you're super cute.
Do you want to grab a coffee sometime? (tilted my head a little inquisitively, this came out very smooth.) She kind of hesitated and said okay, so I challenged her on it, not wanting a flaky number. I wanted her to give me a solid answer so I tilted my head a bit more and said "are you sure...?"
What do you guys think of doing that?
So she said "Yeah!" in that cute feminine way that I adore. I got her number and then asked her what he schedule was like (remembered that doing this in person is way better) She said she was pretty free for the next week so I said we will figure out details via text and parted ways on a high note.
So far so good! (besides fate doing all the hard work for me, and panicking while shopping)
I break some texting rules and set up a meet a few hours later for the next day. I tell her to wear something cute. I get impatient waiting for possible pussy and that is something I need to work on. Or maybe not... She was excited to meet up and all smiles on the date (before I bored her to death DX)
We plan on meeting midday at a cafe in the city. Its far from either of our places, but half way. The best places for getting intimate are my car and the park, its bright and people everywhere. I wanted to see what I could do with logistics like this.
We meet up and she's looking good with some ice coffee. I'm feeling pretty confident, but unsure of how this is going to pan out with no clear direction of where I'll be escalating. Perhaps part of my downfall.
I want to keep this part short because the date was pretty dull and easy to imagine. Imagine the typical nervous guy beating around the bush, talking about things when neither girl nor guy wants to talk about anything when they could be doing something way more interesting. It was just us walking around for about an hour from store to car to store to park.
I felt we were not jiving conversationally, but we both were physically attracted to each other. No wonder talking so much was a bore. It was not good conversation that brought us together, but perhaps the attraction and possibility for some fun sex. I didn't just miss escalation windows, I didn't even aim.
As we walked back to the car from the park (We were ALL ALONE on a bench and I said "lets keep walking because I wanted to relax the whirlwind of thoughts in my head. I could sense her disappointment and mild disgust.) she told me she better leave now. I told her okay and that I'd drive her to her car.
At this point I thought I should be bold here and switch up the gears. Look at her sexily and say how I don't know why I've been waiting to do this and man handle kiss her. All that conversation was distracting me from how cute and sexy she was. I should have been channeling that energy and focus into a sexy vibe. I'm a bit lost on how to do this right now.
Anyway I end up putting it off waiting for the perfect time (which of course doesn't exist.) I'm all nerves from the anticipation and cut off a police car at a stop sign.
Lights go up. "shit..." I look at her and chuckle. The officer pulls up next to us and lays into me. I apologize and he thankfully lets me off easy. He was in my blind spot, but I totally would have seen him had I not been having a mild meltdown. She hugs me goodbye and says it was nice and I watch her leave still pondering if I should just make that bold move.
Ugh.
Feel pretty lousy about this one. Just dashed a cute girl's hopes for an exciting adventure and ended up boring her for an hour.
On a positive note, I learned A LOT, mainly where my weaknesses are. And I have a tiny bit of hope that all is not lost for a second date. Hoping that even though I was platonic as a robot, that my honed fundamentals and relaxed vibe will save my pussy ass. Ha. Right.
Lets start from the beginning.
I went to the supermarket in the city and notice two cute girls walking by. I chickened out and walk inside. Inside I was like, "I have to grow some balls sometime," so I walk back out. I was most likely going to chicken out again, but fate was on my side. They turn around, and I walk towards them with new found confidence. I open them asking about a local festival. We chat a bit and find out they are going inside so I lead them in with me. I tell them I have to shop and will catch up with them.
Now I start panicking and over thinking and my heart is racing thinking about how I am going to get the cute one's number. I collect my groceries with record speed (seriously, did 15 mins worth of shopping in 3 and didn't miss an item.) And then I see them eating outside, so I plan on going out there and reopening direct. I'm still freaking out... "this is no good, I can't think straight like this." So I take a deep breath and calm myself.
I kind of let go of the whole idea and roll. Fate is once again on my side, because as I exit the building they are right there. I ask them how their cookies were and ask them their names. I then say, "I actually stopped you earlier because I think you're super cute.
Do you want to grab a coffee sometime? (tilted my head a little inquisitively, this came out very smooth.) She kind of hesitated and said okay, so I challenged her on it, not wanting a flaky number. I wanted her to give me a solid answer so I tilted my head a bit more and said "are you sure...?" What do you guys think of doing that?
So she said "Yeah!
" in that cute feminine way that I adore. I got her number and then asked her what he schedule was like (remembered that doing this in person is way better) She said she was pretty free for the next week so I said we will figure out details via text and parted ways on a high note.So far so good! (besides fate doing all the hard work for me, and panicking while shopping)
I break some texting rules and set up a meet a few hours later for the next day. I tell her to wear something cute. I get impatient waiting for possible pussy and that is something I need to work on. Or maybe not... She was excited to meet up and all smiles on the date (before I bored her to death DX)
We plan on meeting midday at a cafe in the city. Its far from either of our places, but half way. The best places for getting intimate are my car and the park, its bright and people everywhere. I wanted to see what I could do with logistics like this.
We meet up and she's looking good with some ice coffee. I'm feeling pretty confident, but unsure of how this is going to pan out with no clear direction of where I'll be escalating. Perhaps part of my downfall.
I want to keep this part short because the date was pretty dull and easy to imagine. Imagine the typical nervous guy beating around the bush, talking about things when neither girl nor guy wants to talk about anything when they could be doing something way more interesting. It was just us walking around for about an hour from store to car to store to park.
I felt we were not jiving conversationally, but we both were physically attracted to each other. No wonder talking so much was a bore. It was not good conversation that brought us together, but perhaps the attraction and possibility for some fun sex. I didn't just miss escalation windows, I didn't even aim.
As we walked back to the car from the park (We were ALL ALONE on a bench and I said "lets keep walking because I wanted to relax the whirlwind of thoughts in my head. I could sense her disappointment and mild disgust.) she told me she better leave now. I told her okay and that I'd drive her to her car.
At this point I thought I should be bold here and switch up the gears. Look at her sexily and say how I don't know why I've been waiting to do this and man handle kiss her. All that conversation was distracting me from how cute and sexy she was. I should have been channeling that energy and focus into a sexy vibe. I'm a bit lost on how to do this right now.
Anyway I end up putting it off waiting for the perfect time (which of course doesn't exist.) I'm all nerves from the anticipation and cut off a police car at a stop sign.
Lights go up. "shit..." I look at her and chuckle. The officer pulls up next to us and lays into me. I apologize and he thankfully lets me off easy. He was in my blind spot, but I totally would have seen him had I not been having a mild meltdown. She hugs me goodbye and says it was nice and I watch her leave still pondering if I should just make that bold move.
Ugh.
