What's up gang!
This shall become my take on the Newbie Assignment. After mulling over it for over half a decade, here I finally post it in a public forum, mostly due to the fact that now, unlike ever before, I viscerally feel ready, and because when I say I will do something, I must do it, so posting it publicly increases the chance that I will indeed follow through with this.
I have tried to realize the full 14 days a couple of times before, but I chickened out every time, such as last summer a couple of times as well as in April and in May this year, as well as numerous times over the past years.
Before I commence talking about my reasons for wanting to start the NA, let me start by giving you some background information on myself.
I'm "Aeroz" (aer = air; eros = love; a Z for shitz and gigglez), 28 years of age and was born and raised in a North Germanic country. Appearance wise I'm bald and bespectacled and not stereotypically Nordic-looking at all, as I'm only 5'6" tall and not blond (as blond as bald can be). I maintain quite good posture though and my attire is somewhat conspicuous for the German city in which I reside, so I am used to receiving regular attention from strangers of both sexes and of any age, while I cannot say that my face is any prettier than the average German man's mug.
Around the age of 10 I began spending most of my free time behind a computer screen and my hobbies weren't awfully social either, so I pretty much skipped the typical socialization of my compatriots, which led to my remaining kiss and sexless until I turned 18, when I was seduced by a very outgoing African classmate. I stayed with her for about a year until I jumped ship: "rather alone forever than a day longer with her!", I thought. She nastily abused my kindness and lack of girl experience.
While my subconscious mind had started picking up on girl's interest and approach invitations as a pre-teen, I never admitted to myself that they were real. Thankfully, I started to regularly read Girls Chase shortly after my breakup, while still in my (very) late teens, so at least some of my ideas about women and social dynamics was repaired. Unfortunately I did not utilize the material on Girls Chase with real girls…
Fast forward three years after my breakup and there I am, "alone forever". Thanks to a certain somebody, though, my subconscious said this had to change: a very beautiful fellow student had given me some signs of interest and thus finally aroused the male in me… but unfortunately I only asked her out on a date months after her giving me the "look". Nonetheless, at the age of 22 we finally have my first ever date request! So much for that, though, as she might never have rejected me outright, but she dodged my invitations for months on end until I left her be. It was never awkward between us though, thankfully, even many years later, as I never took her soft rejections personally (surely I have GirlsChase to thank for that).
A year later came my second date request: a casual acquaintance through social circle – she was receptive and met me within a few days, but I didn't push forward. Shortly thereafter I started feeling like a pussy for not having pushed forward so I "auto-rejected".
Around half a year after my second request, almost five years after having broken up with my only kiss and sexual partner until then, I asked out a colleague, a slender head-taller-than-me blonde of my age, and came together with her. This angel of a human being and I were inseparable for over three years, until I had to let her go to find herself a baby daddy … obviously I had to, for she'd be playing the lottery with her remaining ova if she'd stayed with me.
After the big breakup I met a couple of fellow students who seemingly wanted to have sex with me.
One girl tried to organize a wine tasting at her place. I felt obliged to make something happen so on one occasion I proceeded so far as ending up naked with her in bed, but my "cold feet" completely killed my boner and I happily went to sleep without having tried to make sex happen. She of course was dejected but I didn't care as I felt cheated for her trying to seduce me (I'm mad, no?). Another girl had me alone at her place after her friends had left and propositioned me directly for sex … I said no outright and directly went home.
Interestingly, I didn't regret any of the ejections! I guess it was due to my low sex drive … or maybe I myself just need to be the chaser? Time will tell.
Anyway, why the Newbie Assignment? Why now? A couple of reasons…
While I honestly am quite fine with being alone and not having sex, (five years between girlfriends, no problem; nine months sexless currently, no problem), I am absolutely in love with meeting the eyes of a girl who is somewhat or very interested in me. It feels like nothing else in the world. I have had such things happen far too often to admit (mostly with strangers), as I only once have made something happen after such a moment (my latter ex-girlfriend). Same with seeing girls' eyes from up close during or before making out. Though a part of me wants to make something happen with interested girls out of obligation – as in they are doing their part of showing their interest so I should, in case I like the look of the girl, do my part by showing her I like her too by … sexing her … out of respect – I am sure I myself would also be delighted to get together with girls I like the look of.
In the past weeks I have very regularly caught girls of roughly "my type" (usually blonde, tall, slim, and wide-hipped … and cute – sounds like a Nordic girl, no? oh, the irony) meekly or confidently staring at me, and due to not knowing what to do with their apparent attraction, which makes me absolutely mad, I feel more energy forcing me toward the Newbie Assignment and what would or will follow it.
