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Hey guys, what's up? I'm just gonna skip the usual intro because this problem is one i'm concerned about right now. One could even say I'm panicking! So before I give context and ask the question that's been ringing through my head for the past 24 hours, let me tell you what I've noticed about my relationships:
They don't last long. Actually, it seems the better my game gets (and more sexual I become), the shorter they last (first was a year but not sexual at all, the next a few months, then a week, then the one before my current a few days!)
So now that the observed issue is out there, let's get to context then the question.
(context) So I've just started in a new school which is more outdoorsy. By the third day, I had already built up plenty of preselection by flirting with just about every girl around my age who I found attractive (It's a small school, word travels fast) and putting myself on good terms with all the other guys. So by the third day (yesterday), I had just finished of my after school sport and got changed in the locker room. By the time I walk out the door, I noticed one of the girls who was just slightly younger than me talking with another guy (who was on a computer). So since this is one of those places where everybody knows everybody, I went up to her and started a conversation (All throughout any of my interactions with her, I made sure to make plenty of physical contact). Eventually, her friend comes along and invites her backstage (curtains closed) and she invites me to go with her, so of course I went with her. We sat backstage for a while (just gossip). About ten minutes in, I suggest she shows me around a little more. Without hesitation, she does so (but her friend follows). Once this is over, time runs out and she goes to get changed out of her sports clothes for a bonfire we had as social occasion in a few minutes. So I walked off to put away my sports stuff.
Later, I would be on my way out from the gym after going back to look for everybody when she and one other girl would come find me. They would walk me up to the bonfire and on the way, I would deep dive with her. Upon arrival, I had come to notice everyone else from the school was there so I just hung out with her most of the time (again, plenty of physical contact). Eventually, the fire would be lit and we'd go and stand by the fire since we were both cold due to our lack of jackets. About 5 minutes later I would ask her quietly "So, know any other secret places around here?". Before I even had a chance to blink, she said "Yeah, sure let me show you around the garden!" Then leads me off to a row of apple trees which arched over our path. Along the way, I placed my arm on her back and continued to place my arm around her since the path was pretty narrow. She places one arm around me as well. When we come out of the arched apple tree path, I notice the garden nearby "Is that a black pumpkin!?" We walked into the garden to check it out. As we stand there with our arms still wrapped around each other she says "Look, a sunset!". After we watch the sun set, we look to each other and begin making out. Shortly after, I ask "So, think we can make it back stage?" She smiles and raises an eyebrow like she found a new toy (in a good way if you get what I'm saying). This is when we begin walking back to the crowd, still holding each other. In response, she says "I don't think Ms.(a teacher I can't remember) will let us leave the garden area." Which I would later find is actually true but just in case I persist a little more "That's what makes it fun... Com'on I know you want to". She doesn't get a chance to reply before we make it back to the crowd.
We ended up rejoining a group of her friends. For some reason, there was an awkward silence and everyone parts ways (including us). We didn't talk for a majority of the rest of the time and didn't tell anyone (least I didn't). During the next turn of events, the sun has set and everyone is called up to the bonfire to play a game. Once that's over, we sang songs around the fire. She came close to me and took a seat jokingly on her friend (who had a person or two between us). When we got around to the love songs, I caught her looking at me out of the corner of her eye. This is the point were I notice I've actually been looking over at her more than my own friends so, I stop glancing over at her and start messing around with my friends. After the singing stops, we're told to go home. On way away from the bonfire, we (the girl and I) bump into each other gently. Afterwords I continue onwards to the garden house were everyone was picking up their school supplies (Since it was so soon after school and the building was locked with my stuff inside).
So, upon remembering her mother is actually a teacher at the school I go and ask her if there was any chance she could get me into the school. She says she can and that she actually has to pick up her sports stuff from the gym as well. I decided we should go to the gym first so we go. On the way I asked managed to get her number, and once we got there I said I'd wait outside the locker room if she'd like, to which she agreed. Once she got out, she looked me over (From the feet up) and smiles slightly. The stages is right next to us but nothing is said (not even from me, for a reason of which I do not know). She then gets me back into the school and simply says "see ya" after I mention I'm going to go get my things. It would be about an hour later (it was really late and I had to get up early today, this she knew) that I would text her. "Hey (her name)! Thinking we need to get together sometime soon. What's your schedule looking like this weekend? -(my name)" No response then or until the time of this post.
(question) I know that was a lot of context, but here's my question: I know there were a few things a did wrong here, you probably spotted them. Is there anything I can do about these to keep the new relationship between us going (or even if they should have any effect on it's longevity)? I'm planning on isolating her again after school sports on Monday (the closest next school day since all the context occurred on a Friday) either backstage or somewhere else on campus for a more sexual interaction
. My only concern is actually making it to Monday because of the pattern I observed earlier about my relationships and even just making this work at all. I guess the real question is: Well, I've got this far (which is uncommon due to me being in school as a teenager and all), there aren't too many girls in my school so I can't really muck this up. What do I do now?
