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Before I begin, I feel the need to remind anyone who reads my stuff I'm one of the younger lads on here (17 years young) since it tends to come into effect here quite a bit. (First part's just background)
So one of my parents decided to take me down to VA beach for about four days on a resort we're able to stay at for some sort of presentation. Anyways I'm getting off track, my goal going into the month was to approach 1,000 girls (or at least go down swinging, I'm at about three right now since I'm working against a little anxiety from being out of the game for about two months).
The first day was spent on the road entirely, so nothing there.
The second day
We went down to Williamsburg and I was able to see opportunities EVERYWHERE but was pretty nervous since I was pretty much stuck with my parent (mother, if it helps in any way). Although, I was able to shake my nervousness when we were waiting in line for "Axe throwing" and out of the corner of my eye, I saw one of the two trainers (one was a guy the other a girl, easy to guess I'm talking about the girl though) eyeing me up. Yes, I know it was me because there was no one else in line. She was sitting there at the entrance to the event and kept looking at me. So after a minute of hesitation, I just walked over to her and asked her if they always hit the target on the first try. She said no, not always. and that she didn't her first time either. We continued through the conversation. Conversation of common interest, introduction, deep dive, wasn't able to move since she was at work so I just considered it a warm up and moved along after deep diving a little more.
By the way, not sure if you guys already do this but I recommend the F.O.R.D. (Family, occupation, recreation, dreams) method for deep diving.
After continuing along our way from the axe throwing (they closed up shop before we had a chance), we (My parent and I) got into a completely irrelevant argument and ended up splitting up and agreeing to meet up somewhere else later. So I took this as an opportunity for another approach with less pressure. I ended up high-tailing it for a bookstore nearby with plenty of people in it (works even better with me since I can say honestly that I'm a writer if it comes up). By the time I got there, there weren't as many people and even less I found attractive who didn't seem too much older than me. However after A LOT OF PERSISTENCE, I managed to come across someone who worked there siting by a box of bookmarks (getting ready to put em' up). So I just walked up to her and said "Excuse me, I just saw you sitting here and just had to come tell you... I think you're kinda cute." (Thanks for the line chase, all credit to you here for that golden ticket) She got up and said
"Wow, thanks. But-"
Me: "just a compliment"
She continues "Thanks but I think I'm a little old for you"
Me: "Well, how old are you?"
Her: "28"
Me: "How old do you think I am?"
Her: "Lower twenties?"
Me: "About eighteen"
Her (smiling) : "Ya, you see? Almost a ten year difference."
Me: "Well I guess it's a good thing your not a bartender then, right?"
Her: "Yeah, I'd probably make more money though"
We kept talking for about a minute or two before duty called and a customer needed her assistance. Sad to say I forgot to do much more deep-diving other than "You from around here?" but I was a caught off-guard by the "too old, too young" excuse and ended up walking out and going back to the resort before any other approaches.
Day 3 on vacation (time of post)
We went down to the beach which had a boardwalk. I had complete free roam to the beach and boardwalk as long as I came back by a certain time. So I took of my shirt off which to my surprise, granted me a few more glances from a few groups around (even a girl AND her mother XD). This is surprising since I'm a tallish (about 6ft, the taller side for my age), but a SUPER skinny dude. It's been an issue for as long as I can remember since I'm not a big eater, because when I take a deep breath my ribs are pretty visible.
The first thing I did was just walk along the beach, but everyone was with someone (family, friends, boyfriends/husbands, ect.) so it made it hard for me to tell if it was really a good idea to try my hand there. So I go do the next best thing, I grab my shirt and sandals, (shades included) and hit the boardwalk. As I'm walking, I see a few joggers off in the distance so I get myself ready with my opener in mind. But when they get closer, I realize they're a little more on the older side. (EYES! YOU'VE FAILED ME FOR THE LAST TIME! is what I'm thinking at this point) And everyone else is STILL with someone and I'm STILL not up to approaching groups (I know, it's not that bad once you get in the conversation but I tend to have trouble sticking to talking to just one girl!). So I walk back to my mother and say "Let's go back to the resort". She insists on going out to get something to eat and so we do. Thank god she did, because this made my day.
We go to a bar/dinner where a cute hostess who seems REALLY young (like 20) shows us to our seats. Afterwords, I notice most of the waitresses are like that. "This is great! was one of the many things going through my mind... Visualize as you please at you're own discretion
. After we order our food, I notice the hostess walk past us (near the bathrooms were a desk was for a souvenir shop or something was) so I say I'm going to the bathroom and get up and go. When I get there she's busy with a group of people so I ask where the bathroom is and she points me out to it. I go in and wash off all the sand/ suntan lotion off my hands, fix my hair a little, and walk back out. She wasn't there. But wait! There she is walking back to the desk (it's actually a counter with a display in it, my bad). I'm well within her view, so I lean over to the side a little, smile slightly, and wave her down. She smiles back and walks over to the counter then asks "What's up?" I hadn't exactly considered what I'd say first, so I struggle for a second or two.
