Ability to connect with every girl - a myth?

[Smith]

Hey guys,

This question has been on my mind since the beginning. When I'm in a conversation with some girls, I can just click with them so well from the beginning. No awkwardness. We share some laughs, and the conversation just flows beautifully. I'm sure you guys know what I'm talking about.
But with other girls, there's just this "wall" between you two, and you both try to connect and keep the conversation going, but it's still awkward for some reason. Then either you or her exist the conversation.
Is this because you just can't click with every girl you meet? or is it because of my conversational skills, which still needs some tweaking?


Cheers

 

[Franco]

Smith,

But with other girls, there's just this "wall" between you two, and you both try to connect and keep the conversation going, but it's still awkward for some reason. Then either you or her exist the conversation.
Is this because you just can't click with every girl you meet? or is it because of my conversational skills, which still needs some tweaking?

Not every girl you meet will be on the same wavelength as you, and no matter how amazing your conversational skills may be, it's not going to change that.

For all you know, the girl could have just had a terrible day and has no interest in talking to any strangers (maybe especially guys). Or maybe you're not her type, physically. Or maybe she was hoping you would just grab her and kiss her without saying a word, and your rambling has sent her into auto-rejection.

There are limitless possibilities for why a girl may not be able to connect with you, and it's not really your goal to try to "force" her to connect with you either. Your goal is more to learn how to connect with women in general, and then apply those techniques with your own personal "Smith-esque" style and see which women bite. While there of course will be women who have no interest in moving toward a connection with you, the ones who DO want to connect with you will hook immediately assuming your fundamentals are on-point and your social skills are on par with hers.

- Franco

 

[Lotus]

Hey Smith,

I know what you mean by "click" but are you refering to sexually click or just be able to engage all women in meaningful conversation?

All women have something they are passionate about whether it be sports, gossip, potitics. There will always be something you can hit on to get her to open up.

I'm sure you have read this article, but about halfway down is Eliciting values:what does she want? if not the first 6 are primo deep dive material. You should be able to get enough out of her to find something to talk about.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/what- ... st-ask-her

The two biggest for me are the career oriented,"do you want to do that forever?" and "what do you do with your free time?". Career women will be able to talk about their careers for a while and the younger girls that aren't at that stage yet can talk about free time all day( tv shows, movies, gossip)... and if i remember correctly you are still in school so the career route is less bountiful.

The most important thing about conversation is to look at it like a tree. There are a handful of different main topics which can be broken down into tens if not hundreds of branches.

I hope this helps some.
-brum

edit: I started writing this before Franco posted and I'm not going to disagree with anything he said... this is more along the lines of connecting to women in general.

 

[Rage]

Aside from all the great inputs of the others; I recalled something Chase had talked about that I've run into too... aobut some girls that are just so dry and boring and have jsut absolutely nothing to talk aobut but like party and sorority and starbucks. And they open their mouth and you wanna like shoot yourself they're so stupid or stereotypically valley girl sounding.

Haha and there are guys Ive met kind of like this too that for the life of me I couldnt talk to about anything well ebcause we didnt really have anything in common at all and the person was very boring and not exactly a conversationalist... and just overeall incredibly uphill battle just to talk to (for some reasons which I recognize but then a number of reasons more which I don't).

Still this isn't most girls, and you can connect with most girls or at least deep dive them and get them liking you more... there are many "somewhere int he middle" girls and then there are few girls you have a really deep, intense connection with and few girls that are those oddball ones that can't connecct with on just about anything at all.

-Gem