Most of the topics here are not suitable for high school except for the skills topics, talking, walking, deep diving, etc. So I am kinda lost on where to start in high school. I don't get invited to parties, and I there isn't much time between classes. Any advice?
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I have to disagree bud. If I would've known half of this stuff when I was in high school It would have been like shooting fish in a barrel. Just give these things a try, I assure you they will work. Except the facial hair, that one maybe tough 
I think I exaggerated when I said most of the topics. I am just lost; I don't know how or where to start.Kinny21 said:I have to disagree bud. If I would've known half of this stuff when I was in high school It would have been like shooting fish in a barrel. Just give these things a try, I assure you they will work. Except the facial hair, that one maybe tough
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Stranger said:I think I exaggerated when I said most of the topics. I am just lost; I don't know how or where to start.Kinny21 said:I have to disagree bud. If I would've known half of this stuff when I was in high school It would have been like shooting fish in a barrel. Just give these things a try, I assure you they will work. Except the facial hair, that one maybe tough
Hi,
I'm a beginner as well but have went from socially retarded with high status friends to being on par and better in some ways. Start with your walk.
You will want to visualize a goal wherever you move and not look around/down much if at all. If a group of people are walking at you, look above them and they will always move away. Never move away. If you run into someone, be socially gracious and give them a good smile. When walking, walk with strides. You will see confident people moving slow but with large strides as it follows the law of least effort. Heels should touch the ground first with toes in the air. Your feet on the ground behind you should stay on the ground and lift off slowly, keep it nice and slow! From there, work on eye contact. It's amazing the first time you become aware of it's effects on people. It's probably the hardest thing to work on, but look at them directly and break contact by looking to the side (neither down or up at them) when you yourself are talking and make points by looking at them again. From there move onto being a warm person, sexy smiling all the time and then the rest of the articles will come when the time is right. I'm not the best at explaining and I'm pretty tired but I hope this somewhat gave you a direction. Get that walk down first though, and invest in good shoes and keeping them clean.
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Stranger,
Dude, this stuff is gold in high school. I discovered GC my senior year, and realized that everything I had been doing right so far was outlined in there, as well as loads of stuff I didn't know or even realize I had been doing. The fundamentals are by far your best tool to gather for high school. I was already partied before discovering GC, but I realized quickly that I hadn't been taking nearly enough advantage of my girl opportunities; especially in school and outside of partying. Knight is right when he says your walk and eye contact are a great place to start. I would add posture as well. The only way I can really describe it is to sit, stand, and walk like you are the shit. If your movements ooze confidence, people will begin to look at you quite differently.
As to not getting invited to parties; if you implement more of these fundamentals, you will start to get more and more attention from girls. Talk to them, and be seen talking to them, and as shallow as this sounds, (this is high school after all) the 'cool dudes' will start to notice you. Getting into parties in high school is all about knowing the people that throw them. Once you know them, its just a matter of going to the parties and capitalizing on the girls you have talked to in school.
However, partying is really not the be all end all venue of pickup in high school. If partying isn't your thing, just talk to the girls. I guarantee you you'll at least be able to get in a couple good relationships before you head off to college.
Bottom line for high school is to really hammer out those fundamentals and work on talking to a lot of girls to gain experience.
Hope this helps,
Jay
Dude, this stuff is gold in high school. I discovered GC my senior year, and realized that everything I had been doing right so far was outlined in there, as well as loads of stuff I didn't know or even realize I had been doing. The fundamentals are by far your best tool to gather for high school. I was already partied before discovering GC, but I realized quickly that I hadn't been taking nearly enough advantage of my girl opportunities; especially in school and outside of partying. Knight is right when he says your walk and eye contact are a great place to start. I would add posture as well. The only way I can really describe it is to sit, stand, and walk like you are the shit. If your movements ooze confidence, people will begin to look at you quite differently.
As to not getting invited to parties; if you implement more of these fundamentals, you will start to get more and more attention from girls. Talk to them, and be seen talking to them, and as shallow as this sounds, (this is high school after all) the 'cool dudes' will start to notice you. Getting into parties in high school is all about knowing the people that throw them. Once you know them, its just a matter of going to the parties and capitalizing on the girls you have talked to in school.
However, partying is really not the be all end all venue of pickup in high school. If partying isn't your thing, just talk to the girls. I guarantee you you'll at least be able to get in a couple good relationships before you head off to college.
