Advice on getting women who aren't over their ex

[kalyan]

I've been in quite a few situations where a girl who I've been talking for some time suddenly tells me she isn't over her ex yet; previously, I'd be so invested in her that I'd feel so bad about it, not i know better to invest emotionally in such a girl.
I don't know if this is related, but these girls have been relatively easy to attract, but slow to escalate with (they text a lot and avoid going out). And finally, they admit to me: they still talk to their ex in hopes of getting back, and habitually tell me they've had a massive fight and they're never talking again ever... for a short while.
So advice #1 is not to expect much from these women, that I know.
But what is actually needed to get these girls free of their ex obsession? How would you act if they finally admit to you they're still talking to their ex?

 

[normajean106]

You can't force a girl to like you if that's what you're asking.

It sucks that she's doing this, but she's just going to drag you down if you chase after her. Just move on to someone else who will actually give you the time of day.

I mean, do you really want an emotionally unstable girl who still has feelings for their ex to be your girlfriend?

Well, do what you want. If you're gonna get her, then you're gonna have to chase frame and make sure you are a guy of high value. Then wait it out until she comes around to you.

Like I said though, you can't force a girl to be into you.

 

[normajean106]

Kaylan,

Honestly, it sounds like you are moving things too fast. She should be the one who moves the relationship forward after you lay her.

Ideally it looks like: you meet her, lay her, continue ur setting up dates where you lay her and give her orgasms every time with no other expectations for between 1-3 months no more than once or twice a week with no in between contact. If she's still getting over an ex, it may be 3-6 months. At some point, after consistent dates and orgasms she will want to see you more, become exclusive, talk more etc... If she feels you are pressuring her to move forward in the relationship she will give you an excuse like "I'm not over my ex" which may or may not be true or a factor. If she really likes you she may not be over her ex but she won't tell you because she won't want to give you red flags.

Slow down and you won't have this problem.

Radeng

Yeah, but dude, he hasn't laid her.