I end up smiling and asking her "Nothing much, so how's you're day going?"
She says: It's going alright.
Next thing I remember, I reach out my hand and introduce myself.
She reaches out and shakes my hand firmly: "Lauren"
The rest is pretty much just me struggling to keep the conversation flowing and trying to keep my cool before duty calls yet again, with something that seemed serious from her tone but was inaudible due to music. So I return to my meal, and eat quickly (which I'd regret doing later). Before we go, my mother said she's gotta go use the restroom. So I follow her over and wait outside since Lauren's busy tending to yet another crowd. Thankfully the crowd clears out before my mother does. And so I try my hand again, now more cooled off and line in mind.
I walk over to her and say loudly "And so I return with more game!"
She looks over at me and says: "What?"
I say: I return with more game, you wanna hear what I got?"
She leans in over the counter and says: "Go for it"
I say: "I got nothing! I'm drawing a blank! I'm shit out!"
(she laughs)
My mother walks out and looks for me, finds me, starts in my direction, I slightly shake my head at her and she stops and waits.
I look back over at Lauren and say: "Hey I gotta go soon, but I'm staying at resort nearby. If you want, we should exchange numbers and meet up sometime"
Her: I would love to but you're just a baby (playful tone)
(She had asked earlier what my age was, I said about eighteen to which she replied: so, sixteen? I correct her: "I'm actually seventeen, and you?" Her: "21")
Me: Well fun fact; Where I'm from, I'm legal. It depends on what state you're from and PA's sixteen. This tends to be something people my age know."
Her (still playful): "ok,cool. But I don't think my boyfriend would approve."
Me: "It's cool, we can bring him along!"
(She just laughs)
Me (holding back a laugh): "What?"
Her: "Nothing, man. You're just cracking me up!"
Me: "Ok well, I gotta go. We aren't going to meet up, no numbers exchanged here, I'd hate to forget such a pretty face. think I could get a picture?" (Figured I might as well get some preselection)
Her: "Sure!"
We take a picture and part ways:
(shake hands again)
Me: "Nice meeting you, Lauren"
Her: "You too, stay out of trouble out there."
Me: "I don't know if I can stay out of trouble, but I can say I'll do my best"
I walk away and return to the resort, tomorrow's just the day-long drive home. So I'm not expecting much but I'll reply if I do get something. I know this was a long post but is there anything I should touch up on a bit more? Feel free to leave some advice or anything ,really! (This is actually my first field report on here)
So one of my parents decided to take me down to VA beach for about four days on a resort we're able to stay at for some sort of presentation. Anyways I'm getting off track, my goal going into the month was to approach 1,000 girls (or at least go down swinging, I'm at about three right now since I'm working against a little anxiety from being out of the game for about two months).
The first day was spent on the road entirely, so nothing there.
The second day
We went down to Williamsburg and I was able to see opportunities EVERYWHERE but was pretty nervous since I was pretty much stuck with my parent (mother, if it helps in any way). Although, I was able to shake my nervousness when we were waiting in line for "Axe throwing" and out of the corner of my eye, I saw one of the two trainers (one was a guy the other a girl, easy to guess I'm talking about the girl though) eyeing me up. Yes, I know it was me because there was no one else in line. She was sitting there at the entrance to the event and kept looking at me. So after a minute of hesitation, I just walked over to her and asked her if they always hit the target on the first try. She said no, not always. and that she didn't her first time either. We continued through the conversation. Conversation of common interest, introduction, deep dive, wasn't able to move since she was at work so I just considered it a warm up and moved along after deep diving a little more.
By the way, not sure if you guys already do this but I recommend the F.O.R.D. (Family, occupation, recreation, dreams) method for deep diving.
After continuing along our way from the axe throwing (they closed up shop before we had a chance), we (My parent and I) got into a completely irrelevant argument and ended up splitting up and agreeing to meet up somewhere else later. So I took this as an opportunity for another approach with less pressure. I ended up high-tailing it for a bookstore nearby with plenty of people in it (works even better with me since I can say honestly that I'm a writer if it comes up). By the time I got there, there weren't as many people and even less I found attractive who didn't seem too much older than me. However after A LOT OF PERSISTENCE, I managed to come across someone who worked there siting by a box of bookmarks (getting ready to put em' up). So I just walked up to her and said "Excuse me, I just saw you sitting here and just had to come tell you... I think you're kinda cute." (Thanks for the line chase, all credit to you here for that golden ticket) She got up and said
"Wow, thanks. But-"
Me: "just a compliment"
She continues "Thanks but I think I'm a little old for you"
Me: "Well, how old are you?"
Her: "28"
Me: "How old do you think I am?"
Her: "Lower twenties?"
Me: "About eighteen"
Her (smiling) : "Ya, you see? Almost a ten year difference."