Bottom line for high school is to really hammer out those fundamentals and work on talking to a lot of girls to gain experience.
Hope this helps,
Jay
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Stranger said:
Here what you can do to start.
1- Reading all the blog articles one by one starting from fundamentals and then making flow charts for yourself and connecting dots and pieces of puzzle together .
2- Trying to buy "Chase's Ebook : How to make girls chase": https://www.girlschase.com/how-to-make-girls-chase
This way you won't feel lost since it's laid down in the correct way from start. Working on your fundamentals then to meeting girls, then to becoming lovers and beyond.
3-You can also take this little challenge to get your learning a kick-start :
viewtopic.php?f=13&t=34
I wish I was your age before finding about this website and art of seduction since I would have a lot easier time
so make sure to learn & Practice everything.Cheers
Ali
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aliparpar said:
Ha I never thought of using a flow chart for this, good idea man. I had to just try and piece all the articles together in my scattered ass mind when I found GC a year and a half ago. Might have to do this myself as a refresher.
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I'm a senior in high school and I fit pretty well in the 'cool' social circles I just have this one problem that I need a good answer to. I want to know if I should greet the girls in the hallways and how. If they look at me should I smile and look them in the eyes or should I greet them with a hug(in our school that's the way boys greet girls, always. - I just greet girls like that, that I know well or that's not so hot.) I just don't want to go for the hug and make her feel awkward.. Should I maybe just say Hi or "Hey _hername_" and smile. Try giving me advice that you really think you had to do when you were in high school. Any answers would be much appreciated.
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PUAJ,
Yes, I would personally stick with the Hey *name* and a smile. Going for a hug is more something I would do with a friend, or with a girl I was trying to have sex with (obviously two different kinds of hug). Greeting every girl you know with a hug and hoping that it adds to your attractiveness is something I feel like I would have been useful to try in late middle school or early high school, because older girls usually won't interpret a platonic hug from an attractive guy as anything but "I want to be friends with you", and might even go into auto rejection if they were expecting a more sensual hug. On the other hand, you also can't go around sensually hugging every girl at school or you'll get a reputation as a dude tease or a man whore (which is a real problem that I couldn't believe at first when it happened to me, but was a bitch and a half to get out of).
The whole cool guys greeting the cool/attractive girls with a hug in the hall thing happened in my school too, and its something I did (whether it was a girl who I was really good friends with or not), but it is more of a social power play than something that helps at all with your chances with the girl. The cool dudes want to be seen hugging the attractive girls because then less cool, less experienced dudes will see that and think "Damn I wish I could/need to hug more hot girls, that dude must be getting so much more pussy than me", even if it isn't necessarily true. One really good looking guy at my school hugged every hot girl he saw, and frequently make out with girls in public to prove he was a player. A week ago I got on his Facebook and saw that he had come out as a gay man. He had just been using the public displays of affection he could get with his physical attractiveness to build high school social proof and mask the fact he was gay.
Bottom line is, it is more mature and more attractive to greet a girl with a hey and a sexy smile than running up and hugging her, unless she is your really good friend.
Jay
Yes, I would personally stick with the Hey *name* and a smile. Going for a hug is more something I would do with a friend, or with a girl I was trying to have sex with (obviously two different kinds of hug). Greeting every girl you know with a hug and hoping that it adds to your attractiveness is something I feel like I would have been useful to try in late middle school or early high school, because older girls usually won't interpret a platonic hug from an attractive guy as anything but "I want to be friends with you", and might even go into auto rejection if they were expecting a more sensual hug. On the other hand, you also can't go around sensually hugging every girl at school or you'll get a reputation as a dude tease or a man whore (which is a real problem that I couldn't believe at first when it happened to me, but was a bitch and a half to get out of).
The whole cool guys greeting the cool/attractive girls with a hug in the hall thing happened in my school too, and its something I did (whether it was a girl who I was really good friends with or not), but it is more of a social power play than something that helps at all with your chances with the girl. The cool dudes want to be seen hugging the attractive girls because then less cool, less experienced dudes will see that and think "Damn I wish I could/need to hug more hot girls, that dude must be getting so much more pussy than me", even if it isn't necessarily true. One really good looking guy at my school hugged every hot girl he saw, and frequently make out with girls in public to prove he was a player. A week ago I got on his Facebook and saw that he had come out as a gay man. He had just been using the public displays of affection he could get with his physical attractiveness to build high school social proof and mask the fact he was gay.
