Another useful outing...day + night game
Before I begin, the stricter diet is going extremely well -- I've lost around 2~3kg this week. I had extra time with my kids b/c youngest son's birthday, house got trashed as usual, had a deadline at work, totally stressful week and my sleep has been all over the place but I had basically caught up by this morning (Friday morning) so went to the gym and then had a sleep in. I found it hard to concentrate at work so I shut down the computer at 17.30 and went sarging
I was on a mission to compliment everybody I spoke to that day, so I told the serving chick that I liked her earrings (she didn't hear so I said it again and she accepted the compliment), asked how she was going today and gave my order. She wasn't sure if I'd ordered soy or regular milk, so she asked me and I said regular, then kicked myself because I could have said with a straight face "Breast milk, please" and then laughed and told her regular. My idea is to go a bit BMOCy in this way, get it established early on that I notice her as a woman, and then say outrageously sexual stuff whenever it occurs to me.
Spoke to a number of cuties, one of them I stopped on the way to her table (while I was sitting down) and delivered the totally cute line, asked what she was up to and she said study so I teased her about setting up camp in there. Another one was doing psychology homework and I suggested she may need a human subject to practice on, but she wasn't too interested and returned to her work. As I was leaving I addressed the camping one by name and said bye, see you later and she was happy (smiled).
Lost count here, some highlights... woman about my age with a yellow top I told her "I could not help but notice your yellow top, you look great" or similar and we chatted a moment, whatever event she was going to I told her she would have no trouble picking up guys in her current outfit and she laughed and we went our separate ways.
Another one was a hot 22-year old Eurasian coming out of a shop and I stopped her and told her she looked amazingly cute...for a Jehovah's witness. hahaha she was amused although she pretended to be cross, so I touched her arm and smiled and said I was only teasing her, at this point she introduced her mum who was coming out of the shop and so I chatted with them for a while, they invited me to their convention and I said "would there be more girls as cute as you?" and other similar stuff. Should have number closed the mum, she was a bit flirtatious hahaha but I won't be in their city in the near future I guess.
Another highlight was a lovely tall girl in black and white walking with 2 friends, she was slightly behind them so I stopped her for a moment and told her she was totally cute and she was happy, I asked what she was doing and if she was with the other girls and she said yes, I said "so does that mean you wouldn't have time for a quick coffee with me" and she said "I'm married, I don't have coffee with strange men" so I smiled and said "only discreet ones" and she liked that. I let her go on her way.
I called in briefly at a balcony bar but no women mingling around, there was one group which didn't look that approachable (at my current skill level) so I left.
Stopped a lovely tallish girl in a black lace dress who was crossing the street, I was halfway across the pedestrian crossing when I made eye contact with her and gave her a compliment and walked back with her, I asked what she was up to and she said meeting friends and indicated the meeting spot, I said "what would your friends think if they saw you hitting on strange men?" and she said "ohh, uhh, they wouldn't be too impressed!" and I replied "but they know you have a playful side"... and we batted this around a minute or so, she then said she was going to wait for her friends, so I touched her on the shoulder and wished her goodbye.
I also opened a hot young girl with shitloads of makeup on in a group, her friend immediately started telling me to fuck off, out of luck and so forth but I held my frame and
kept talking, teased the cockblocking chick about how she could go to the police academy to learn how to stop things getting out of hand, anyway it turned out I'd opened a 15 year old hahaha so I said something like "no way, thought you were much older, then again I could hardly see anything underneath all that makeup!" hahaha.
I then started walking down by the river to see if I could scope out a good private spot to set up the sleeping bag when I pull someone there, it wasn't great although possible. Approached another woman who was on the way to a dance class, she turned out to be married but was OK to chat for a bit, a funny thing happened when we walked in tandem up to a power pole or similar, she did not seem clear where she was going so I grabbed her around the shoulders and pulled her over to my side of the pole but I think she was a little freaked that I was getting physical and left soon after.
At this point I'd done maybe 15 approaches and I'd used a fair bit of compliance (hey, stop for a moment) and I had been on a mission to practice bantering and turning things sexual, for this reason I did not attempt any deep diving as I normally do (a lot of my approaches turn into a kind of 20 questions as I struggle to keep it going and I'm trying to avoid this). I failed to hook but nevertheless had a moderately entertaining time, and definitely improved my banter.
I made my way gradually around the edge of the city, wasn't too sure what to do, was hungry but unsure where to get food that would be OK for my diet, did various approaches here and there but nothing worth mentioning.
There was one woman I wished I had opened, I noticed her lace skirt as she was crossing the street a bit ahead of me, she seemed to be heading for a group of guys so I didn't open immediately, she then walked past them and I thought she would go into one of the bars in the street and I could casually come in after, but she continued on and I realized she was going into a carpark. By this stage she was a long way away and I have not really wanted to chase women down since I now have the "hey stop for a minute" opener in my toolkit.
