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This is my first field report in a decade. I am still mentally and emotionally reeling from my ex to the point of developing insomnia.
Over last 2 weeks, I’ve been on 5 dates from 5 different women, but fucked 0. I met all of them from daygame approach.
Caveat 1: For last 7 years, since 2018, my logistics have been fucked. I live in a shithole quiet suburban area in London but far away from centre. It is not likely to change soon. I can't invite women here so need to resort to trying to weasel my way to their place or hotel.
Caveat 2: I have direct national, ethnic and background connections to certain countries that tend to arose negative reactions from a very substantial demographic. This means apriori a large, large amount of women I meet, I simply won’t be compatible with them long term, and short term they wouldn’t want to be with me, either just by pure association. It’s a big problem because this means my potential dating pool is heavily reduced in UK.
Caveat 3: I have a chronic computer vision eye problem that makes my under eye bag area ugly pink and puffy. It turns me from handsome to ugly tired looking and really affects my confidence.
Caveat 4: there is another factor in my situation I'd rather not talk about that also reduces the pool of women I could potentially approach.
So, the dates:
Girl 1: 29 year old American girl that I wrote about in my journal already. Got her number in 2 mins. I think I screwed that one up myself. Did not escalate fast enough on the date and missed the opportunity. That one is on me.
Girl 2: 40 year old, direct authoritative business woman. Met her while on vacation in Spain recently. She was just a timewaster who used me for validation. She got dumped literally 2 days before meeting me. I went for dinner instadate with her after meeting her on the beach. Forced a makeout but she shut down any further advancement. Timewaster.
Girl 3: 30 year old, back in London. Again, got her number in 2 mins. She was cool and actually I would have wanted to see her again. But from the get go, I knew because of her background it won’t go anywhere long term. I initially during our whatsapp messages, tried to pitch the idea of a “date” at her place, but she declined making it clear she wasn’t intending to fuck on the first date, but was happy to meet outside. So I met her in a bar.
On the date, our conversation descended into discussing political issues once she realised where I am from (I have no intention to hide it as I am hoping for something long term, and conversation turning political is basically inevitable once they know my background), and we realised there is a huge gap in our beliefs. I got some makeouts, with her but she said it will not go any further romantically in future because of our differences. It’s cool, but disappointing.
Girl 4: 30 year old, Turkish business woman on a weekend holiday in London. I see her walking at 10pm in Soho smoking a cigarette. I say “Hey, you look great…Would you like to come for a drink with me?” She agrees. We go to a nearby bar, get a drink, chat and I start making out with her after like 20 mins or so… Soon later I say to her “Let’s go back to your hotel and continue the night there”, She declines, saying “thank you for the night but I will walk to my hotel on my own…”. I try to persist, but it goes nowhere and I leave her.
Damn logistics. If I had a normal place near the centre or at least a car, I’d try to pull her there…But instead I am forced to rely on brute force method of trying to invite myself to their place. But who knows, could have also been a timewaster who only used me for some makeout validation, you know how women are…
Girl 5: 25 year old. Again, super fast direct day approach, I literally said to her “Hi, you have an amazing sense of style…You know why I am talking to you, so I’ll cut to the chase: I want to meet you for a drink”. She says ok, we chatted for 2 more mins and took her number.
Most of my approaches are like this by the way…Very fast, direct, I shoot for a date / idea of intimate get together very quickly to see how they react…
I again casually floated the idea of going back to her place during text messages; she said something like “let’s see what happens, I will prob need to go back to the library” (She said earlier she is studying and has a project deadline and is in the libraries till midnight).
So I met her last night at a bar near her library. This time I moved fast, went for a makeout in like 20 mins. The conversation was ok, quite nice but not the most fluent ever. I had another makeout with her a little later and talked more.
Around 45 mins into the date, once our wine glasses were empty, she says, “so, what are you doing later…?” I reply, “well, I am thinking let’s get a bottle of wine and head back to yours?”, to which she declines, saying that she really needs to continue with her project.
So we gather our belongings and I walk her back to the library that’s 2 mins away. I try another makeout , but she says something like “I need more time to get intimate with people”. We say goodbye and call it a night.
So here I am. Hundreds of approaches, 5 dates in quick succession, no fucking. Screwed up logistics. And none of these women, I instinctively feel come even close to matching the emotional and physical chemistry I had with my ex, let alone all the national and background issues. It’s all very sad and I am sick of this.