Bottom line is, it is more mature and more attractive to greet a girl with a hey and a sexy smile than running up and hugging her, unless she is your really good friend.
Jay
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Great info Jay! Thank you man I will always keep that in mind. Obviously if she comes to hug me I hug back right. I know I don't have to take pickup seriously in high school and I can't wait to pickup girls at hotels, bars and so on after school. Well I think it would still be interesting to hear most members on this forum's high school advice they can give to me while I do my last year this year.
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PUAJ,
Yes man, if they hug you first, by all means hug them back haha. As to high school pickup not being serious...well it really isn't in the grand scheme of things, but it should be taken seriously enough to gain some good practice for when you leave. But basically I would suggest have fun in high school more than anything. Get a few good lays if you can, but if your game isn't quite there yet, don't sweat it, you'll get better pretty quickly following GC and participating in this forum.
Jay
Yes man, if they hug you first, by all means hug them back haha. As to high school pickup not being serious...well it really isn't in the grand scheme of things, but it should be taken seriously enough to gain some good practice for when you leave. But basically I would suggest have fun in high school more than anything. Get a few good lays if you can, but if your game isn't quite there yet, don't sweat it, you'll get better pretty quickly following GC and participating in this forum.
Jay
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Haha alright thanks man. Yeah I'm kind of a picky guy to be honest. There are a lot of girls that told me how much they wanna be in bed with me and told me what positions they like and they are like not "on my level" so I just text them to keep them on the radar for after school. I don't want to be seen with such girls during school because I fear bad reputation. But yeah when girls gets too 'easy' like that my mind just does something that makes me lose all attraction to them and I reject their invites. Big Mistake I guess. Well This year I'll take every opportunity. The girls are anyway like 6's and 7's so yeah I like having a challenge, when it gets too easy I try harder. My school does not really have that much talent I guess there are like only 14 hot girl in my whole school and only about 3 of them are 10's. Hopefully you see the situation I'm in haha. School starts in a few days. Can you give me like challenges I should give myself during the first few weeks.
Advice might also be seen as challenges I guess.
Advice might also be seen as challenges I guess.
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PUAJ,
I would say a good simple goal for the beginning of school is to pick the girl highest on the scale of the girls that have said they want to fuck you and try to fuck her haha. If you haven't had sex yet, you can get that barrier out of the way, and if you have, it'll be some good practice.
If she is truly a 7 or so, no one could possibly blame you for fucking her. I got very, very drunk my first semester senior year and fucked a sophomore 5 (still don't remember any of it to this day)...but my reputation still didn't take much of a true hit, I just caught a lot of shit from my friends for it haha. Worry more about gaining experience with girls than about protecting your reputation.
Jay
I would say a good simple goal for the beginning of school is to pick the girl highest on the scale of the girls that have said they want to fuck you and try to fuck her haha. If you haven't had sex yet, you can get that barrier out of the way, and if you have, it'll be some good practice.
If she is truly a 7 or so, no one could possibly blame you for fucking her. I got very, very drunk my first semester senior year and fucked a sophomore 5 (still don't remember any of it to this day)...but my reputation still didn't take much of a true hit, I just caught a lot of shit from my friends for it haha. Worry more about gaining experience with girls than about protecting your reputation.
Jay
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Hey PUAJ, I'm going to have to agree with what Jay is saying on here!
I think in highschool, your reputation seems SOO important, and it's hard to deal with, especially if you aren't the 'coolest' or the most 'attractive'. Although I dealt with my fair share of girls in highschool, I wasn't concerned with popularity. I'd get invited to parties, but never went because I felt my time could be spent more productively on improving myself, getting better grades, and trying to get into University. My regrets? I wish I hadn't have taken high school/life so damn seriously!
Anyways, because I've been there and am in University now, I feel like I can give you some helpful suggestions. Firstly, once you get out of highschool, you'll probably never see a lot of the people you deal with ever again. I live in a small town so I'll see them occasionally at the mall, and even some at my University (I live at home so it's close). I think the best way to go with everything is balance, so if I were you I'd hit up some parties just for fun/experience, but at the same time, make sure you're staying on top of your school work. Also, you should try working on your fundamentals and game as much as possible. Do that and you'll be getting all the girls if you choose to pursue a higher education or even in life in general! I'll tell you something though man, after finding GC and looking back at all the girls I met, I realize where I went wrong with every single one of them. I don't blame them, I blame myself, and it's frustrating man. You're so fortunate to have discovered this amazing site in high school!!
