Hello! I'm new to the forums and want to share a recent experience with all of you. I need opinions and advice on how I should have handled this situation. I'm not totally new to picking up and attracting women but I do feel that there is always room for improvement.
My name is Wes and I had been dating a woman for a good while. This topic is NOT about this woman. This topic is about a woman who I was attracted to during the time I was stupid enough to stay with the other lady lol. She is 36 which is 10 years older than me. Absolutely gorgeous and a sweetheart as well. I noticed she was giving me signs of attraction for a good while. She would smile at me, I would catch her staring at me, and sometimes when I held eye contact she would look down like she was shy.
We work at the same place together but on different shifts. I would see her briefly before I left my shift to go home. I thought this lady would be easy to date. I was wrong. She changed departments and I didn't get to see her very often anymore. The only thing I could think of was to contact her via facebook. I lied and said I saw her on my "people you may know thing". I didn't want to look like a stalker or anything. After sending her a message I did not receive a response. I waited for 3 days and got nothing. I sent her a follow up message suggesting that if she didn't like facebook messages she should come and say hello to me on a day she worked overtime and came in early. No reply. Her facebook said she was single and I didn't understand what the problem was.
I finally decided I was going to give up. I sent her one last message politely telling her off. Telling her she could at least give a guy a one word response. Then I told her to be more polite when the next guy comes along. That got me a message. She apologized and said she was in a relationship with someone after she picked on me for having a profile picture that she said made me look crazy. Then she said she was only kidding about the picture. I sent several messages back and forth with her talking about work and I'd throw in a flirt now and again. Then she went cold and didn't respond again. I sent her one last message indicating I was done and was moving on. She sent one back wishing me the best at finding someone. The last thing I wanted to hear.
I don't normally push the issue but what happened there? I have a strong indication she was attracted to me but she turned out to be a cold fish. If she is truly in a relationship it couldn't have been for very long. Unless she got pissed I never made a move and gave up on me. Now she's enjoying me rolling around in misery trying to get a date? Her facebook still says she is single so could the boyfriend be totally fake? Did I miss an opportunity here?
Just looking for any way to possibly salvage the situation. Still like her. What advice to you guys have for me? I'm pretty bummed about all of this. It's like she wouldn't even admit that there was a mutual attraction in the first place. I'm really lost on this one.
My name is Wes and I had been dating a woman for a good while. This topic is NOT about this woman. This topic is about a woman who I was attracted to during the time I was stupid enough to stay with the other lady lol. She is 36 which is 10 years older than me. Absolutely gorgeous and a sweetheart as well. I noticed she was giving me signs of attraction for a good while. She would smile at me, I would catch her staring at me, and sometimes when I held eye contact she would look down like she was shy.
We work at the same place together but on different shifts. I would see her briefly before I left my shift to go home. I thought this lady would be easy to date. I was wrong. She changed departments and I didn't get to see her very often anymore. The only thing I could think of was to contact her via facebook. I lied and said I saw her on my "people you may know thing". I didn't want to look like a stalker or anything. After sending her a message I did not receive a response. I waited for 3 days and got nothing. I sent her a follow up message suggesting that if she didn't like facebook messages she should come and say hello to me on a day she worked overtime and came in early. No reply. Her facebook said she was single and I didn't understand what the problem was.
I finally decided I was going to give up. I sent her one last message politely telling her off. Telling her she could at least give a guy a one word response. Then I told her to be more polite when the next guy comes along. That got me a message. She apologized and said she was in a relationship with someone after she picked on me for having a profile picture that she said made me look crazy. Then she said she was only kidding about the picture. I sent several messages back and forth with her talking about work and I'd throw in a flirt now and again. Then she went cold and didn't respond again. I sent her one last message indicating I was done and was moving on. She sent one back wishing me the best at finding someone. The last thing I wanted to hear.
I don't normally push the issue but what happened there? I have a strong indication she was attracted to me but she turned out to be a cold fish. If she is truly in a relationship it couldn't have been for very long. Unless she got pissed I never made a move and gave up on me. Now she's enjoying me rolling around in misery trying to get a date? Her facebook still says she is single so could the boyfriend be totally fake? Did I miss an opportunity here?
Just looking for any way to possibly salvage the situation. Still like her. What advice to you guys have for me? I'm pretty bummed about all of this. It's like she wouldn't even admit that there was a mutual attraction in the first place. I'm really lost on this one.
