About logistics and a few more questions

[slinky71]

Hi all. This weekend i'm going to a party and i found myself a 'target' to hook up at the party. She only knows about that i'll be in that party, my name, and where i study and i don't know her very well. I didn't want because i wanted to be mysterious guy from the school that night. Anyway, here's the thing. I live with my parents and at best, it will be like that for a couple years because being kinda broke. So i can't bring her to my home. I want to try dance-kiss and then bang her on the toilet stuff and i need some tips. Tips about what to do that night and about how to handle poor logistics also. That kept me back for many years which is very ridiculous, i was just like 'what if i get her, i have no place to fuck her?' and now i want to get out of that kind of situation. Your opinions and advices please

 

[Oskar]

I'd first and foremost remind myself that I'm not going to the party for this one girl -- as that's rarely a recipe for a fulfilling time. Instead, I'd probably go to the party primarily to have fun and raise everyone else's spirits, and let part of and a natural extension of that fun be sex in some exciting, unusual place. Just be open to a lot of different contingencies and be the opposite of needy -- a provider of positive emotions and social validation.

Places outside the party you could go are a nearby park or your car or a beach, and if you're not familiar with seducing in these places just visualize beforehand what that process of moving the girl from the party to that seduction location would be like, that way you will not only know what the next step will be when you're at the party, you will have already experienced the process in a way too. On that note, it is a good idea to have a general strategy for discrete extraction. Better if not everyone is aware that y'all are getting it on usually (though it depends on the party and your friends and other secondary variables). Having sex outside is fun, having sex in the bathroom is fun, in someone else's bedroom... it all can work if you make it work. If you just let yourself be open to different things happening you'll role better with the punches, and when you see escalation windows you can grab the reigns boldly (though still playfully) at those moments and lead to the close.

Oskar

 

[ray_zorse]

That sounds like great advice. My logistics a bit ordinary too but perhaps with your tips this can be turned to advantage No reason not to work on logistics in the meantime of course. I believe there might be some advice on the site somewhere about passive income streams?
cheers, Ray

 

[slinky71]

Thanks for the advice! Since it'll be my first time going out alone, i don't know what or how to do. With friends it's always easy but now i feel kinda tense because i don't feel like i am what i can be socially. I should work on being more open. So far i've fixed how i walk and position myself. Next is my voice, and other skills. But i like to improve myself. I'm somehow a loner in my college and my reputation is this way, so it's hard to change it but i'm trying. So what should i do at the party, talk with random people, drink, look for escalation windows and have fun?

 

[ray_zorse]

Well in the Netherlands the etiquette is when you enter a room of people you immediately introduce yourself and shake hands with each person one by one. This is a real icebreaker, I cannot think why we don't do it here. Obviously use with calibration, it's more for approaching say groups of 10 ppl standing around the kitchen or whatever, you wouldn't use this technique on a dancefloor or in the lounge at 3am when everyone is coming down off drugs and feeling antisocial. Tip: Get to the party early. People will be standing around with not much to do, waiting for it to start. Talk to some (before it gets too loud)... then when the party starts to go off you'll have some buddies to touch base with throughout the night.
cheers, Ray
PS. In case it wasn't clear you don't introduce yourself "to the group" but rather to each person in the group individually going either clockwise or anticlockwise from your starting point, and for the technique to work you should do it immediately on entering the room so it's your first eye contact w each person as you shake hands, you exchange names as you do this then transfer your smile and eye contact to the next person, you can chitchat after. Maybe a Dutch person can confirm if this is right Anyway it works for me.

 

[slinky71]

Well in the Netherlands the etiquette is when you enter a room of people you immediately introduce yourself and shake hands with each person one by one. This is a real icebreaker, I cannot think why we don't do it here. Obviously use with calibration, it's more for approaching say groups of 10 ppl standing around the kitchen or whatever, you wouldn't use this technique on a dancefloor or in the lounge at 3am when everyone is coming down off drugs and feeling antisocial. Tip: Get to the party early. People will be standing around with not much to do, waiting for it to start. Talk to some (before it gets too loud)... then when the party starts to go off you'll have some buddies to touch base with throughout the night.
cheers, Ray
PS. In case it wasn't clear you don't introduce yourself "to the group" but rather to each person in the group individually going either clockwise or anticlockwise from your starting point, and for the technique to work you should do it immediately on entering the room so it's your first eye contact w each person as you shake hands, you exchange names as you do this then transfer your smile and eye contact to the next person, you can chitchat after. Maybe a Dutch person can confirm if this is right Anyway it works for me.

Actually it's real good advice, thank you. Gosh i love cultural differences. Nobody would buy i'm a Dutch tho..
Anyway, now there's an update to situation. I saw this girl in college today, she saw me from far away but i was eating and didn't wave at her, or a smile and such. Just looked at her direction. But i'm sure she noticed me. She didn't do anything either. Anyway, after it i seen her again and she just passed near me looking to the opposite direction. I could stop her and banter a little bit but at the moment i was surprised to see her so i didn't act. Sometimes i just have a hard time getting in to predator mode. Anyway, did i make her go auto-rejection? And if i did how can i tell it? Thinking like 'yeah i got this girl man' and getting kicked in the balls after is really fun but i can pass on it, really. What to do?