Advice on going out/hitting the bar scene alone

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

So guys, from the months of June to July I will be back in my college town taking a summer class to finish up graduation and it is an easy class as well. From what guys have told me about that time period is that it can turn into something very favorable. Summer time means the gender ratios in the bar are amazing, girls are bored, the social cliques that exist throughout the year do not exist as tightly, and it can lead to guys who girls otherwise wouldn't sleep with getting laid.

My issue is that I don't have any friends to hit the bar scene with so I was wondering what I do here. Do I keep going out alone and ignore the fact that I will be at bars alone or what? I heard it is easier to get laid when you go out with a group of guys.

 

[Mr.Rob]

I heard it is easier to get laid when you go out with a group of guys.

Where did you hear this from?

Every time I pull a girl I always ditch the friends I'm with anyway and make her ditch hers too. You're not going to bring your/her friends with you to watch yall have sex anyway.

As far as your situation goes if you're going to be worried about not having someone to go out with it shouldn't be too hard to find one person that isn't a complete chode that will accompany you to a bar without being a social burden.

If you live in a bigger city go join PUA forums and meet up with a wing.

If you want a natural friend go to social activities, make some friends, and propose that you guys go romp the town, have some beers, and pull some girls (afterparty at your place or some shit).

If you do go out by yourself then play it off as not a big deal.

When I turned 21 I went about by myself HARD (meeting 10-20 girls in a night often times in a small city) and a lot of people knew me. Work your state up to be FUN, have FUN with the people around you, and approach hot girls you want to fuck. TO hell with peoples opinion of you! Some people will think it's weird you came out alone. Others will think you are awesome and a badass mother fucker (which you are).

just DONT be the weird loner approach guy that nurses his drink, watches the crowd have fun, and then peel off occasionally to talk to a girl. (though I still do that sometimes haha)

Have fun by yourself and bring it to other people (and women). Don't try and weasel your way into other peoples party to start having fun!

Good luck

-Rob

 

[Bboy100]

I literally just started going out alone in my small town too. Honestly, I much prefer it.
When I go out alone, I have very clear goals for the night: Ex. Approach x number of women. Or Request x number of phone numbers. Or Tease x number of girls in a playful way. Or w.e. For me, this is a lot easier to do alone. Because I'm out there, I have a goal, I have no excuses for why I'm not talking to girls. And honestly, I feel super lame if I'm just sitting there..alone...doing nothing. So that's extra motivation for me to jump on it.

If I'm with my friends, I often tend to lean back on "Oh, I'm here with my friends right now, not to pickup girls" as an excuse. Furthermore, you'll often end up driving with your friends which can make logistics all the more difficult.

Going out alone is no big deal. Its more of a mental block than anything else.

Here are a few articles on the topic as well:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/tacti ... meet-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/going ... t-yourself

 

[Lotus]

I've done this a couple times on vacations and it's been awesome but I haven't done it around town. Going to make this a goal of mine in the next month.

 

[PinotNoir]

The most daunting thing is of course the isolation you'll feel, the social pressure. The key is to remember that most people are so engrossed with their own groups that no one is ever judging some dude out alone.

Key things:

1) Social Momentum. When first go to a bar, sit down and have a conversation with the bartender and any guys (or girls) near you. Guys will be easier to talk with initially. Just keep the momentum going. In fact, after talking with a guy, you two may even be able to wing for each other (it's happened for me). Keep talking to new people. Ask them how their night is or what they're drinking. (You can even lie and tell them you're new in town.)

2) Multiple Bars. Make sure you go to at least 2 bars, preferably 3, in one night. Use the first place as kind of a warm-up and getting your feet wet. Then after a while walk to the next place.

3) Street Game. This is so invaluable. When you walk between bars, try hitting up some girls on the street. It's a lot less unnerving (if you fail, no one is around to see). In fact, at the end of the night, just walk around the street for a bit.

I think these are the 3 keys for beginners, and of course, read any GC articles on the subject. Good luck, mate.

 

[PinotNoir]

I should also probably mention a couple of other things.

1) If you become a regular at a place and are friendly and tip well, this can sometimes lean in your favor, as you'll appear to have some level of authority. I recommend having at least 1 bar that you go to regularly. (Read the GC article on authority.)

2) Make sure to read GC articles on how to spot if a girl wants to be approached (looking around, legs facing out, acting aloof, etc.) and of course everything on how to approach, looks, etc. This is just going to make it so much easier.

3) Great replies to my thread here on tackling groups. I think Chase wrote some articles on approaching groups as well, if I'm not mistaken.

EDIT: Make sure to have fun Try new openers. Pretend to have some different dumb job ("I wash seals for a living at the local zoo."). If you make it fun, you'll just want to keep doing it.