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Hi there, my name is Sam, I'm 26 and I'm new to this whole thing. I came across Chase's site a while back and I've read a lot of interesting things. And now, I am in need of some advice and guidance. Well, my story starts like this.
One and a half year ago, I met this girl Ana (19 yo), who is very beautiful and intelligent. We've casually talked online for a 2 months (kept things on a low), exchanged telephone numbers and kept on talking to eachother. After summer was over, she finally agreed to start dating. We kept dating casually for a couple of months, but she kept telling me she was coming from a bad breakup (which I know for a fact was a load of bullshit from her side) and she wasn't quite ready for a new relationship. Time went by, we kept on dating but after this period, she told me she got in a new relationship (which ended badly again for her). After hearing about her new relationship, I figured, well, her loss and stopped talking to her and ignored her for 4 months. After breaking up with that guy, she started talking to me yet again (NC really does wonders
). We started dating again and after a while, we were together. Everything was going so well, but I started to fall for her, pretty fast and pretty hard and I was kinda emotionally broken after my last relationship. While being together for a couple of weeks, she wanted to break things off with me, donno why. She didn't like one of my girl friends at all, so I guessed, why not use my friend to my advantage? So the next day after the breakup, I went out with this girl she didn't like at all and didn't approve. 2 days passed, my plan worked and we were back together. After another 1 and a half month with her, I started feeling clingy and needy (this was my mistake, I now know I shouldn't have done that) which led us to split up again. I tried talking to her but it was all in vain. So I guessed, well, this is it. I put her yet again in NC, which I knew does wonders to her. While she was in NC, she took all the occasions to comment on my pictures on instagram, facebook, you name it. She then started to talk to me, again. This time, she tried to befriend me, and I shut her off by saying we can't be friends as long as we have feelings and care for eachother still (she said it herself she cares for me deeply). Then I put her in NC again and in the mean time, I started to get back to my old self, self centered, putting my needs first (removed the neediness and clingyness, stopped posting anything on social networks). We saw eachother at a party but I kept my cool and didn't go talk to her, showing her I had lots of fun and I was genuinly happy.
Now, after all of this, she kept on trying to talk to me and I started talking to her, but in a friendly manner, showing her that I removed all the stuff that lead to the breakup. 3 days ago, out of the blue, she says she misses me. I didn't respond in the same fashion as her and asked her what is she going to do about that. She casually replied 'You'll see'. I stopped being there for her all the time, took more time for myself and stopped replying to her or ignored her on occasion. Yesterday, she did it again, she told me she misses me a lot and she wants to meet with me again. Anyways, I really like this girl and I'd love to get her back, is she trying to tell me that she wants to be back togheter? And if so, how do I win her over again? When she'll want to see me, I'm going to try to be a little distant, see what she does.
One and a half year ago, I met this girl Ana (19 yo), who is very beautiful and intelligent. We've casually talked online for a 2 months (kept things on a low), exchanged telephone numbers and kept on talking to eachother. After summer was over, she finally agreed to start dating. We kept dating casually for a couple of months, but she kept telling me she was coming from a bad breakup (which I know for a fact was a load of bullshit from her side) and she wasn't quite ready for a new relationship. Time went by, we kept on dating but after this period, she told me she got in a new relationship (which ended badly again for her). After hearing about her new relationship, I figured, well, her loss and stopped talking to her and ignored her for 4 months. After breaking up with that guy, she started talking to me yet again (NC really does wonders
). We started dating again and after a while, we were together. Everything was going so well, but I started to fall for her, pretty fast and pretty hard and I was kinda emotionally broken after my last relationship. While being together for a couple of weeks, she wanted to break things off with me, donno why. She didn't like one of my girl friends at all, so I guessed, why not use my friend to my advantage? So the next day after the breakup, I went out with this girl she didn't like at all and didn't approve. 2 days passed, my plan worked and we were back together. After another 1 and a half month with her, I started feeling clingy and needy (this was my mistake, I now know I shouldn't have done that) which led us to split up again. I tried talking to her but it was all in vain. So I guessed, well, this is it. I put her yet again in NC, which I knew does wonders to her. While she was in NC, she took all the occasions to comment on my pictures on instagram, facebook, you name it. She then started to talk to me, again. This time, she tried to befriend me, and I shut her off by saying we can't be friends as long as we have feelings and care for eachother still (she said it herself she cares for me deeply). Then I put her in NC again and in the mean time, I started to get back to my old self, self centered, putting my needs first (removed the neediness and clingyness, stopped posting anything on social networks). We saw eachother at a party but I kept my cool and didn't go talk to her, showing her I had lots of fun and I was genuinly happy.Now, after all of this, she kept on trying to talk to me and I started talking to her, but in a friendly manner, showing her that I removed all the stuff that lead to the breakup. 3 days ago, out of the blue, she says she misses me. I didn't respond in the same fashion as her and asked her what is she going to do about that. She casually replied 'You'll see'. I stopped being there for her all the time, took more time for myself and stopped replying to her or ignored her on occasion. Yesterday, she did it again, she told me she misses me a lot and she wants to meet with me again. Anyways, I really like this girl and I'd love to get her back, is she trying to tell me that she wants to be back togheter? And if so, how do I win her over again? When she'll want to see me, I'm going to try to be a little distant, see what she does.
