Ok so I'm pretty new to all this so have probably made every mistake in the book.
To give a bit of background i'd always been ok with girls but generally just meeting and getting into relationships with 7's. I'd always end up feeling like I could do better and without meaning to I guess i'd act like an asshole, still the girls would love me and I was known for breaking a lot of hearts. Then about 6 months ago I meet the most amazing girl, a clear 9 and we got into a very heavy relationship very quickly, she tells me she loves me and she wants us to move in together and I'm going along with it. We spend all of our time together and eventually after 6 months things start to slow down and she ends it saying we aren't right for each other. Now I know exactly what went wrong in the relationship and it was a hard lesson learned (too much time together, letting her lead, not being dominant etc). I decided to get straight back into meeting girls (despite her asking me not too, oh yeah, we're still talking, that's a whole other issue), and about a week later went for a drink with a girl i'd met online, she was stunning, another 9 and about 5 years younger than my ex, we had a great night and it reminds me that I can attract and pull quality women (partly worried it was a fluke the last time), went to a few locations and escalated quickly, we get back to hers and she's practically begging me to sleep with her and instead I act all aloof and get a taxi home!. Partly I thought this would make her want me more, partly I was thinking about my ex, basically I acted pathetic and ran away. Didn't really understand the consequences of that until the next day when I get a simple txt from her saying 'I've got a headache', I txt her back something generic about feeling ok and going to get my car and then hear nothing back. I go on girlschase and read an article about how leaving a girl who wants sex is basically the worst thing you can do and it suddenly dawns on me how much I fu##ed up!. It's been three days now and I haven't txt her but I'm wondering if it's worth sending something to see if there's any chance of recovering this, the night we went out she was really in to me telling everyone how hot I was and even telling some guy friends of hers that we'd been seeing each other for ages. I don't know, as I say i'm new to all of this and I guess haven't built up that thick skin that some of you have, i'm still hurting over my ex and now messing up with this girl has got me really down.
To give a bit of background i'd always been ok with girls but generally just meeting and getting into relationships with 7's. I'd always end up feeling like I could do better and without meaning to I guess i'd act like an asshole, still the girls would love me and I was known for breaking a lot of hearts. Then about 6 months ago I meet the most amazing girl, a clear 9 and we got into a very heavy relationship very quickly, she tells me she loves me and she wants us to move in together and I'm going along with it. We spend all of our time together and eventually after 6 months things start to slow down and she ends it saying we aren't right for each other. Now I know exactly what went wrong in the relationship and it was a hard lesson learned (too much time together, letting her lead, not being dominant etc). I decided to get straight back into meeting girls (despite her asking me not too, oh yeah, we're still talking, that's a whole other issue), and about a week later went for a drink with a girl i'd met online, she was stunning, another 9 and about 5 years younger than my ex, we had a great night and it reminds me that I can attract and pull quality women (partly worried it was a fluke the last time), went to a few locations and escalated quickly, we get back to hers and she's practically begging me to sleep with her and instead I act all aloof and get a taxi home!. Partly I thought this would make her want me more, partly I was thinking about my ex, basically I acted pathetic and ran away. Didn't really understand the consequences of that until the next day when I get a simple txt from her saying 'I've got a headache', I txt her back something generic about feeling ok and going to get my car and then hear nothing back. I go on girlschase and read an article about how leaving a girl who wants sex is basically the worst thing you can do and it suddenly dawns on me how much I fu##ed up!. It's been three days now and I haven't txt her but I'm wondering if it's worth sending something to see if there's any chance of recovering this, the night we went out she was really in to me telling everyone how hot I was and even telling some guy friends of hers that we'd been seeing each other for ages. I don't know, as I say i'm new to all of this and I guess haven't built up that thick skin that some of you have, i'm still hurting over my ex and now messing up with this girl has got me really down.