I'll give you an example of why I say this... There was this guy in my grade. He didn't really have any friends or wasn't part of any "group". He was kind of a loner, but he got along with everyone so he was accepted by all social groups/cliques. He was this big/muscular guy, had curly hair, a deep voice, and he moved very slowly/talked slowly. Also, he never went after girls like most of the guys who would text them endlessly and talk to them on facebook (I was guilty of this). He also never went out of his way to do things, he said/did things when it mattered, unlike all of the jesters (including me) who were trying to be impressive/funny all the time. So many girls liked this guy, and all us guys could never figure out why. He wasn't overly good looking (he was decent looking though and took care of himself), and after finding GC and looking back, I now know why so many girls liked him, and rightfully so.
After reading most of the blog posts, I started getting okay with women, but since I've been completely free from studies these past few weeks, I've taken advantage of my opportunity and have passionately explored/read through everything Chase has posted, and have reread some of the posts too. This has helped me a lot, now I understand most concepts (still reading), and am looking to capitalize on opportunities when need be/if I feel like it. Take advantage of this bro. Highschool is about experiencing things, and the more situations you throw yourself into, the better you'll be able to handle them. If you feel awkward about something, you should throw yourself into that situation so you know how to deal with it in the future. It also helps to continuously throw yourself into these situations because pickup for example, is like a muscle; you have to keep working it in order to get rid of the nerves. Getting committed to girls, especially in high school is a big NONO, and don't let a girl take up that much of your time, especially as you are growing/developing in your teen years. I suggest you date casually, check out Chase's posts, and keep working on yourself and your game. You're young and if you work hard, you'll be able master any skillset you desire! Remember, Hard Work > "Smarts"
Best of luck man, hope things workout for you!
Garrett
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Garrett, That is exactly the type of answer I was looking for man. Couldn't ask for more! Thank you man! I really feel very welcomed to this online community now thanks to the great responses I got so far!! I see some plus points in this for me and excuse my ego but I do have:
-Good Looks
-Muscles
-Blue Eyes (girls compliment me a lot on them)
-Sense of humor
The thing I think I need to work on now is my 'personality'? I want to be less 'hyper' if you may. Like I have my days where I am myself too much so that causes my voice to pitch when I talk about something exciting. I'm not saying I want to become this boring guy but I'm working as we speak on getting a deeper voice or at least keeping it deep most of the time.
Basically being an alpha male in school. I have 2 social groups I hang out with during break. The one group throws parties every weekend and they are city people and the other group are the rich guys. I normally talk more when I'm around the rich group but the other group is more my 'type' but they are judgmental so I tend not to talk a lot around them. I'm just the "listener" I guess. Do you suggest I talk more and compare myself with the alpha(who always throws the parties at his house)
-Good Looks
-Muscles
-Blue Eyes (girls compliment me a lot on them)
-Sense of humor
The thing I think I need to work on now is my 'personality'? I want to be less 'hyper' if you may. Like I have my days where I am myself too much so that causes my voice to pitch when I talk about something exciting. I'm not saying I want to become this boring guy but I'm working as we speak on getting a deeper voice or at least keeping it deep most of the time.
Basically being an alpha male in school. I have 2 social groups I hang out with during break. The one group throws parties every weekend and they are city people and the other group are the rich guys. I normally talk more when I'm around the rich group but the other group is more my 'type' but they are judgmental so I tend not to talk a lot around them. I'm just the "listener" I guess. Do you suggest I talk more and compare myself with the alpha(who always throws the parties at his house)
Thanks everyone for posting back. I am thinking of making a plan for my approaching skills, current I am working on my walk, posture, and voice. I am also changing my clothing and hair style. I am making a list of things that I should work on in order:
1-posture
2-walk
3-voice
4-eye contact
5-speech tone
6-conversation skills
7-[I am lost here]
1-posture
2-walk
3-voice
4-eye contact
5-speech tone
6-conversation skills
7-[I am lost here]
Oh that would be at the bottom of the list.Just_Dave said:Stranger said:
Flirty touch, touching a girl in the right way and place goes a long way
My problems that i am concentrating on fixing right now are:
1-approaching
2-going beyond introduction (I am a true noob)
PUAJ said:
Hey PUAJ!
