Advice for staying motivated in these times?

[jackal2020]

How do you stay motivated in these times? I've been doing a good bit of approaching -- I try for 50 a week -- but good God it is *exhausting*. Corona direct day game (NYC) in the cold is not forgiving.

It is harder to tell if a girl is cute with masks, there are significantly fewer IOIs than when unmasked, and logistics and setting up dates are endlessly complicated by COVID precautions.

I also fall short of that 50 a week sometimes, and that isn't a great feeling.

It's not like there are any other options right now, so that this is the only option (short of moving) gets me through. I also hope that things will feel much easier when life goes back to normal.

But, do you guys have tips or tricks to getting through these times in particular, and enduring the psychological ups and downs?

 

[DaVinciMatrixStyle]

What helps is to be proud that you're doing what noone else is doing. I always think of the why I'm doing a certain thing even though I hate it.

Why am I approaching?
Why am I practicing?

And I think of my future self (who I want to become) and what kind of pride I will have or the benefits of practicing game when I look back at my journey now versus if I don't do this what might happen to my life.

When I get stuck, I think about those whys and helps me get through.

 

[Starboy]

Hey man I admire your fortitude. I live in nyc too and when I struggle to approach it's similiar to the same reasons you list. Women always wearing masks can't really see their face, it's cold so you don't really wanna be out and women themselves might not be in the mood to chat when it's cold. Even if I did get a number I wouldn't be sure where to take them because there's less options.

Whenever I walk and look for women to talk to it's rare for me to find young women who I can give a genuine I think you're cute direct opener. Most of the time when I see a woman I like it's because i'm drawn to their bodies specifically their asses. But I don't know how to give them a direct opener based on that alone lol.

It's getting warmer in nyc so it won't be cold for long and women are probably gonna lower their masks and be more excited to be out and more receptive. Don't pressure yourself to do 50 in a week that's a lot and that could be why you lose motivation faster and burn out. Try to see every approach as a win even if you didn't close succesfully.
Covid vaccines are getting distributed here so I think this will improve the dating outlook in the city and the attitudes of women. Hopefully i'll get mine in the upcoming days just so I can get it over with.

 

[Skills]

All game types are much much harder across the board and more inconsistent, all of them, keep in mind there is a light at the end of the tunnel (i for example almost was going to quit cold approach i have been killing it on the field, my dick is about to fall off)... The good news is that corona is going away towards the end of the year and things may flip... If you are experiencing in your city "corona type problems" then you need to take it as "does not count period" and work on improving other aspects of your life such as fundamentals, grooming, style, fitness, money...

 

[DarkKnight]

I have the same problems ...mind you I envy you for living in New York with great amounts of traffic, I do not have that luxury. Since december or so I havent been able to do cold approach due to lockdown and super shitty weather. I have been gaining weight... and not feeling myself for quite some time. I know that visualisation exercises will help a bunch... however even that is difficult to maintain right now. We just have to rely on good old willpower.

 

[Skills]

I have the same problems ...mind you I envy you for living in New York with great amounts of traffic, I do not have that luxury. Since december or so I havent been able to do cold approach due to lockdown and super shitty weather. I have been gaining weight... and not feeling myself for quite some time. I know that visualisation exercises will help a bunch... however even that is difficult to maintain right now. We just have to rely on good old willpower.

instead of visualization and will power, how about you either stop gaining weight, or lose the weight and get in shape, so when the weather and the restrictions over you are in a better position to do pick up....

 

[DarkKnight]

instead of visualization and will power, how about you either stop gaining weight, or lose the weight and get in shape, so when the weather and the restrictions over you are in a better position to do pick up....

You are preaching to the choir Skills, I am already working on it and have even been training through wind/snow and rain. Literally. Despite some added fat, I am still very sharp physically and very muscular. But I did lose a lot of mojo due to barely any new encounters! Barely any momentum left.

Visualization helps with momentum and mojo, of this I am sure. But it is hard to persevere due to no new encounters/rewards

 

[Will_V]

A man must be able to be at peace in all kinds of situations, even when he is trapped. Remember the only thing you can truly control is your own mind, even your body will not always do what you want it to.

Momentum can be thwarted, but stillness and perception and intent cannot.

Sometimes when I feel like there are too many things going wrong and I can't or don't know how to control them, I meditate imagining myself trapped in a small room or with no ability to move my body, until my mind stops being restless and realizes that all fear and anxiety is simply a habit.

What I do then is find all the things I am capable of controlling, and improve them with discipline, savoring the experience:

- My body (gym/exercise)
- My mental state (meditation, sailing, reading, creative activities, learning something new).
- My productivity (work/business/fixing or repairing things)
- My relationships (family, any socializing incidental or otherwise).

Only when I am on an even keel with myself will I consider whether I can find or create opportunities to meet women to add the icing on an already quite satisfactory cake.