Advice to guys who are in it just for the validation and not love?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I am one of those guys though to a much lesser extent now and I have to say that stubbornness comes with it. Guys in the past have told me to be more "open minded" but I hate hearing that, in fact when I hear that it is almost like I feel that other guys are trying to stop me from going after the kind of women I want. I exclusively go for white women these days even though I am a Korean American guy, there are reasons for my preferences. For one, I find that Asian American women are far too bitter and hate themselves so much that they are racist against their own race of men, not dealing with that at all. It is like I find that even though a mixed race girl, latina, or middle eastern girl would make me much happier sexually, I have to get a white girl due to what I have been through. When I was growing up in Louisiana, a guy of my background could not date a white girl as easily and there was a lot of racism going on. The good looking white girls you saw in that state were not open to mixing it up with other races and anything that was foreign was seen as plainly undesirable. Now when I am in a liberal area, I feel the need to go after the kind of girls who have been denied to me by society. I am not sure if anyone has been through something like this before but I have this powerful craze for white girls to where I go after them exclusively. Only difference now is that I have a lot more success with them than I have had before.

As for the blondes thing, I am not saying all blondes are cold but on average I find that what is being said about blondes being stuck up is very true. Just this past weekend I went to a bar and there were two women there sitting around, one was Mexican while the other was her attractive blonde friend. The Mexican girl was all into me but when I tried to talk to the blonde she practically ignored me. I have experienced it so many times at social events, bars, clubs, and even in cold approaches where when a blonde is in a group with other kinds of women she will be the one who is a total ice queen and practically a cunt. I have yet to meet a blonde that looked good and was a good person as well, most are rude and it is almost like they take pleasure off of making guys feel like shit. Not going to stop me from bedding some of them though and I will keep trying but that is what I have found to be true. Complete opposite of a black or mexican girl who will be the first to greet you and even escalate with you if given the chance.

 

[Anonymous]

I'm not going to sugarcoat this.

You are what you believe.

If you believe getting "white blonde girls" is difficult, that they are stuck up, ice queens… then of course it will be true. Because you believe it. And you're creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. She will feel your weakness, your lack of masculinity.

Now that doesn't mean that you'll never meet difficult women, or women who are cold, or whatnot, but with that kind of mentality, you're already setting yourself up for failure. If your frame is strong, and you honestly don't give a damn about whether she thinks she's the shit or not, your belief and the vibe you project will overpower hers. This doesn't happen all the time, but with a number of women who have preconceptions against certain types of men/ are bitchy/ etc, a man who has a strong identity and frame, who honestly doesn't give a shit about her small-minded opinions, can break her out of her pattern of thinking.

But this has to be genuine. You have to truly not give a shit. You have to have rock-solid belief. Not confidence. Belief.