Glad I could help! I feel like I'm in a good position to offer advice on this topic, seeing as I just finished high school last year. So you want to be the alpha male of the group? Chase has a post up on exactly that, check it out, I believe it's called, "How to be an Alpha Male" or something along those lines. Part of being an alpha male is treating everyone around you well, thus building them up. You don't want to get the competitive mentality because the only person you should really try to compete with is yourself and improving yourself. It's good to look at others and examine certain traits/characteristics that they have that you aspire to acquire and to improve on, but don't get carried away with comparing yourself/competing with others. Doing so is usually ineffective and not a good way of expending your energy/time.
In high school, popularity is going to seem really important, and where you stand on the social hierarchy is much exaggerated in comparison to the real world. When I was in high school, I hung out with more of the intellectual/nerdy kids, because I felt like the popular kids were fake and I didn't want to associate with people who thought smoking weed was good fun. At the same time though, I think it definitely does have its benefits to be acquainted to those people. So if I were to redo high school, I'd be the kid who got along with everyone (which I was for the most part), but at the same time, didn't spend a lot of time with one clique or another. I would go to parties for the experience, but I wouldn't spend every weekend doing that or everyday hanging out with friends. I would study and spend a lot of time working on my goals, get my license right away, and get a job part time, depending how much free time I had.
High school is a different ballgame than real life, because once you move on from it, you'll never want to spend time with those jocks drinking beer/smoking pot all the time (unless you're into that). To make things easier on you though, it's good to get along with everyone, including the popular kids, but I wouldn't obsess over it. Being friends with the 'cool' kids will grant you access to parties, hotter girls, fun/exciting opportunities, but at the same time, they aren't usually motivated, aren't going far, will sink after high school. There are always exceptions, but stereotypes are established for a reason. In addition, keep in mind that who you spend a good portion of your time with will have an influence on your behaviour. That's why I stayed away from the popular kids because currently, they're just taking the year off, probably working/not going to college, and a lot of them are doing nothing but smoke/drink all day. Not the type of people that benefit me or my aspirations in any shape/way/form. Therefore, I find it's better to find a goal that you want to achieve and dive right into it at your age. High school is a good time for this because once you go to University, it's harder to find time to achieve goals and simultaneously do well in school. It's just too much work/effort, you'll burnout, and will be overwhelmed. Like right now, my goal is just to get a decent GPA so I can eventually go onto grad school. Once summer comes around, I'll focus on mastering working out, then once I move out, focus on actively doing pickup with my spare time. Keep in mind, when a guy is out doing something, and he's busy/wrapped up in some goal/dream/aspiration, girls find this attractive. It makes the guy seem like more of a challenge. Don't just set a goal because of this, but it's an added benefit to improving/working on yourself. When you seem busy, it's correlated with increased attraction. It's the same for guys and girls. For example, if you met a girl and she was free all the time all day, and another one who was busy, but made time for you when her schedule freed up, who would you rather spend your time with? The second girl because she's perceived as being higher value/more of a challenge.
So to sum this up...
- Try to get along with everyone, and don't worry too much about fitting in/being cool
- If possible, try to befriend some popular kids so you have more opportunities, but don't overthink/obsess over this and don't spend too much time around them either
- Pick 1 goal and in your spare time, try to master it (Chase has a post up on this). Pick 1 because it's a lot of work, but with patience you'll eventually get really good at things, as you keep doing them over the years
- Get a job and license as soon as possible. License you should get even if you don't want/need to drive because eventually when you're going out to meet a bunch of girls, it'll make things a lot easier. Job is up to you. If you have a lot of free time, you should do it for the experience, you'll gain transferable mechanical/social skills and you'll make money!
- Check out Chase's post on being an Alpha Male so you have a better understanding of how to be one
- If you enjoy spending a lot of your time alone, that's okay. I do it, and I know Chase did it too. Keep in mind moderation/balance, and go out every so often for fun so you don't develop a scarcity mentality. If you are improving yourself and your fundamentals, it'll help you get girls, you'll get more respect from your peers, and you'll set up a better future for yourself
- Have fun and don't take life too seriously, especially in high school
- Study Girls Chase if you want to better understand girls and some aspects of social dynamics because it will save you a lot of time and get you a lot more girls!