I noticed that as it was getting a bit later (though not dark yet) it was much harder to find women alone, they seemed to have gotten into their groups or met their boyfriends for the evening. So eventually ended up back at the car, ready to start night game in the area I'd chosen (I went and grabbed some food in Little Vietnam on the way).
Since I now have public sex in my toolkit I'm less worried about logistics and I'm keen to find some venues further afield. After parking by the beach I went to the local pub but nobody worth approaching, if I'd had more balls I could have approached some small groups I suppose. I noticed a circle of about 20~30 hot young women in netball t-shirts in the main room of the pub, again it was a bit hard to approach, I noticed a pair with an empty seat either side and was weighing up the approach when their friends got back and filled the seats so decided not to worry about it (I don't want to approach from behind). So I decided to blow this place off and went back to the car to get changed into my nightgame gear, brush my teeth, apply more cologne etc.
The main street
For a Friday night it was pretty dead, there were about 10~12 bars on this street and I went into about half of them, I don't think I did any approaches inside but I did a fair few in the street, some of them were promoting (handing out coupons for stuff) so we kind of approached each other at the same time. The best one was circus chick, when she told me her occupation is circus training I stepped back a bit, looked her body up and down and said "wow, you must have a tight body hidden under all those layers" and she was up for it. I think I maybe could have number closed here, she was telling me a lot about places she goes in the city and maybe hinting to meet up there sometime, but I froze up a bit, I was trying to think of a yes-ladder but it didn't come, so after an awkward pause I just chatted with her a bit more and closed out.
The waterfront bar where I've number closed in the past
So I walked back past my car and down the beach some way to another main street and went to a bar I've been before which is near the beach. This was probably the best venue all night, because it wasn't too loud and there were heaps of women there, I would have approached about 10~15 and gotten pretty good reactions.
One of them seemed pretty keen but unfortunately I was cock blocked by the arrival back to the table of her group, there was a drink in front of me so I asked some guy if I'd taken his seat and he said yes, but instead of polite-me just getting back and returning it I stayed put, saying vaguely "oh... can we get another seat somewhere" and apparently they could. But some orbiter pulled my girl away to outside and I didn't want to chase so I just stayed at the table getting ignored for a while and then thanked them for their hospitality, shook hands and left to chat up more women at the bar.
In one case I told a tall woman "I couldn't help noticing how tall and cute you are" (this is a line which works well for me) and started chatting, but unbelievably got cockblocked by the same orbiter who came up and engaged her, so I started talking to her friend, who was also cute, and this went fine, except I overdid it with the chase frames (they were trying to leave and I suggested her friend was intending to stay and hit on random guys instead, and the one I was talking to got a bit offended and started doing that smirky sort of shrug that girls do when they're telling you to fuck off).
Chatted to various other people, some guys, a girl I'd opened earlier who turned out to have a boyfriend, etc, but eventually decided to blow. As I was leaving I had the following text convo with June from previous post:
22:48 June: Hi Raymond, hows your day? I hope you had a good day...
22:49 June: Do you still want to catch up? If so, may we make it on Sat afternoon if you are free becoz I'm working on sunday night as well...
23:07 Ray: yeah, we can do that...btw, where r u now? if u dont have early start we can go for a drink, im not far away (place) [it was probably unnecessary of me to push for immediate meeting but I was kind of bored and I felt it was an okay risk because June seems keen]
23:08 June: oh im in city
23:09 June: do u want to meet up at 5.30pm on sunday?
23:09 June: sorry i mean saturday
23:12 Ray: yeah thats fine, so I take it you're going to sleep now? how was work?
23:14 June: cool... Today is very busy... Yeah Im going to sleep now becoz im tired ...
23:14 June: Enjoy your night and take care ... Night
23:16 Ray: cu tom. sleep well
This is astonishingly warm for someone I've only met so briefly. I suspect that she deliberately bumped into me as an IOI. This woman knows what she wants! hahaha
On the way out of this bar I also engaged one of the netballers "hey, are you one of the netballers I saw at [bar] earlier... I wanted to say hi but you were in a pretty tight group", we got introduced by name and she agreed they are pretty tight, told me a little about their adventure and noted that the group was down to about 50% of its former size... by this time most of the others had gained admittance so they went off to the bar, I think she touched me on the shoulder as she was saying bye so I probably could have persisted, but I decided to keep going (it would be uphill going trying to isolate her from her group I thought, and I didn't want to become an orbiter).
Totally crap venues
I then went to the fashionable shopping street some way from the beach which is supposed to have great nightlife etc, well it blew... went into one club for all of 20 minutes, the music was shit and the crowd ancient (without girlschase however I could only aspire to this kind of crowd, as it is I go for mid-20s women, 30s sometimes). I approached some women for the sake of form but they were pretty ugly. Came out and found I had a parking ticket, fuck! Tried another club and it was crap, there were some hot women but all sitting on couches or around tables in groups with lots of guys so it was hard to get a look in, I opened a few women at the bar but nothing doing.