*Update: I just texted the number again only to discover it's not her number. She gave me that on the way to the gym at the end! What just happened!? Maybe this was by accident? I just don't understand why she'd give me a fake number after clearly showing she likes me all throughout the night.
They don't last long. Actually, it seems the better my game gets (and more sexual I become), the shorter they last (first was a year but not sexual at all, the next a few months, then a week, then the one before my current a few days!)
So now that the observed issue is out there, let's get to context then the question.
(context) So I've just started in a new school which is more outdoorsy. By the third day, I had already built up plenty of preselection by flirting with just about every girl around my age who I found attractive (It's a small school, word travels fast) and putting myself on good terms with all the other guys. So by the third day (yesterday), I had just finished of my after school sport and got changed in the locker room. By the time I walk out the door, I noticed one of the girls who was just slightly younger than me talking with another guy (who was on a computer). So since this is one of those places where everybody knows everybody, I went up to her and started a conversation (All throughout any of my interactions with her, I made sure to make plenty of physical contact). Eventually, her friend comes along and invites her backstage (curtains closed) and she invites me to go with her, so of course I went with her. We sat backstage for a while (just gossip). About ten minutes in, I suggest she shows me around a little more. Without hesitation, she does so (but her friend follows). Once this is over, time runs out and she goes to get changed out of her sports clothes for a bonfire we had as social occasion in a few minutes. So I walked off to put away my sports stuff.
Later, I would be on my way out from the gym after going back to look for everybody when she and one other girl would come find me. They would walk me up to the bonfire and on the way, I would deep dive with her. Upon arrival, I had come to notice everyone else from the school was there so I just hung out with her most of the time (again, plenty of physical contact). Eventually, the fire would be lit and we'd go and stand by the fire since we were both cold due to our lack of jackets. About 5 minutes later I would ask her quietly "So, know any other secret places around here?". Before I even had a chance to blink, she said "Yeah, sure let me show you around the garden!" Then leads me off to a row of apple trees which arched over our path. Along the way, I placed my arm on her back and continued to place my arm around her since the path was pretty narrow. She places one arm around me as well. When we come out of the arched apple tree path, I notice the garden nearby "Is that a black pumpkin!?" We walked into the garden to check it out. As we stand there with our arms still wrapped around each other she says "Look, a sunset!". After we watch the sun set, we look to each other and begin making out. Shortly after, I ask "So, think we can make it back stage?" She smiles and raises an eyebrow like she found a new toy (in a good way if you get what I'm saying). This is when we begin walking back to the crowd, still holding each other. In response, she says "I don't think Ms.(a teacher I can't remember) will let us leave the garden area." Which I would later find is actually true but just in case I persist a little more "That's what makes it fun... Com'on I know you want to". She doesn't get a chance to reply before we make it back to the crowd.
We ended up rejoining a group of her friends. For some reason, there was an awkward silence and everyone parts ways (including us). We didn't talk for a majority of the rest of the time and didn't tell anyone (least I didn't). During the next turn of events, the sun has set and everyone is called up to the bonfire to play a game. Once that's over, we sang songs around the fire. She came close to me and took a seat jokingly on her friend (who had a person or two between us). When we got around to the love songs, I caught her looking at me out of the corner of her eye. This is the point were I notice I've actually been looking over at her more than my own friends so, I stop glancing over at her and start messing around with my friends. After the singing stops, we're told to go home. On way away from the bonfire, we (the girl and I) bump into each other gently. Afterwords I continue onwards to the garden house were everyone was picking up their school supplies (Since it was so soon after school and the building was locked with my stuff inside).
So, upon remembering her mother is actually a teacher at the school I go and ask her if there was any chance she could get me into the school. She says she can and that she actually has to pick up her sports stuff from the gym as well. I decided we should go to the gym first so we go. On the way I asked managed to get her number, and once we got there I said I'd wait outside the locker room if she'd like, to which she agreed. Once she got out, she looked me over (From the feet up) and smiles slightly. The stages is right next to us but nothing is said (not even from me, for a reason of which I do not know). She then gets me back into the school and simply says "see ya" after I mention I'm going to go get my things. It would be about an hour later (it was really late and I had to get up early today, this she knew) that I would text her. "Hey (her name)! Thinking we need to get together sometime soon. What's your schedule looking like this weekend? -(my name)" No response then or until the time of this post.
(question) I know that was a lot of context, but here's my question: I know there were a few things a did wrong here, you probably spotted them. Is there anything I can do about these to keep the new relationship between us going (or even if they should have any effect on it's longevity)? I'm planning on isolating her again after school sports on Monday (the closest next school day since all the context occurred on a Friday) either backstage or somewhere else on campus for a more sexual interaction
. My only concern is actually making it to Monday because of the pattern I observed earlier about my relationships and even just making this work at all. I guess the real question is: Well, I've got this far (which is uncommon due to me being in school as a teenager and all), there aren't too many girls in my school so I can't really muck this up. What do I do now?*Update: I just texted the number again only to discover it's not her number. She gave me that on the way to the gym at the end! What just happened!? Maybe this was by accident? I just don't understand why she'd give me a fake number after clearly showing she likes me all throughout the night.