Over last 2 weeks, I’ve been on 5 dates from 5 different women, but fucked 0. I met all of them from daygame approach.
Caveat 1: For last 7 years, since 2018, my logistics have been fucked. I live in a shithole quiet suburban area in London but far away from centre. It is not likely to change soon. I can't invite women here so need to resort to trying to weasel my way to their place or hotel.
Caveat 2: I have direct national, ethnic and background connections to certain countries that tend to arose negative reactions from a very substantial demographic. This means apriori a large, large amount of women I meet, I simply won’t be compatible with them long term, and short term they wouldn’t want to be with me, either just by pure association. It’s a big problem because this means my potential dating pool is heavily reduced in UK.
Caveat 3: I have a chronic computer vision eye problem that makes my under eye bag area ugly pink and puffy. It turns me from handsome to ugly tired looking and really affects my confidence.
Caveat 4: there is another factor in my situation I'd rather not talk about that also reduces the pool of women I could potentially approach.
So, the dates:
Girl 1: 29 year old American girl that I wrote about in my journal already. Got her number in 2 mins. I think I screwed that one up myself. Did not escalate fast enough on the date and missed the opportunity. That one is on me.
Girl 2: 40 year old, direct authoritative business woman. Met her while on vacation in Spain recently. She was just a timewaster who used me for validation. She got dumped literally 2 days before meeting me. I went for dinner instadate with her after meeting her on the beach. Forced a makeout but she shut down any further advancement. Timewaster.
Girl 3: 30 year old, back in London. Again, got her number in 2 mins. She was cool and actually I would have wanted to see her again. But from the get go, I knew because of her background it won’t go anywhere long term. I initially during our whatsapp messages, tried to pitch the idea of a “date” at her place, but she declined making it clear she wasn’t intending to fuck on the first date, but was happy to meet outside. So I met her in a bar.
On the date, our conversation descended into discussing political issues once she realised where I am from (I have no intention to hide it as I am hoping for something long term, and conversation turning political is basically inevitable once they know my background), and we realised there is a huge gap in our beliefs. I got some makeouts, with her but she said it will not go any further romantically in future because of our differences. It’s cool, but disappointing.
Girl 4: 30 year old, Turkish business woman on a weekend holiday in London. I see her walking at 10pm in Soho smoking a cigarette. I say “Hey, you look great…Would you like to come for a drink with me?” She agrees. We go to a nearby bar, get a drink, chat and I start making out with her after like 20 mins or so… Soon later I say to her “Let’s go back to your hotel and continue the night there”, She declines, saying “thank you for the night but I will walk to my hotel on my own…”. I try to persist, but it goes nowhere and I leave her.
Damn logistics. If I had a normal place near the centre or at least a car, I’d try to pull her there…But instead I am forced to rely on brute force method of trying to invite myself to their place. But who knows, could have also been a timewaster who only used me for some makeout validation, you know how women are…
Girl 5: 25 year old. Again, super fast direct day approach, I literally said to her “Hi, you have an amazing sense of style…You know why I am talking to you, so I’ll cut to the chase: I want to meet you for a drink”. She says ok, we chatted for 2 more mins and took her number.
Most of my approaches are like this by the way…Very fast, direct, I shoot for a date / idea of intimate get together very quickly to see how they react…
I again casually floated the idea of going back to her place during text messages; she said something like “let’s see what happens, I will prob need to go back to the library” (She said earlier she is studying and has a project deadline and is in the libraries till midnight).
So I met her last night at a bar near her library. This time I moved fast, went for a makeout in like 20 mins. The conversation was ok, quite nice but not the most fluent ever. I had another makeout with her a little later and talked more.
Around 45 mins into the date, once our wine glasses were empty, she says, “so, what are you doing later…?” I reply, “well, I am thinking let’s get a bottle of wine and head back to yours?”, to which she declines, saying that she really needs to continue with her project.
So we gather our belongings and I walk her back to the library that’s 2 mins away. I try another makeout , but she says something like “I need more time to get intimate with people”. We say goodbye and call it a night.
So here I am. Hundreds of approaches, 5 dates in quick succession, no fucking. Screwed up logistics. And none of these women, I instinctively feel come even close to matching the emotional and physical chemistry I had with my ex, let alone all the national and background issues. It’s all very sad and I am sick of this.
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