Me: "Well I guess it's a good thing your not a bartender then, right?"
Her: "Yeah, I'd probably make more money though"
We kept talking for about a minute or two before duty called and a customer needed her assistance. Sad to say I forgot to do much more deep-diving other than "You from around here?" but I was a caught off-guard by the "too old, too young" excuse and ended up walking out and going back to the resort before any other approaches.
Day 3 on vacation (time of post)
We went down to the beach which had a boardwalk. I had complete free roam to the beach and boardwalk as long as I came back by a certain time. So I took of my shirt off which to my surprise, granted me a few more glances from a few groups around (even a girl AND her mother XD). This is surprising since I'm a tallish (about 6ft, the taller side for my age), but a SUPER skinny dude. It's been an issue for as long as I can remember since I'm not a big eater, because when I take a deep breath my ribs are pretty visible.
The first thing I did was just walk along the beach, but everyone was with someone (family, friends, boyfriends/husbands, ect.) so it made it hard for me to tell if it was really a good idea to try my hand there. So I go do the next best thing, I grab my shirt and sandals, (shades included) and hit the boardwalk. As I'm walking, I see a few joggers off in the distance so I get myself ready with my opener in mind. But when they get closer, I realize they're a little more on the older side. (EYES! YOU'VE FAILED ME FOR THE LAST TIME! is what I'm thinking at this point) And everyone else is STILL with someone and I'm STILL not up to approaching groups (I know, it's not that bad once you get in the conversation but I tend to have trouble sticking to talking to just one girl!). So I walk back to my mother and say "Let's go back to the resort". She insists on going out to get something to eat and so we do. Thank god she did, because this made my day.
We go to a bar/dinner where a cute hostess who seems REALLY young (like 20) shows us to our seats. Afterwords, I notice most of the waitresses are like that. "This is great! was one of the many things going through my mind... Visualize as you please at you're own discretion
. After we order our food, I notice the hostess walk past us (near the bathrooms were a desk was for a souvenir shop or something was) so I say I'm going to the bathroom and get up and go. When I get there she's busy with a group of people so I ask where the bathroom is and she points me out to it. I go in and wash off all the sand/ suntan lotion off my hands, fix my hair a little, and walk back out. She wasn't there. But wait! There she is walking back to the desk (it's actually a counter with a display in it, my bad). I'm well within her view, so I lean over to the side a little, smile slightly, and wave her down. She smiles back and walks over to the counter then asks "What's up?" I hadn't exactly considered what I'd say first, so I struggle for a second or two. I end up smiling and asking her "Nothing much, so how's you're day going?"
She says: It's going alright.
Next thing I remember, I reach out my hand and introduce myself.
She reaches out and shakes my hand firmly: "Lauren"
The rest is pretty much just me struggling to keep the conversation flowing and trying to keep my cool before duty calls yet again, with something that seemed serious from her tone but was inaudible due to music. So I return to my meal, and eat quickly (which I'd regret doing later). Before we go, my mother said she's gotta go use the restroom. So I follow her over and wait outside since Lauren's busy tending to yet another crowd. Thankfully the crowd clears out before my mother does. And so I try my hand again, now more cooled off and line in mind.
I walk over to her and say loudly "And so I return with more game!"
She looks over at me and says: "What?"
I say: I return with more game, you wanna hear what I got?"
She leans in over the counter and says: "Go for it"
I say: "I got nothing! I'm drawing a blank! I'm shit out!"
(she laughs)
My mother walks out and looks for me, finds me, starts in my direction, I slightly shake my head at her and she stops and waits.
I look back over at Lauren and say: "Hey I gotta go soon, but I'm staying at resort nearby. If you want, we should exchange numbers and meet up sometime"
Her: I would love to but you're just a baby (playful tone)
(She had asked earlier what my age was, I said about eighteen to which she replied: so, sixteen? I correct her: "I'm actually seventeen, and you?" Her: "21")
Me: Well fun fact; Where I'm from, I'm legal. It depends on what state you're from and PA's sixteen. This tends to be something people my age know."
Her (still playful): "ok,cool. But I don't think my boyfriend would approve."
Me: "It's cool, we can bring him along!"
(She just laughs)
Me (holding back a laugh): "What?"
Her: "Nothing, man. You're just cracking me up!"
Me: "Ok well, I gotta go. We aren't going to meet up, no numbers exchanged here, I'd hate to forget such a pretty face. think I could get a picture?" (Figured I might as well get some preselection)
Her: "Sure!"
We take a picture and part ways:
(shake hands again)
Me: "Nice meeting you, Lauren"
Her: "You too, stay out of trouble out there."
Me: "I don't know if I can stay out of trouble, but I can say I'll do my best"
I walk away and return to the resort, tomorrow's just the day-long drive home. So I'm not expecting much but I'll reply if I do get something. I know this was a long post but is there anything I should touch up on a bit more? Feel free to leave some advice or anything ,really! (This is actually my first field report on here)