Another reason I want to start the NA now is skill. From time to time I meet much younger guys who run circles around me socially and seduction-ally, which doesn't please my ego. Also, girls I'd be interested in, those between 18 and 25 years of age, notice that I am somewhat odd for a seemingly attractive and well put together fella in his late twenties, and thus they usually lose interest in me after I open my mouth … which must stop!!
Still another reason is giving back. Chase has been writing articles on his webpage since 2008 and has contributed a lot to this forum and the comment sections under his articles. Despite my having been an avid reader of his for over eight years, I have neither contributed to his community nor financially supported his business, so I'd like to start by finally … at the very least … following the Newbie Assignment to the letter.
These days I'm residing in a middle-sized German city where I'm working on a postgraduate performance arts degree. The situation here is similarly dire to how it is in most other regions … thanks to our politicians. Very many private businesses are dead or dying and people are more skittish than before … so consequently the girls here are more wary than in the past years but surely hornier and lonelier than ever before as well. Practically, that means I doubt I'll have much luck or space to practice my girls-getting skills in bars and clubs (I'm not even sure whether they're open at all), so the Newbie Assignment, which is tailored to meeting girls outside of meet|meat markets, such as the street and at stations of public transport, is exactly what I should be going through.
My Newbie Assignment will be comprised of two phases:
Phase One: Exposure Therapy / Embarrassment Therapy (as inspired by Chase's answer to "ChandlerBing" in his article "Tactics Tuesdays: How to Isolate a Girl Away from Her Friends": Chase: "As for shame and embarrassment... I only got past it by embarrassing myself as much as possible."). Between June 17 and June 26, I will approach anybody, and say something stupid or slightly mean. "Sorry, these trousers don't look good on you", "It doesn't seem like it's your day today…", walking up to a stranger as if I knew them and saying "heeeeyyy [random German name] how's it going?", and if the opportunity arises, such as if they say "my name is not [random German name I used]!", my saying, seriously and disappointedly, "why not?? ". Or anything else I come up with.
Why such an Embarrassment Therapy? I've very often tried to say "hi!" to random girls or any stranger for that matter. I've rarely managed to open my mouth and if I have, I've usually only managed to mumble or whisper "hi!", and never to girls or dudes for that matter, only to older people. I am very aware that I am subconsciously extremely, extremely afraid of strangers' opinions of my "performance" in public. A mean little comment to a stranger would be an achievement in and of itself for me and dealing with strangers' potential wrath (see how afraid I am?) after such a comment would teach me a lot about myself.
It's true, the Newbie Assignment is structured as an exposure therapy of sorts, but I would like to prepare myself for it so as to be able to accomplish all 14 days and use that achievement as a confidence and testosterone booster for the upcoming summer … as opposed to being demoralized due to having failed it for the umpteenth time. Thus I must try to address at least five strangers every day and utter something uncomfortable or mean to them, for otherwise I'll have to sleep on the street.
Phase Two: The true Newbie Assignment. To be incepted on June 26. I am working on a large studential project which should be finished by the aforementioned date, and until then I will have found at least fifty strange people to help me reduce my anxiety of addressing strangers.
If, or more positively when, I finish the NA successfully, I'd like to purchase Chase's book and journal twelve weeks (as per Chase's recommendation based on Bill Phillip's book Body for Life) of how I work myself through it.
I am fully aware that this is a huge wall of text and that I haven't actually done anything until now. You don't know me personally and my track record states that I'm not a man of action, so most readers will probably think to themselves "still another guy who's all talk, oh no here we go!", and rightly so. Consequently it'll be more fun for me if I'll end up proving them wrong.
If you've made it until here, I'd like to thank you for your attention and wish you all the best for now!
Until tomorrow,
Aeroz
PS: To produce more "force of accountability" from your prying eyes dear gentlemen, here is the schedule of my ET and NA:
This shall become my take on the Newbie Assignment. After mulling over it for over half a decade, here I finally post it in a public forum, mostly due to the fact that now, unlike ever before, I viscerally feel ready, and because when I say I will do something, I must do it, so posting it publicly increases the chance that I will indeed follow through with this.
I have tried to realize the full 14 days a couple of times before, but I chickened out every time, such as last summer a couple of times as well as in April and in May this year, as well as numerous times over the past years.
Before I commence talking about my reasons for wanting to start the NA, let me start by giving you some background information on myself.