The last club I went to try I couldn't find but eventually blew it off and decided to go to the city, this was a shame because I'm trying not to become a regular at my favourite city clubs (subject of earlier FR "badass night out" among others) but overall I had to go where I felt there would be the best chance of some pussy and that was it. Not to mention that I knew the music would be good and I could have a good time and just work a bit of game into it, instead of focussing totally on game.
The pussy factory
Yes lots of Asian totty as usual, but pretty tight groups which are hard to break into (Asian women are really into defending each other's pussies). Lots of drunk guys trying to grab women and pull them in for dances and so on. Which makes it a bit hard to calibrate since I have to show leadership without being like those guys. Anyway I certainly did more than 20 approaches, maybe closer to 30 (my usual shotgun style), I had some dances with drunk girls and copped a few feels (but blew them off when I realized they were drunk).
The chick there that I liked the most I'll call Connie. I saw her come in with 2 friends and noticed her style which was jeans, some kind of jacket/vest and a headband, she looked really interesting as well as being cute, quite dark skinned Asian looks and big sexy lips. So I gradually made my way over, pre-opened from the side and told her "I saw you come in and I couldn't help noticing your outfit, you look fabulous!
" (I've been trying to impart more emotion into my compliments) and we got introduced, she then indicated her friends (who were dancing and I couldn't easily engage them) so I said "ohh, so I've gotta pass the test huh, get the picture" with a grin, anyway conversation wasn't really possible so I eventually disengaged, pinged her a number of times and eventually (much later) said to her something like "when you finish your beer come and have a dance with me" and she looked me dead in the eyes and said "ookay", however when I went to take her hand 5min later she wasn't into it, fuck, I persisted a bit and we started dancing together and looking into each other's eyes with me smiling a sexual smile that widened into a genuine smile cos I was really happy, that's when she ejected, oh well... so I went off to dance somewhere else, met other chicks and so on, but a bit of weird shit went on with Connie also.
Firstly I was dancing on the stage with some other guys around me when the first of Connie's friends came up onto the stage next to me, so I opened her with "hi there" and we started to do a sexy dance with the others watching... this went fine so she went back to her group and then the second one came up to me and did the same thing, got another sexy dance out and this was great too, had my hand on her arse which was really lovely (I digged this 2nd chick), anyway soon enough she goes back too and then I think they pushed Connie over towards me, she came up on stage with her back to me and I just placed my hands lightly on her shoulders and danced a little, but she ejected soon after... hmm was a little puzzled at all of their behaviour so a little later I followed Connie towards the bar and tried to verbally engage her again, first I tried to confirm her name was actually Connie and I hadn't misheard, but I should have just grabbed her by the hand and taken her outside to get to the bottom of things, I think I failed in leadership here by being too timid and basically too keen to try to differentiate my own "softly softly" non chasing approach from all the drunk guys. Anyway she ejected again after a very brief conversation that I could not really hear. But for some reason was hanging around me a bit, totally weird-ass shit all this.
I was in the process of chatting to a Korean chick when lights went up, but I could see this chick was not gonna detach from her group (it was very difficult just moving her outside so we could hear properly, as she insisted on going to get a guy friend to come out with us, she was still happy to talk but we got cockblocked by bouncer kicking us out), I suggested we all go for coffee nearby but nothing doing. So eventually I just left by myself. Towards the bottom of the stairs I spotted a guy I had made friends with, making out with one of the drunk chicks I'd danced with (tattooed girl, she looked hot even if she wasn't that svelte)... so I offered them a lift, thinking this guy needed a boost in the logistics department, but nothing doing, he was trying to figure stuff out with her, but she was drunk, so good luck to him I guess. I doubt he got laid.
The deep-house party
Wasn't ready to throw in the towel so I did what I did last time (FR: badass night out) and went by this other club, well paid $10 entry but the beats were not totally to my taste, there was a bit of pussy there but nothing like last time. Mostly pretty unattractive. After checking out the various dancefloors and evaluating various girls from the viewpoint of approaching, I went back to the bar, positioned myself behind a quite attractive chick, but failed to open when she turned towards me, realized I was tired and it was time to go home.
At this point I had been gaming for 10 hours straight. I think the most valuable part was the daygame (improved banter and early sexualization)... maybe if I can combine this with the deep diving which I can already do (but I want to make it deeper), then I might bring home the bacon?
However I think there was another factor to my lack of success which could be my voice fundamentals, I have a lot of trouble with my voice, because I am hearing impaired, and I am taking voice classes which have helped enormously, but improvement is very slow, especially as I do not really have time to do the homework properly. In the car on the way from daygame to nightgame I diagnosed that my voice could be an issue and I think I improved matters in this area for the rest of the night. Anyway I've been practicing breathing from my diaphragm (which is one of the main things taught in voice class) and this is useful because I need to breathe from my diaphragm in order to breathe properly while I'm doing my gunslinger walk (cannot breathe from your chest if you have your chest thrust fully out and upwards). Getting it. Yawn