- I suggest delete facebook/getting too involved with people because most of the people you have on there aren't your true friends. Just add your friends on your phone. It looks more attractive when someone doesn't have it because you're different, don't follow everyone else/what society tells you, it's respectable, and you look busier
- If you do have facebook, don't post a lot of crap like all the other guys and don't hit up girls on facebook. If a girl is into you and sending you messages, get her out but don't hit up all the cute girls and try to pick them up via facebook. It can be done, it's just more work and you may develop a reputation at school. Girls don't keep secrets well, so be discrete if you are doing this, and I don't think facebook is the way to go to accomplish this.
- In my opinion, pick up isn't the best idea in high school because it's hard when you go to school with the same girls for 4 years. Their attraction for you will be high when they first meet you then a lot of it will die out over time. If you're a freshman, it's a lot easier, but as you progress to higher grades, it gets tougher if you're around the same girls everyday. It's better to meet girls outside the classroom, and for that reason, I suggest you focus on improving things like your walk/speech and not so much on picking up girls at school. Chase has you covered on classroom game too
- Take classes that you are interested in, not what your parents tell you to take. Do what you love, but within reason! (Balance)
- After high school, the only people that you'll keep around are the ones who you care to have around and the ones that want you around. I only spend time with a few of my high school friends, a lot of them I lost touch with. On occasion, spend time with people who offer you a lot of value, be it someone you enjoy spending time with (which is who I spend time with because my friends aren't improvement oriented), or someone who is good at something you want to get better at. If they are good at something you want to get better at, I would suggest invest more time in these people because if they're successful at what you want to get good at, it can speed up the learning process quite a bit!
- If you work on your fundamentals, you'll get more attraction. If you act like you don't want a relationship (you can't fake this one), you'll get more attraction. Keep in mind things like that and all the high school girls will go crazy for you PUAJ!
Best of luck,
Garrett
Good advice! I am in a quite un-stereotypical school with 2000 students and 75% of them are Asian. Everyone here is smart, popular or unpopular! So I will summarize what you said into points:Garrett said:Hey PUAJ!
Glad I could help! I feel like I'm in a good position to offer advice on this topic, seeing as I just finished high school last year. So you want to be the alpha male of the group? Chase has a post up on exactly that, check it out, I believe it's called, "How to be an Alpha Male" or something along those lines. Part of being an alpha male is treating everyone around you well, thus building them up. You don't want to get the competitive mentality because the only person you should really try to compete with is yourself and improving yourself. It's good to look at others and examine certain traits/characteristics that they have that you aspire to acquire and to improve on, but don't get carried away with comparing yourself/competing with others. Doing so is usually ineffective and not a good way of expending your energy/time.
In high school, popularity is going to seem really important, and where you stand on the social hierarchy is much exaggerated in comparison to the real world. When I was in high school, I hung out with more of the intellectual/nerdy kids, because I felt like the popular kids were fake and I didn't want to associate with people who thought smoking weed was good fun. At the same time though, I think it definitely does have its benefits to be acquainted to those people. So if I were to redo high school, I'd be the kid who got along with everyone (which I was for the most part), but at the same time, didn't spend a lot of time with one clique or another. I would go to parties for the experience, but I wouldn't spend every weekend doing that or everyday hanging out with friends. I would study and spend a lot of time working on my goals, get my license right away, and get a job part time, depending how much free time I had.
