Acting like don't care...

[Johnny.B]

Hey mates,
I've been so intrugued with behaviour of one girl that I decided to ask for Your opinion about that.
It's been quiet long relationship, we know each other since high school. At the beggining she was really up to me and I was more like neutral, never showing affection.It ended up in a way that through whole high school we were making out with each other but nothing serious happend then, even everyone in school were thinking that we are in relationship but this wasn't true. At the end of high school we ended up shouting on each other cuz I couldn't withstand any longer that situation, she was saying that she care about me and love me but never showed that. I simply let her go cuz it was getting toxic as much as it could, I was really into her she was saying the same but never show that. We've met once year ago and tried to be friends but it din't work out since we were up to each other too much.

Now after more like a year she writes to me asking if I would like to meet with her and... I did it. I knew that this was not going to end up well. So when we met she started talking about our previous relationship, that we loved each other so much etc. and it looked like she wanted to repair mistakes of the past. I took the bait, we kissed again, behave like teengers and she was showing so much affection that day like she really care. Next day I called her in the evening to ask what's up she was rather unpleasant and didn't want to talk with me at all so I told her to call me when she'll be in better mood. It's been a week and she don't even bother to write simple sms.

It's the only girl in my life that is complete mystery for me. In my opinion she simply shows me affection when she's alone and don't have better option... I know that some1 will ask for age, we're both 23yo. I was trying to solve that many times but simply can't...

 

[Mr. oblivious]

questions 1: Have you fucked her ?

question 2: Have you been seen other women in the off periods ? (you should)

from what i can see you have already set bad precedent with her so your relationship with her is likely just going to keep playing on loop (not going to go anywhere) from what i can see she likes hooking up with you so try get her as a casual sex friend or something and use your time and effort on getting with more and other women

 

[Johnny.B]

Nope, we never had sex before. I was meeting with other girls and had casual sex with them however she was always somehow special for me, maybe because we were so close yet never had normal relationship. She was always initiating but when I started to show affection she simply turn back on me.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

If i was you next time she invites you somewhere try redirect it to a bar near your house or something and make the interaction on your terms then probably try bring her back to your place a have sex.

It would probably wise to avoid bringing all emotional attachment just do standard deep diving etc at the bar then find a reason to invite her over and escalate because from what i can see she likes getting you but she is not up for a relationship. (maybe because your too close)

if you have sex with her a couple of times without tangling it up with all the emotional stuff you never know what might happen, you might even form better bonds with her afterwards

by the way if any of this seem incorrect please correct me cause if i was in this situation this is what i would do if i was in this situation