I'm "Aeroz" (aer = air; eros = love; a Z for shitz and gigglez), 28 years of age and was born and raised in a North Germanic country. Appearance wise I'm bald and bespectacled and not stereotypically Nordic-looking at all, as I'm only 5'6" tall and not blond (as blond as bald can be). I maintain quite good posture though and my attire is somewhat conspicuous for the German city in which I reside, so I am used to receiving regular attention from strangers of both sexes and of any age, while I cannot say that my face is any prettier than the average German man's mug.
Around the age of 10 I began spending most of my free time behind a computer screen and my hobbies weren't awfully social either, so I pretty much skipped the typical socialization of my compatriots, which led to my remaining kiss and sexless until I turned 18, when I was seduced by a very outgoing African classmate. I stayed with her for about a year until I jumped ship: "rather alone forever than a day longer with her!", I thought. She nastily abused my kindness and lack of girl experience.
While my subconscious mind had started picking up on girl's interest and approach invitations as a pre-teen, I never admitted to myself that they were real. Thankfully, I started to regularly read Girls Chase shortly after my breakup, while still in my (very) late teens, so at least some of my ideas about women and social dynamics was repaired. Unfortunately I did not utilize the material on Girls Chase with real girls…
Fast forward three years after my breakup and there I am, "alone forever". Thanks to a certain somebody, though, my subconscious said this had to change: a very beautiful fellow student had given me some signs of interest and thus finally aroused the male in me… but unfortunately I only asked her out on a date months after her giving me the "look". Nonetheless, at the age of 22 we finally have my first ever date request! So much for that, though, as she might never have rejected me outright, but she dodged my invitations for months on end until I left her be. It was never awkward between us though, thankfully, even many years later, as I never took her soft rejections personally (surely I have GirlsChase to thank for that).
A year later came my second date request: a casual acquaintance through social circle – she was receptive and met me within a few days, but I didn't push forward. Shortly thereafter I started feeling like a pussy for not having pushed forward so I "auto-rejected".
Around half a year after my second request, almost five years after having broken up with my only kiss and sexual partner until then, I asked out a colleague, a slender head-taller-than-me blonde of my age, and came together with her. This angel of a human being and I were inseparable for over three years, until I had to let her go to find herself a baby daddy … obviously I had to, for she'd be playing the lottery with her remaining ova if she'd stayed with me.
After the big breakup I met a couple of fellow students who seemingly wanted to have sex with me.
One girl tried to organize a wine tasting at her place. I felt obliged to make something happen so on one occasion I proceeded so far as ending up naked with her in bed, but my "cold feet" completely killed my boner and I happily went to sleep without having tried to make sex happen. She of course was dejected but I didn't care as I felt cheated for her trying to seduce me (I'm mad, no?). Another girl had me alone at her place after her friends had left and propositioned me directly for sex … I said no outright and directly went home.
Interestingly, I didn't regret any of the ejections! I guess it was due to my low sex drive … or maybe I myself just need to be the chaser? Time will tell.
Anyway, why the Newbie Assignment? Why now? A couple of reasons…
While I honestly am quite fine with being alone and not having sex, (five years between girlfriends, no problem; nine months sexless currently, no problem), I am absolutely in love with meeting the eyes of a girl who is somewhat or very interested in me. It feels like nothing else in the world. I have had such things happen far too often to admit (mostly with strangers), as I only once have made something happen after such a moment (my latter ex-girlfriend). Same with seeing girls' eyes from up close during or before making out. Though a part of me wants to make something happen with interested girls out of obligation – as in they are doing their part of showing their interest so I should, in case I like the look of the girl, do my part by showing her I like her too by … sexing her … out of respect – I am sure I myself would also be delighted to get together with girls I like the look of.
In the past weeks I have very regularly caught girls of roughly "my type" (usually blonde, tall, slim, and wide-hipped … and cute – sounds like a Nordic girl, no? oh, the irony) meekly or confidently staring at me, and due to not knowing what to do with their apparent attraction, which makes me absolutely mad, I feel more energy forcing me toward the Newbie Assignment and what would or will follow it.Another reason I want to start the NA now is skill. From time to time I meet much younger guys who run circles around me socially and seduction-ally, which doesn't please my ego. Also, girls I'd be interested in, those between 18 and 25 years of age, notice that I am somewhat odd for a seemingly attractive and well put together fella in his late twenties, and thus they usually lose interest in me after I open my mouth … which must stop!!