High school is a different ballgame than real life, because once you move on from it, you'll never want to spend time with those jocks drinking beer/smoking pot all the time (unless you're into that). To make things easier on you though, it's good to get along with everyone, including the popular kids, but I wouldn't obsess over it. Being friends with the 'cool' kids will grant you access to parties, hotter girls, fun/exciting opportunities, but at the same time, they aren't usually motivated, aren't going far, will sink after high school. There are always exceptions, but stereotypes are established for a reason. In addition, keep in mind that who you spend a good portion of your time with will have an influence on your behaviour. That's why I stayed away from the popular kids because currently, they're just taking the year off, probably working/not going to college, and a lot of them are doing nothing but smoke/drink all day. Not the type of people that benefit me or my aspirations in any shape/way/form. Therefore, I find it's better to find a goal that you want to achieve and dive right into it at your age. High school is a good time for this because once you go to University, it's harder to find time to achieve goals and simultaneously do well in school. It's just too much work/effort, you'll burnout, and will be overwhelmed. Like right now, my goal is just to get a decent GPA so I can eventually go onto grad school. Once summer comes around, I'll focus on mastering working out, then once I move out, focus on actively doing pickup with my spare time. Keep in mind, when a guy is out doing something, and he's busy/wrapped up in some goal/dream/aspiration, girls find this attractive. It makes the guy seem like more of a challenge. Don't just set a goal because of this, but it's an added benefit to improving/working on yourself. When you seem busy, it's correlated with increased attraction. It's the same for guys and girls. For example, if you met a girl and she was free all the time all day, and another one who was busy, but made time for you when her schedule freed up, who would you rather spend your time with? The second girl because she's perceived as being higher value/more of a challenge.
So to sum this up...
- Try to get along with everyone, and don't worry too much about fitting in/being cool
- If possible, try to befriend some popular kids so you have more opportunities, but don't overthink/obsess over this and don't spend too much time around them either
- Pick 1 goal and in your spare time, try to master it (Chase has a post up on this). Pick 1 because it's a lot of work, but with patience you'll eventually get really good at things, as you keep doing them over the years
- Get a job and license as soon as possible. License you should get even if you don't want/need to drive because eventually when you're going out to meet a bunch of girls, it'll make things a lot easier. Job is up to you. If you have a lot of free time, you should do it for the experience, you'll gain transferable mechanical/social skills and you'll make money!
- Check out Chase's post on being an Alpha Male so you have a better understanding of how to be one
- If you enjoy spending a lot of your time alone, that's okay. I do it, and I know Chase did it too. Keep in mind moderation/balance, and go out every so often for fun so you don't develop a scarcity mentality. If you are improving yourself and your fundamentals, it'll help you get girls, you'll get more respect from your peers, and you'll set up a better future for yourself
- Have fun and don't take life too seriously, especially in high school
- Study Girls Chase if you want to better understand girls and some aspects of social dynamics because it will save you a lot of time and get you a lot more girls!
- I suggest delete facebook/getting too involved with people because most of the people you have on there aren't your true friends. Just add your friends on your phone. It looks more attractive when someone doesn't have it because you're different, don't follow everyone else/what society tells you, it's respectable, and you look busier
- If you do have facebook, don't post a lot of crap like all the other guys and don't hit up girls on facebook. If a girl is into you and sending you messages, get her out but don't hit up all the cute girls and try to pick them up via facebook. It can be done, it's just more work and you may develop a reputation at school. Girls don't keep secrets well, so be discrete if you are doing this, and I don't think facebook is the way to go to accomplish this.
- In my opinion, pick up isn't the best idea in high school because it's hard when you go to school with the same girls for 4 years. Their attraction for you will be high when they first meet you then a lot of it will die out over time. If you're a freshman, it's a lot easier, but as you progress to higher grades, it gets tougher if you're around the same girls everyday. It's better to meet girls outside the classroom, and for that reason, I suggest you focus on improving things like your walk/speech and not so much on picking up girls at school. Chase has you covered on classroom game too
- After high school, the only people that you'll keep around are the ones who you care to have around and the ones that want you around. I only spend time with a few of my high school friends, a lot of them I lost touch with. On occasion, spend time with people who offer you a lot of value, be it someone you enjoy spending time with (which is who I spend time with because my friends aren't improvement oriented), or someone who is good at something you want to get better at. If they are good at something you want to get better at, I would suggest invest more time in these people because if they're successful at what you want to get good at, it can speed up the learning process quite a bit!
- If you work on your fundamentals, you'll get more attraction. If you act like you don't want a relationship (you can't fake this one), you'll get more attraction. Keep in mind things like that and all the high school girls will go crazy for you PUAJ!
Best of luck,
Garrett
1-Don't over-think popularity
2-Don't try to get a relationship
3-Concentrate on a skill
4-Avoid using facebook to hit on girls
5-Don't hit on girls in your class, unless in the beginning of the year (according to Chase's topic)
6-Get a job and a car
Correct me if I am wrong! Now I have two questions for you:
1-What will be the difference between me not approaching girls or the socially awkward introvert not approaching girls?
2-Can I use facebook to text girls without the intention of a relationship, just casual social bonding?