A question regarding investment and testing for attraction

[andersen09]

There's a girl in my math class who I haven't spoke to, but recently saw her.
I decided to try getting investment from her straight up.

Me: Hey, you're in Professor X's class right?
Her: Yeah
Me: Are you good in math?
Her: I'm okay
Me: Okay, come help me with something.

(She comes with me)

So my question is, just because she moved with me, does that mean she's attracted to me?
Or is it just because she's being polite?

I'm just trying to get my head around where Chase says if you want to know if a girl is into you, move her or get compliance.

 

[foggy]

Well, there''s a few factors here.

Think about the context...you're in her class. If she straight up rejects your requests then it's gonna be awkward for her because she's gonna have to see you again.

She might not be able to stand up for what she wants and has a hard time saying no. If you're a strong leader, she's gonna follow you around - even though she might not necessarily be into you.

So, just because she moved with you in this situation does not necessarily mean she's attracted to you. It's a pretty easy compliance test to pass considering it's school related. But there's a chance yes.

Try some more less-platonic compliance tests to reveal her attraction for you...tell her to give you her phone number so you can "study" outside of class. Tell her math makes you have a heart attack and get her to feel your racing heart.

Also you should look at other things like her body language to truly measure her attraction level.

 

[lostnumber]

When she came with you, where did the two of you go? Two feet down the road? All the way back to your place?

 

[kiddpitt]

Seriously? You post dickhead comments and can't figure out if a girl is into you or not? Self esteem must be a luxury...up your pay grade and buy you some.

 

[andersen09]

Seriously? You post dickhead comments and can't figure out if a girl is into you or not? Self esteem must be a luxury...up your pay grade and buy you some.

How did acting aloof with your girl that has a kid? Can't get a girl interested in you that's not desperately looking for a father figure? Go fulfill your destiny and be the change you want to see in the world. Become a father figure for all the children in this world without any father figure. That's probably the best you can do. Maybe you'll get lucky and she'll let you have a kid to raise if you're on your best behavior. That's luxury for you.

 

[andersen09]

Well, there''s a few factors here.

Think about the context...you're in her class. If she straight up rejects your requests then it's gonna be awkward for her because she's gonna have to see you again.

She might not be able to stand up for what she wants and has a hard time saying no. If you're a strong leader, she's gonna follow you around - even though she might not necessarily be into you.

So, just because she moved with you in this situation does not necessarily mean she's attracted to you. It's a pretty easy compliance test to pass considering it's school related. But there's a chance yes.

Try some more less-platonic compliance tests to reveal her attraction for you...tell her to give you her phone number so you can "study" outside of class. Tell her math makes you have a heart attack and get her to feel your racing heart.

Also you should look at other things like her body language to truly measure her attraction level.

Yeah your line of thinking is very along the sides of my logic. I've heard these quotes such as "Attraction is only helpful for gaining investment from the girl" and "The way you test for attraction is through compliance". There's an article by chase where if you're not sure if a girl is into you, test her by trying to get her to move with you. And to me there's some holes that I need to fill gap in. So this is a very special case because it's situational related, not really compliance for attraction per say. BUT, if you look at my other report, there's also a girl that complied to me in a salsa class, but is clearly into me, even though she's complying to me that's class related also.

 

[Michal]

If you want to remove the influence of the social setting (math class, salsa class), simply try this on a girl who has no social ties with you. Like if you are waiting in a line or a bus stop or something. But without any situational context the girl might not comply with you because it does not seem practical, not necessarily because she is not attracted to you, that would depend on what kind of investment you ask from her.

 

[andersen09]

If you want to remove the influence of the social setting (math class, salsa class), simply try this on a girl who has no social ties with you. Like if you are waiting in a line or a bus stop or something. But without any situational context the girl might not comply with you because it does not seem practical, not necessarily because she is not attracted to you, that would depend on what kind of investment you ask from her.