Still another reason is giving back. Chase has been writing articles on his webpage since 2008 and has contributed a lot to this forum and the comment sections under his articles. Despite my having been an avid reader of his for over eight years, I have neither contributed to his community nor financially supported his business, so I'd like to start by finally … at the very least … following the Newbie Assignment to the letter.
These days I'm residing in a middle-sized German city where I'm working on a postgraduate performance arts degree. The situation here is similarly dire to how it is in most other regions … thanks to our politicians. Very many private businesses are dead or dying and people are more skittish than before … so consequently the girls here are more wary than in the past years but surely hornier and lonelier than ever before as well. Practically, that means I doubt I'll have much luck or space to practice my girls-getting skills in bars and clubs (I'm not even sure whether they're open at all), so the Newbie Assignment, which is tailored to meeting girls outside of meet|meat markets, such as the street and at stations of public transport, is exactly what I should be going through.
My Newbie Assignment will be comprised of two phases:
Phase One: Exposure Therapy / Embarrassment Therapy (as inspired by Chase's answer to "ChandlerBing" in his article "Tactics Tuesdays: How to Isolate a Girl Away from Her Friends": Chase: "As for shame and embarrassment... I only got past it by embarrassing myself as much as possible."). Between June 17 and June 26, I will approach anybody, and say something stupid or slightly mean. "Sorry, these trousers don't look good on you", "It doesn't seem like it's your day today…", walking up to a stranger as if I knew them and saying "heeeeyyy [random German name] how's it going?
", and if the opportunity arises, such as if they say "my name is not [random German name I used]!", my saying, seriously and disappointedly, "why not?? ". Or anything else I come up with.Why such an Embarrassment Therapy? I've very often tried to say "hi!" to random girls or any stranger for that matter. I've rarely managed to open my mouth and if I have, I've usually only managed to mumble or whisper "hi!", and never to girls or dudes for that matter, only to older people. I am very aware that I am subconsciously extremely, extremely afraid of strangers' opinions of my "performance" in public. A mean little comment to a stranger would be an achievement in and of itself for me and dealing with strangers' potential wrath (see how afraid I am?) after such a comment would teach me a lot about myself.
It's true, the Newbie Assignment is structured as an exposure therapy of sorts, but I would like to prepare myself for it so as to be able to accomplish all 14 days and use that achievement as a confidence and testosterone booster for the upcoming summer … as opposed to being demoralized due to having failed it for the umpteenth time. Thus I must try to address at least five strangers every day and utter something uncomfortable or mean to them, for otherwise I'll have to sleep on the street.
Phase Two: The true Newbie Assignment. To be incepted on June 26. I am working on a large studential project which should be finished by the aforementioned date, and until then I will have found at least fifty strange people to help me reduce my anxiety of addressing strangers.
If, or more positively when, I finish the NA successfully, I'd like to purchase Chase's book and journal twelve weeks (as per Chase's recommendation based on Bill Phillip's book Body for Life) of how I work myself through it.
I am fully aware that this is a huge wall of text and that I haven't actually done anything until now. You don't know me personally and my track record states that I'm not a man of action, so most readers will probably think to themselves "still another guy who's all talk, oh no here we go!", and rightly so. Consequently it'll be more fun for me if I'll end up proving them wrong.
If you've made it until here, I'd like to thank you for your attention and wish you all the best for now!
Until tomorrow,
Aeroz
PS: To produce more "force of accountability" from your prying eyes dear gentlemen, here is the schedule of my ET and NA:
- June 17: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 18: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 19: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 20: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 21: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 22: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 23: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 24: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 25: annoy ≥five strangers
- June 26: annoy ≥five strangers; scout for ≥four locations at which to find attractive girls to approach
- June 27: walk around the city with impeccable posture and observe my fellow citizens' postures
- June 28: stare at ≥ten strangers
- June 29: say "hi" to ≥six attractive women
- June 30: say "hi, how's your day going?" to ≥six attractive babes
- July 1: induce rejections in ≥three attractive ladies
- July 2: genuinely compliment ≥four attractive birds
- July 3: approach ≥two attractive lasses who're sitting down
- July 4: approach ≥two attractive chicks while waiting for public transport
- July 5: ask ≥four attractive vixens whether they're single
- July 6: stroll around the city with as sexy a walk as possible
- July 7: try out the "indirect direct" approach with ≥four attractive gals
- July 8: work on some banter with ≥four attractive females
- July 9: ask for a phone number from ≥four attractive damsels
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