A process for creating process (sort of Meta)

[empath]

So, in past I have been successfully gone on dates and laid girls.

for me I have been someone who does things on intuition… there is no elaborate process, which I can follow repeatedly.

so, I started reading girlschase at young age - say 17ish read for say 2ish years and then got busy with studies and time passed mostly forgot about this stuff.

once I was through studies, and had job I started pursuing girls again.

Approaching girls, directly and so on… had good confidence, I don’t at this time had I started reading girlschase again or not but ended up getting a girlfriend from cold approach.

I don’t think I was reading girlschase actively, cause if I was then I would have given up courting her after 1-2 date, took 5-6 dates to lay her but I was successful.

though I feel subconsciously those articles which I read when young helped me like push-pull etc or women loves sex etc. especially just this thing drilled in my mind that girls love sex / they are sluts

had a nice relationship, at this time I started reading gc again, moslty relationship articles.

then I had breakup and I was in full seduction mode/increasing my notches mode.

still mostly it was doing things at then moment. Or say aggressively escalating, relentless focus on escalation.

for my life I can’t figure out a process or make one.

Also, this thing happens in other area of life as well. Like I can’t figure rules of driving (i can drive, but not exactly to yk rules or in a good way) or say dance which learn by just seeing or say writing in a specific way say business writing or poems. So on and so

Probably I would think my ability to observe and make conclusion is limited.

Or maybe I am an intuitive.

But at this point I want consistency in my results, and confidence in my process.

How should I go about it.

creating one myself based on my experiences.

How do u go about creating process?

or maybe a process for creating process (meta)

 

[DonGately]

I wrote a very long post and deleted it. I think this is a great question.

When I moved to a diff big city and got older and couldn't got out 4x a week with my wingman anymore, I basically constructed a process thru trial and error, based on things that would be congruent for me.

1) I went out solo, 2x a week, midweek and weekend. Get plenty of feedback.

2) I targeted girls 19-26 online & offline with focus on 21-24. Never had an issue with the age gap. Ran the same verbal game in a bar, lounge or at the mall or strip club.
3) Always dressed up in suit & tie, cufflinks, sometimes pocket sq, unless it was over 85 degrees, but always more dressed up than the crowd. Got plenty of positive feedback which confo'd my choices.

4) Put a few of the best places in the nicest part of town on lock. Never have an issue with service.
5) Became willing to talk about kink/bdsm/D/s early and often on a meet/date. Put yourself out there. Girls are kinkier than guys anyway, I've discovered. [Often, much more so!]

The rest I do is just standard stuff, use kino, bounce from bar to bar during night game, time distortion, private jokes, the 'love bubble,' end up outside your apartment and invite her up.

Create a process, and then find your niche. That's my humble advice.

 

[Brassfaced_Jim]

I wrote a very long post and deleted it. I think this is a great question.

When I moved to a diff big city and got older and couldn't got out 4x a week with my wingman anymore, I basically constructed a process thru trial and error, based on things that would be congruent for me.

1) I went out solo, 2x a week, midweek and weekend. Get plenty of feedback.

2) I targeted girls 19-26 online & offline with focus on 21-24. Never had an issue with the age gap. Ran the same verbal game in a bar, lounge or at the mall or strip club.
3) Always dressed up in suit & tie, cufflinks, sometimes pocket sq, unless it was over 85 degrees, but always more dressed up than the crowd. Got plenty of positive feedback which confo'd my choices.

4) Put a few of the best places in the nicest part of town on lock. Never have an issue with service.
5) Became willing to talk about kink/bdsm/D/s early and often on a meet/date. Put yourself out there. Girls are kinkier than guys anyway, I've discovered. [Often, much more so!]

The rest I do is just standard stuff, use kino, bounce from bar to bar during night game, time distortion, private jokes, the 'love bubble,' end up outside your apartment and invite her up.

Create a process, and then find your niche. That's my humble advice.

Loving all of this here Don
I’m 40s.. these last 2 years (since the end of an LTR) I’ve been getting laid a fair bit..buttt the chicks are usually my age or older , qnd tbh I’d much prefer chicks in the 30-40 bracket . Or the 25-35 bracket (why not?)

Your process defs reads like a gameplan for me,

Would be very interested in a phrase examples you use to introduce Kink topics .
I guess could be straightforward “do you like xyz?” But is there jargon /keywords I need to know that u could share?


to the OP - the old PUA way of doing what you describe re process was field reporting and doing a ‘sticking point analysis’ looking for patterns of success and failure etc
If you have any older text messages on your phone with girls u could try look for patterns and record things said that worked c