Well, that's the thing. For example, if it's a total stranger moving with me, I know for sure she's attracted. But when it's within a social setting, it's more of a grey area and it'd be immensely helpful to test ways to be sure if she's being polite or acting on attraction.

 

[lostnumber]

If you want to remove the influence of the social setting (math class, salsa class), simply try this on a girl who has no social ties with you. Like if you are waiting in a line or a bus stop or something. But without any situational context the girl might not comply with you because it does not seem practical, not necessarily because she is not attracted to you, that would depend on what kind of investment you ask from her.

Well, that's the thing. For example, if it's a total stranger moving with me, I know for sure she's attracted. But when it's within a social setting, it's more of a grey area and it'd be immensely helpful to test ways to be sure if she's being polite or acting on attraction.

My best advice is to make the movement not tied to the social context. So, in your example, you had a girl in your math class and you asked for her to move under the context of helping you with math homework. There is a strong possibility she might be willing to move with you regardless of her attraction level. She might want to make new friends in class, she might enjoy helping and tutoring people with school subjects, she might not really want to but decide that she will because you reminded her she has a class with you and she doesn't want to make things awkward by refusing, etc.

If you asked her to come closer so you can see her necklace, and then walk over and sit down because you wanted to talk to her, that's a much better frame to be using because its much less likely that she'll say yes if she isn't interested, and you'll have a much stronger attraction level if she complies. There will still be SOME variables that come into play anytime you have a social setting, but the more you take your ask outside of the context of that setting the better.

Also, generally speaking, its not an attractive or powerful dynamic to be asking a girl for help on something. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask for help from girls if you really do need help with something of course! There are a few ways you can be tongue and cheek in this area and still come off as confident, but for the purposes of building attraction, asking a girl to help you with homework isn't going to do you any favors. I didn't have the balls or game to be more forward back when I was in college, so I tried the "lets hang out and study" approach with girls all the time. There are many times I got girls to spend time with me under the pretext of studying, but not once did it successfully lead to getting laid. I believe its a fundamentally flawed approach

 

[andersen09]

If you want to remove the influence of the social setting (math class, salsa class), simply try this on a girl who has no social ties with you. Like if you are waiting in a line or a bus stop or something. But without any situational context the girl might not comply with you because it does not seem practical, not necessarily because she is not attracted to you, that would depend on what kind of investment you ask from her.

Well, that's the thing. For example, if it's a total stranger moving with me, I know for sure she's attracted. But when it's within a social setting, it's more of a grey area and it'd be immensely helpful to test ways to be sure if she's being polite or acting on attraction.

My best advice is to make the movement not tied to the social context. So, in your example, you had a girl in your math class and you asked for her to move under the context of helping you with math homework. There is a strong possibility she might be willing to move with you regardless of her attraction level. She might want to make new friends in class, she might enjoy helping and tutoring people with school subjects, she might not really want to but decide that she will because you reminded her she has a class with you and she doesn't want to make things awkward by refusing, etc.

If you asked her to come closer so you can see her necklace, and then walk over and sit down because you wanted to talk to her, that's a much better frame to be using because its much less likely that she'll say yes if she isn't interested, and you'll have a much stronger attraction level if she complies. There will still be SOME variables that come into play anytime you have a social setting, but the more you take your ask outside of the context of that setting the better.

Also, generally speaking, its not an attractive or powerful dynamic to be asking a girl for help on something. I'm not saying you shouldn't ask for help from girls if you really do need help with something of course! There are a few ways you can be tongue and cheek in this area and still come off as confident, but for the purposes of building attraction, asking a girl to help you with homework isn't going to do you any favors. I didn't have the balls or game to be more forward back when I was in college, so I tried the "lets hang out and study" approach with girls all the time. There are many times I got girls to spend time with me under the pretext of studying, but not once did it successfully lead to getting laid. I believe its a fundamentally flawed approach

I agree with the necklace portion because you're making the relationship more personal than a social setting. That's a solid point. Everything else I'll take with a grain of salt. Thank you!